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Discussion A thread for oldcels, who have been suffering from it before the popularity of dating apps and inflated hypergamy

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What was it like to be an incel back then, were inceldom rare where you live? How did incels/you cope? Big plus if before the internet being widespread

Tagging some potential users:
@Emba @oldcel75 @B33troot @VersoffenerAssi
 
Long poast all about it

 
I'm almost 40 years old, so I assume I qualify. I can remember a time before smartphones, "social media" and dating apps, but I grew up right when the internet was really taking off.
What was it like to be an incel back then
This is sort of a "timeless" thing in some ways, like getting punched in the face regardless of what year it is sucks, so does being incel.

That said, it was different in some ways because unlike zoomers, I had to learn the blackpill the hard way. I did a lot of cold approaching (and some warm approaches). You'd get in serious trouble if you did the amount of cold approaching I did in the 2000s today. Even then, I got kicked out of a mall once for cold approaching and got into 2 fights. Well, technically neither of them were "fights" as I just got knocked out once, and knocked a guy out on another occasion. On both occasions it was because I approached a woman who had a boyfriend who was there, but not right next to her at the time so I didn't know.
were inceldom rare where you live?
I can tell you Inceldom was far from "rare" back in the 2000s. I knew plenty of incels (in real life) back then.
How did incels/you cope?
Video games, anime, sports, etc. Basically the same copes a lot of incels have now.

Anyway, while dating apps certainly had an effect, I think people overestimate their impact on the dating market. Inceldom has always been a thing. Historically most men did not reproduce. This was the case even thousands of years ago, long before the industrial revolution. I noticed even in high school that guys were simps (I was a simp back then too), had no standards, and that even the worst looking obese women had lots of guys pining for her and had lots of options. Inceldom is simply a part of sexual selection. Men want women far far more than women want men, and this has always been the case.

Dating apps simply made what was already going on more obvious. Obvious to the point that denying the blackpill in 2025 is like being a flat earther.
 
What was it like to be an incel back then, were inceldom rare where you live? How did incels/you cope? Big plus if before the internet being widespread

Tagging some potential users:
@Emba @oldcel75 @B33troot @VersoffenerAssi
@unique_freak made a thread about this iirc, also about old incel forums/imageboards he was active in when the internet was relatively new
 
I'm almost 40 years old, so I assume I qualify. I can remember a time before smartphones, "social media" and dating apps, but I grew up right when the internet was really taking off.

This is sort of a "timeless" thing in some ways, like getting punched in the face regardless of what year it is sucks, so does being incel.

That said, it was different in some ways because unlike zoomers, I had to learn the blackpill the hard way. I did a lot of cold approaching (and some warm approaches). You'd get in serious trouble if you did the amount of cold approaching I did in the 2000s today. Even then, I got kicked out of a mall once for cold approaching and got into 2 fights. Well, technically neither of them were "fights" as I just got knocked out once, and knocked a guy out on another occasion. On both occasions it was because I approached a woman who had a boyfriend who was there, but not right next to her at the time so I didn't know.

I can tell you Inceldom was far from "rare" back in the 2000s. I knew plenty of incels (in real life) back then.

Video games, anime, sports, etc. Basically the same copes a lot of incels have now.

Anyway, while dating apps certainly had an effect, I think people overestimate their impact on the dating market. Inceldom has always been a thing. Historically most men did not reproduce. This was the case even thousands of years ago, long before the industrial revolution. I noticed even in high school that guys were simps (I was a simp back then too), had no standards, and that even the worst looking obese women had lots of guys pining for her and had lots of options. Inceldom is simply a part of sexual selection. Men want women far far more than women want men, and this has always been the case.

Dating apps simply made what was already going on more obvious. Obvious to the point that denying the blackpill in 2025 is like being a flat earther.
Was it easier to find more incels irl back then and was it easier to be friends with them?
 
I can tell you Inceldom was far from "rare" back in the 2000s. I knew plenty of incels (in real life) back then.
Long poast all about it
Thanks for the responses. I've been cold approaching occassionally too, at ages of 12-23 without getting any dates and got threatened once when I warm approached and didn't know for sure that she had a boyfriend. Never got a date by trying tinder countless of times, too and I started it during the time when normies say it's been easier to get laid by using it. It's good to know that inceldom were actually much more common than normies claim. However statistics I've seen somewhere, show that inceldom and other ways of failure with women has rapidly increased during the years when facebook became common.
 
Was it easier to find more incels irl back then and was it easier to be friends with them?
Making friends (incel or otherwise) in general was way easier back then. People were a lot more sociable back then whereas these days most people are closed off, terminally online, hyper-introverted, and paranoid. A very large chunk of male zoomers lives seem to be nothing but work, class, gym, and internet (online games, social media, etc.). They seem to see nothing wrong with this either, they just want a girlfriend added into their existing life.

I'm naturally extroverted and low inhib, so I would have absolutely hated growing up in this dystopian social climate.
 
Hypergamy has always been there. Many boomer parents cucked beyond belief .
 
Making friends (incel or otherwise) in general was way easier back then. People were a lot more sociable back then whereas these days most people are closed off, terminally online, hyper-introverted, and paranoid. A very large chunk of male zoomers lives seem to be nothing but work, class, gym, and internet (online games, social media, etc.). They seem to see nothing wrong with this either, they just want a girlfriend added into their existing life.

I'm naturally extroverted and low inhib, so I would have absolutely hated growing up in this dystopian social climate.
I wish i was born in those sociable times. I would have been easily been able to make friends with incels unlike now since majority of them just preferred to rot on there phones.
 

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