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More useless platitudes spewed by normalfags.
Self-esteem is (especially in the most crucial periods of its formation) always dependent on the resonance of others, it needs resonance to form. Having self-esteem without an empirical basis serving as its justification is correctly identified as hubris, the resonance serves as the empirical prove of one's abilities. Especially because trusting yourself can often lead to undesirable results either by an underestimation or overestimation of one's abilities due to a bias that everyone has to a certain degree when it comes to personal evaluation - most of the time these beliefs are then brutally smashed when suddenly someone judges these abilities in a real/honest way.

Just fucking lol, no person exists in a vacuum - and every person bases his own value in the judgement/thoughts of others.
No matter whether they are contrarians and deliberately choose to rebel agains the rules of a society due to despising its current set of values (and wanting to see shock in the eyes of the representatives of the social order they despise by doing so) or whether they are complete conformers/human doormats - the reaction of others is always what they want, be it in a positive way or negative way. No person is truly unaffected by the judgement of others - neither the conformer nor the rebel without a cause.
And even someone who has had an empirical basis for believing in his own abilities in the past can become distrustful of them when too much unwanted responses come in - after a series of failures even an experienced doctor will start to question his own abilities for example. No "real" self-esteem can exist/can be maintained without positive reinforcement from others (if it exists without it normalfags call it arrogance/hubris anyways). And still that retarded platitude comes up all the time, literally "Become an Übermensch who doesn't care about social validition, bro!" - literally nobody is able to do that.
 
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We're all products of our experiences. So, even we "don't base our self esteem on the opinions of others" consciously, we do it subconsciously.


Also, when Nietzsche coined the term Übermensch, he also stated that it's an ideal that we should strive to but it doesn't really exist irl.
 
"Become an Übermensch who doesn't care about social validition, bro
Society hates dangerous free minded autists. ER considered himself to be amazing even though he had no external validation to back it up. He loved himself and did what he wanted to do even though it was illegal.
 
We're all products of our experiences. So, even we "don't base our self esteem on the opinions of others" consciously, we do it subconsciously.
Extremely high IQ and extremely well put. Based and laconic.
Society hates dangerous free minded autists. ER considered himself to be amazing even though he had no external validation to back it up. He loved himself and did what he wanted to do even though it was illegal.
This tbh.
 
goof self esteem = positive social reinforcement

bad self esteem = negative social reinforcement

i wish parents' had realized this simple concept and stopped spewing bluepilled nonsense.

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Society hates dangerous free minded autists. ER considered himself to be amazing even though he had no external validation to back it up. He loved himself and did what he wanted to do even though it was illegal.
If you base your self esteem solely on your view of yourself they'd call you a narcissist. There's really no winning.
 
normie advice was never meant to help you, it is their way of imposing their superiority by making you feel bad. i'd venture to say that most foid suicides are because of a shattered self esteem (this was even the case in ancient times, in 570BC some poet called Sappho threw herself off a cliff because she was rejected by chad lol)
 
goof self esteem = positive social reinforcement

bad self esteem = negative social reinforcement

i wish parents' had realized this simple concept and stopped spewing bluepilled nonsense.

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hahahahaha thats you bro and thats your mom LOL
 
TLDR: Social validation is an important component of happiness and well-being, those who are incels receive little to no social validation
 
Normies would laugh at a guy who is confident the next goal he shoots will score after having attempted it 10000 times, yet they expect us to be confident when we have received in our lives comical amounts of validation that confirms we are human beings worthy of love.
 
Normies would laugh at a guy who is confident the next goal he shoots will score after having attempted it 10000 times, yet they expect us to be confident when we have received in our lives comical amounts of validation that confirms we are human beings worthy of love.
Women hate ugly men with confidence
 
cant help but kek loudly whenever i hear the self esteem shit irl
 
goof self esteem = positive social reinforcement

bad self esteem = negative social reinforcement

i wish parents' had realized this simple concept and stopped spewing bluepilled nonsense.

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TLDR: Social validation is an important component of happiness and well-being, those who are incels receive little to no social validation
On point tbh.
Normies would laugh at a guy who is confident the next goal he shoots will score after having attempted it 10000 times, yet they expect us to be confident when we have received in our lives comical amounts of validation that confirms we are human beings worthy of love.
 
Normie advice is and will always be hot garbage. Even if you somehow overcome the others' opinion you'll still have to deal with two problems;
1.It's all about reputation. If you don't have a decent one you're as good as fucked regardless of what you think of yourself, this is such a common yet lesser known fact that normies seem to overlook. People will also rarely change their opinion about you even if they notice a change in behaviour, I say this because I've tried hard in the past to do so yet it didn't matter.
2. Most people who actually follow such advice are either delusional to the point of being detached from reality or straight up dismissed as obnoxious narcissists.

At the end, it amounts to nothing. If people don't give you validation there's no point in trying to fool yourself if things aren't going your way, the race is already lost and your life won't get magically better just because you happened to change the way you think.
 
