turbosperg
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If you lose a milestone, for instance, teenage romance/sex you'll become developmentally arrested, and then lose the following milestones one after another.
It's like that sprinter who trips and falls mid-race -- it's over for him, he's too far behind to be able to catch up. He may give up then and there, or he may go on to finish last just for the "sporting spirit", but either way it's over for him.
If you can't talk to people by your mid-20s (e.g.: due to autism or helicopter parenting) there is no way that life isn't over for you. Even if you pay for extensive training in conversation skills, you'll enter your 30s without formative experiences that are required to succeed as a 30yo man.
I'm nearing 40 now. My friends are in their second marriages now, with teenage kids to raise, businesses of their own to run, or underlings to boss, real estate, cars, investments, etc. ---- and I'm here thinking about that one time I killed a dragon in skyrim with a watermelon and telekinesis.
Even if I were to meet a foid who wasn't disgusted by my ugly face and spergy manneirisms we'd have nothing in common. She'd be either a mom, or a grandma, with adult worries of her own, and I'm stuck with the mental maturity of an 11yo boy stuck in a rotting 38yo body. I can't even approach young foids as that'd be creepy.
Other places I've written about the "arrested development pill" include:
@SlayerSlayer
It's like that sprinter who trips and falls mid-race -- it's over for him, he's too far behind to be able to catch up. He may give up then and there, or he may go on to finish last just for the "sporting spirit", but either way it's over for him.
If you can't talk to people by your mid-20s (e.g.: due to autism or helicopter parenting) there is no way that life isn't over for you. Even if you pay for extensive training in conversation skills, you'll enter your 30s without formative experiences that are required to succeed as a 30yo man.
I'm nearing 40 now. My friends are in their second marriages now, with teenage kids to raise, businesses of their own to run, or underlings to boss, real estate, cars, investments, etc. ---- and I'm here thinking about that one time I killed a dragon in skyrim with a watermelon and telekinesis.
Even if I were to meet a foid who wasn't disgusted by my ugly face and spergy manneirisms we'd have nothing in common. She'd be either a mom, or a grandma, with adult worries of her own, and I'm stuck with the mental maturity of an 11yo boy stuck in a rotting 38yo body. I can't even approach young foids as that'd be creepy.
Other places I've written about the "arrested development pill" include:
Picked agepill, but my actual answer is the "arrested development pill", that is: it takes life experiences to make new life experiences.
If you're autistic, you can't have a normal childhood, therefore you'll be missing those experiences as you enter puberty, so you can't have normal teenage years, and it all snowballs until you're old but never learned things kids learn early. And nobody teaches an adult sperg obvious things, such as how to carry conversations with NPCs.
Arrested development also happens with sheltered kids, helicopter parents etc.
Is it accurate to say that only difference between us and Chads is appearance?
Or are there more differences?
incels.is
Even if you get surgery as an adult, you never regain the formative years of your infancy to develop as a confident well-liked person, you never regain the confident years of your adolescence to get early experiences such as sex, and friendship; you never get another chance to go through college befriending all the heirs and sons of businessmen who will be your connections into the business world, and so on.
I call this the "arrested development pill" : we missed so much early experiences that cannot be regained even if we were to become good-looking. These experiences mold your character, you psyche, your social circle, etc.
Depressing as fuck
It’s so annoying and depressing seeing people you used to know move on with their lives, get jobs, new friends, get a girlfriend. I feel like I’m always gonna be stuck
incels.is
I call this the "arrested development pill" which can be synthesized as: "life experiences are the foundation on which to make new life experiences".
If you miss the boat, you can't really make up for the lost time later... for instance, if you never had a friend up to high school you probably won't be able to make your first friend in college because, in college, most of your colleagues will expect his friends to already have some interpersonal experience. If you don't have any, you'll be seen as "creepy".
Is your mind currently looks-centered or NT-centered?