More useless platitudes spewed by normalfags.
Self-esteem is (especially in the most crucial periods of its formation) always dependent on the resonance of others, it needs resonance to form. Having self-esteem without an empirical basis serving as its justification is correctly identified as hubris, the resonance serves as the empirical prove of one's abilities. Especially because trusting yourself can often lead to undesirable results either by an underestimation or overestimation of one's abilities due to a bias that everyone has to a certain degree when it comes to personal evaluation - most of the time these beliefs are then brutally smashed when suddenly someone judges these abilities in a real/honest way.

Just fucking lol, no person exists in a vacuum - and every person bases his own value in the judgement/thoughts of others.
No matter whether they are contrarians and deliberately choose to rebel agains the rules of a society due to despising its current set of values (and wanting to see shock in the eyes of the representatives of the social order they despise by doing so) or whether they are complete conformers/human doormats - the reaction of others is always what they want, be it in a positive way or negative way. No person is truly unaffected by the judgement of others - neither the conformer nor the rebel without a cause.
And even someone who has had an empirical basis for believing in his own abilities in the past can become distrustful of them when too much unwanted responses come in - after a series of failures even an experienced doctor will start to question his own abilities for example. No "real" self-esteem can exist/can be maintained without positive reinforcement from others (if it exists without it normalfags call it arrogance/hubris anyways). And still that retarded platitude comes up all the time, literally "Become an Übermensch who doesn't care about social validition, bro!" - literally nobody is able to do that.
stoicism is fucking retarded and gay normalfag self-help gurus like david goggins thinks destroying your body is self improvement because muh pain keeps me goin n sheit he fucking runs until his fucking toenails fall off and his kidneys bleeding

he destroyed his knees from running just fucking lol


View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KFRcYItRR2o
 
stoicism is fucking retarded and gay normalfag self-help gurus like david goggins thinks destroying your body is self improvement because muh pain keeps me goin n sheit he fucking runs until his fucking toenails fall off and his kidneys bleeding

he destroyed his knees from running just fucking lol


View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KFRcYItRR2o

Completely sick, jfl @ the entire notion of that and even if self-improvement worked the traits would become so common that they wouldn't matter for women anyways - if everyone has a trait, nobody has it in the eyes of women, it becomes the bare minimum and not something to be proud of/something that makes you stand out then.

In a society mostly populated by chads they would go for gigachad only and chad would become the betabux or even incel, what's important is what is available, pathological self-impro(o)ving is a another sisyphean task in the dystopian rat race that is the modern world for man - no clearly defined end goal that is rationally worth the effort.
Normie advice is and will always be hot garbage. Even if you somehow overcome the others' opinion you'll still have to deal with two problems;
1.It's all about reputation. If you don't have a decent one you're as good as fucked regardless of what you think of yourself, this is such a common yet lesser known fact that normies seem to overlook. People will also rarely change their opinion about you even if they notice a change in behaviour, I say this because I've tried hard in the past to do so yet it didn't matter.
2. Most people who actually follow such advice are either delusional to the point of being detached from reality or straight up dismissed as obnoxious narcissists.

At the end, it amounts to nothing. If people don't give you validation there's no point in trying to fool yourself if things aren't going your way, the race is already lost and your life won't get magically better just because you happened to change the way you think.
Brutal tbh.
 
We're all products of our experiences. So, even we "don't base our self esteem on the opinions of others" consciously, we do it subconsciously.


Also, when Nietzsche coined the term Übermensch, he also stated that it's an ideal that we should strive to but it doesn't really exist irl.
He clearly never heard about gigachad.
stoicism is fucking retarded and gay normalfag self-help gurus like david goggins thinks destroying your body is self improvement because muh pain keeps me goin n sheit he fucking runs until his fucking toenails fall off and his kidneys bleeding

he destroyed his knees from running just fucking lol


View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KFRcYItRR2o

dave goggins is pushing through like a superhero in real life. Unfortunately he didn't get superstrong or anything because real life sucks.
 
dave goggins is pushing through like a superhero in real life. Unfortunately he didn't get superstrong or anything because real life sucks.
Brutal and limitation-pilled.
 
He clearly never heard about gigachad.

dave goggins is pushing through like a superhero in real life. Unfortunately he didn't get superstrong or anything because real life sucks.
Probably not. He was an escortcel; he even died of syphilis after contracting it from a hooker.
 
Self-esteem is mostly the result of social feedback that is incorporated into, and compared with, your own personal evaluations about yourself. Self-esteem without a valid basis is understood to be delusion.

I don't so much see this as a problem of needing social validation as I see it as a problem of needing feedback in general. You can build self-esteem based on non-social feedback (quantitative result of a performance over time that informs you of your relative position in some competitive endeavor, for example), but since we're tribal by nature, we first and foremost seek feedback from our groups. It's our default.
 
This is why I don't interact with people outside my family.
 
Brutal and limitation-pilled.
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This sounded so amazing, but at the end of the day it's all cope, and it's over.
Probably not. He was an escortcel; he even died of syphilis after contracting it from a hooker.
He was definately an incel. He only got popular after his sister published his final works (foid privilege)
 
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