After my diagnosis my hyperfocus has remained on my neurodiversity and all the life problems caused by it. Honestly I feel way worse than before when I was obsessed with looks theory. At least looks is to varying extent “fixable” so I could always mental masturbate with the idea of a new happy...
incels.is
an NT normie or good-looking guy would have had experiences forming groups of friends, having his voice heard, expressing his opinions and tastes and having people around him respect him. It is normal for an NT adolescent male to be able to organize groups of like-minded peers around activities (sports, parties, trips, etc.). Also, normies and NT guys have had formative "romantic"/sexual experiences, such as interacting with girls, talking and wooing them, touching them in appropriate and affectionate ways, and having sex.
A non-NT or ugly male would have none of those experiences. He would reach his 20s without ever having had the experience of leading a group of people towards a project, or eliciting attraction from a female, or even getting attention from an audience. The neural connections that are responsible for these social endeavours would simply fail to form because there were not enough opportunity to develop those.
And there is no way to develop in your 20s and 30s the social skills that you should have developed in your childhood or early teens. First because your neurological development has all but ceased; second because people don't give adult spergs the opportunity to try and fail in these attempts --- normie adults expect spergs to behave and perform socially like normie adults, something which spergs can't do since they hadn't had the early formative experiences. You need social experiences in order to develop newer social experiences.
I call this the "arrested development pill". You can't catch-up with time.
Trucel Trait: You Failed Adolescence and are Haunted By Dreams In Which You Relive Your Childhood
I keep on reliving my early middle school years in my dreams over and over again when I had at least had one person to just talk to and there was a group I could sit by in the lunchroom so I wouldn’t feel completely alone and when the dream ends, I feel mentally broken because I don't even this...
incels.is
The arrested development pill is one of the most brutal, it's extent seems underrated here.
To get experience one needs to have prior experiences to build upon. It goes for sex, social relationships, sexual relationships, career development, etc.
If one misses the time window in which it is acceptable to be inexperienced (fresh out of college for jobs, middle school for friendships, high school for sexual relationships, etc.) it only becomes exponentially harder to make up for the lost time, one would have to grind harder and faster, but there is a point in which developmental arrest reaches escape velocity and no matter how hard one grinds the amount of required experience grows faster than the amount of experience one is capable of acquiring.
I'm 37, I'm supposed to be giving black pills and sex-ed to my adolescent children. Instead, I haven't had normal adolescent sexual experiences yet. No matter how many experiences I get, how hard I grind, by the time I have reached the capacity for a mature sexual relationship, it will be past the time i'm supposed to be welcoming my grandchildren. I can't outrun my arrested development anymore than light can escape a black hole.
Arrested development is the black hole of all black pills.
I have crossed the event horizon of developmental experiences a long time ago, now i'm just circling the singularity and witnessing the end of the universe.
I don’t feel ready for life
Anyone else going through this? I’m 19 but still feel 8 years old, like I’m not really ready for life at all, I feel like I still need my mom to guide me through it. I can work a job and go to college but it all feels so weird how I’m expected to be a self sufficient adult when I don’t even feel...
incels.is
The arrested development pill destroyed me.
To get adult experiences I'd need teenager experiences to build upon. But I couldn't get teenager experiences as a teen because non-NT, and now I'm too old.
I'm stuck in the mindset of a horny preteen who has no clue what to do with his dick, except I'm 37 years old now, and won't ever live a teenage romance. Foids willing to date a 37 yo guy expect him to be mature and NT, I'm neither. No foid wants to be around a balding autistic inexperienced 37 yo manchild.
the teen love pill is stupid and its kinda pointless to be hung over about
im still a teenager and i keep hearing all these oldcels drone on and on about muh teen love, muh this muh that the thruth of the matter is that you were always destined to be a lonely incel far past 18 and could not get a gf in high school or early uni anyways. so why be pointlessly hung over...
incels.is
"Teenage romance" is a building block for all of someone's adult sexual relationships.
If you miss this milestone, it is very hard to recover completely. You'll be developmentally arrested. Entering your first romance post-teenage years you'll be expected to "lead" the relationship, a skill you do not possess.
A foid will tolerate this deficiency only if she is really very invested in the success of the relationship, which is very rare outside of tight religious groups that still believe in and enforce lifelong marriage.
Surgerymaxxing is low IQ
People who get surgeries to get foids can’t see the forest for the trees. Surgeries cost 10s of thousands of dollars. On top of that, you still won’t get free sex, because no sex is free. You still will have to jestermax and spend money on dates in order to get sex. And even then, it’s not...
incels.is
If you grew up ugly, isolated, lonely and sexless you're forever "orphaned by the teenage loves you never had" as Houellebecq wrote in "Whatever".
Without "teenage love", an incel lacks a social, sexual, psychological basis for developing relationships as a young adult.
Without young adult relationships, an incel lacks the skills for developing mature relationships all through life.
No "teenage love" means you're developmentally arrested. If you don't find a "starter relationship" in your early 20's you'll likely never get those skills, because teenage girls are unlikely to associate with a man in his late 20's and women of his age bracket are unlikely to be willing to guide an inexperienced man in his late 20's through the steps of having his first relationship, put up with his blunders, etc. Foids expect a man in this age to LEAD the relationship, even if she is the one that approaches the guy. Worse: even if the foid wanted to try, she wouldn't be capable of playing naïve and wouldn't be as forgiving and coy would as a teenager. It's not really neurologically possible to pretend you never played a game once you've played it for 10 years or more as any foid in her 20's has.
I've read here on .is a dozen stories of incels here being hit up by foids in bars, parties etc. in a clearly sexual manner, with sexual innuendo, and even direct references to sex in an explicitly interested manner, but the incel didn't have the malice and the cunning to navigate her shit-tests and steer the interaction in a way that leads to sex or relationship and lost his chance. And these incels will keep losing such chances as they present themselves to him through life, because they did not have ANY relationships so far with which to develop their witty responses and social skills.
That's why the "teenage love" pill is so brutal. It's a form of arrested development.
tl;dr: no surgery for your lost teenage days.
Best to spend this money on a single regular hooker, so she teaches you certain interpersonal skills as you both get more familiarized, or a sugar babies to be your girlfriend-for-hire so you develop these social skills.
Unless your face is clearly deformed, you would not benefit much from spending money on surgeries.
What is The biggest lie you were ever told?
My biggest lie that I was told by parents , relatives and other significant people was “ you’re still a 12yr old kid , you have plenty of time to find a girl focus on school instead!” Now that time has passed im soon turning 17yr old this year and I never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl! The...
incels.is
This is true, in a certain way...
Life naturally has stages. There is a time for teenage love, a time for college love, a time for young adult love, family, and a time to get old together, or to get divorced and find another foid (probably a sugar baby).
Chad starts fucking foids left and right since he's 12, and ends up impregnating several foids before he's 30.
Normies get a kiss or two in school, lose their v-card in college, "self-improve" (slave away) for years and when they're 30-something they get a chance or two to be the retirement plan of a single mom, and end up betabuxxing a used-up foid and the kids she's made with Chad. Their brain chemistry has an adaptation to dump feel-good neurotransmitters that allow them to endure this cucked predicament --- it's called "love". Eventually they get divorce-raped and lose everything they've worked for, but in the meanwhile there is a nonzero chance of breeding the foid.
Omega males, however, miss all the development milestones. They don't get their first kiss in school, so they don't get it in college either, because in college it is expected that you already know how to approach, smooth-talk and kiss. While his peers are losing their v-cards in college, the Omega male can only watch in disbelief. And when he graduates, gets a job, hobbies and frequents social environments (sports bars, etc.) he can't get any action either, because everyone there is already sexually active, so the man is expected to be able to notice the indications of interest, approach a foid and lead her to the bedroom -- a skill taught in college that you never learned.
And then the years pass... since you missed the early milestones, you can't get new experiences that have those as prerequisite.
This is the "arrested development pill". One of the blackest pills there is.
The only way out is to find a friendly prostitute to teach you some sociosexual skills.
If you're a sperg it's pretty much over.
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I've never been told any big lies.
The biggest half-lie I've been told is that foids are attracted by "nice" and "decent" men.
They actually are... when they're 30-somethings, financially bankrupt, with kids from deadbeat Chads, they start looking in churches and other hobby groups (even on the bus) for decent, nice, friendly, naïve, sexually inexperienced and emotionally-deprived men with stable incomes, to get these guys to betabuxx them and their kids, and later divorce-rape these poor men and take their house and money.
This is not the kind of "attraction" I thought they meant when they said it.
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