Back in 2011 I was a part of a skype group consisting of like 8 people, mostly /r9k/ posters. We would voice chat regularly and there was this one guy who swore he was the worst off out of anyone. He was ~21 at the time, had been a NEET since he got his high school diploma (or equivalent or whatever), no gf, no friends, etc. He wasn't quite NT but not actually a genuine autist either, but sort of socially stunted due to his upbringing. He was raised by a single mom and while his mom did remarry for like a few years before getting divorced again, and dated some other guys, none of them were really father figures to him or had much interest in being such from what I remember him telling me. He was also homeschooled from a young age and his mother sounded pretty mentally ill and from what he told me I got the impression that she was socially isolating him on purpose, though perhaps I was reading into things too much.
Anyway, he insisted he was the least likely to get a gf and always went on about how fucked he was. I asked to see his pic multiple times, and one day he actually sent me his pic and I thought he was trolling. He was a MEGA prettyboy, like a legit 9/10. He also looked younger than his age, I would have thought he was 17-18 I remember being like "NO WAY THIS IS YOU WTF" and he actually got on cam to prove it was him. I told him he could get a gf EASILY if he tried and he was like "no girl would ever want me, blah blah blah". He told me he would trade places with me saying I had a much better chance even though I'm ugly (he admitted I'm ugly, he saw my pic) because I'm tall, funny, deep voice, blah blah blah.
I told him I would prove once and for all that he could easily get a gf by making an okcupid profile with his pic and setting him up for a date. So he agreed to let me do this and I got to work making the profile and messaging every girl in between the ages of 18-35 within like 10 miles of where he lived in. He lived in the midwest and not in a big city so it's not like there were that many. I got some replies and I had what I believed to be 5 strong prospects. I told him and said I was going to set him up on 5 dates and he was like "no! I can't handle 5 rejections!". But he ultimately agreed to go on one date. So out of the 5 prospects, there was one that stood out a lot. Whereas with the other 4 I was still putting in more effort into the conversations, this girl was double messaging, writing walls of text, and practically begging to meet up. She was 25 years old, quite obese, and was obsessed with Kingdom Hearts, Castlevania SOTN, Death Note, and Fruits Basket (how the fuck do I even remember this despite having a shitty memory?). I had played/seen these before so I was able to talk with her about them and she went on about how we must be "soulmates". She asked for "my" phone number and I asked him on skype if I could give her his number and he said "no I need you to set up the date so give her your number" so I gave her my number and she just started blowing up my phone with texts. In case it's not obvious, I choose to set up the date with her because she was by far the most interested and thus the least likely to flake or reject him. He also said he had no standards and would take any woman that would have him so it was a no-brainer.
So the day after the scheduled date I got on skype and one of the guys in the group was like "you won't believe what [aforementioned 9/10 pretty boy] did!". I remember thinking "oh boy, how did he fuck this up?" since he had the tendency to say one weird shit at times. So I messaged him directly when he got online and the FIRST thing he said was "I lost my virginity". He went on to tell me how the date went and early on he confessed that she was actually talking to someone else and she didn't mind that much. GEE I WONDER WHY! Then they went back to her place and he then proceeded to go into graphic detail about the rest. Like...really graphic.
Anyway, they became a couple and he went from being online like 12 hours a day to not being online for days at a time and by early 2012 he pretty much stopped getting on and the group kind of died off.
Then one day in 2016-2017 he randomly got on skype and we talked for a while. He said him and that girl ended up getting married and he had recently gotten his degree and had a decent job as an engineer. Apparently getting a gf gave him the motivation he needed to get his shit together. He then told me his wife was pregnant and expecting in a few months or so. When he asked me what I was up to, I straight up told him I was flipping burgers and moderating /r/incels. He seemed to be under the impression I was joking. That was the last time we talked. Assuming there wasn't an abortion or miscarriage, the kid must be ~6 year old now. Either in first grade or starting this year.
I've been reflecting on my life a lot as I've gotten older. Until recently I never really thought about the situation as "another human exists because of me" and it's surreal to think about it like that. This is the closest thing I'll ever have to actually making an impact on the world. I never made this much of an impact on anyone else's life and my posts online are nothing but dust in the wind.
Anyway, he insisted he was the least likely to get a gf and always went on about how fucked he was. I asked to see his pic multiple times, and one day he actually sent me his pic and I thought he was trolling. He was a MEGA prettyboy, like a legit 9/10. He also looked younger than his age, I would have thought he was 17-18 I remember being like "NO WAY THIS IS YOU WTF" and he actually got on cam to prove it was him. I told him he could get a gf EASILY if he tried and he was like "no girl would ever want me, blah blah blah". He told me he would trade places with me saying I had a much better chance even though I'm ugly (he admitted I'm ugly, he saw my pic) because I'm tall, funny, deep voice, blah blah blah.
I told him I would prove once and for all that he could easily get a gf by making an okcupid profile with his pic and setting him up for a date. So he agreed to let me do this and I got to work making the profile and messaging every girl in between the ages of 18-35 within like 10 miles of where he lived in. He lived in the midwest and not in a big city so it's not like there were that many. I got some replies and I had what I believed to be 5 strong prospects. I told him and said I was going to set him up on 5 dates and he was like "no! I can't handle 5 rejections!". But he ultimately agreed to go on one date. So out of the 5 prospects, there was one that stood out a lot. Whereas with the other 4 I was still putting in more effort into the conversations, this girl was double messaging, writing walls of text, and practically begging to meet up. She was 25 years old, quite obese, and was obsessed with Kingdom Hearts, Castlevania SOTN, Death Note, and Fruits Basket (how the fuck do I even remember this despite having a shitty memory?). I had played/seen these before so I was able to talk with her about them and she went on about how we must be "soulmates". She asked for "my" phone number and I asked him on skype if I could give her his number and he said "no I need you to set up the date so give her your number" so I gave her my number and she just started blowing up my phone with texts. In case it's not obvious, I choose to set up the date with her because she was by far the most interested and thus the least likely to flake or reject him. He also said he had no standards and would take any woman that would have him so it was a no-brainer.
So the day after the scheduled date I got on skype and one of the guys in the group was like "you won't believe what [aforementioned 9/10 pretty boy] did!". I remember thinking "oh boy, how did he fuck this up?" since he had the tendency to say one weird shit at times. So I messaged him directly when he got online and the FIRST thing he said was "I lost my virginity". He went on to tell me how the date went and early on he confessed that she was actually talking to someone else and she didn't mind that much. GEE I WONDER WHY! Then they went back to her place and he then proceeded to go into graphic detail about the rest. Like...really graphic.
Anyway, they became a couple and he went from being online like 12 hours a day to not being online for days at a time and by early 2012 he pretty much stopped getting on and the group kind of died off.
Then one day in 2016-2017 he randomly got on skype and we talked for a while. He said him and that girl ended up getting married and he had recently gotten his degree and had a decent job as an engineer. Apparently getting a gf gave him the motivation he needed to get his shit together. He then told me his wife was pregnant and expecting in a few months or so. When he asked me what I was up to, I straight up told him I was flipping burgers and moderating /r/incels. He seemed to be under the impression I was joking. That was the last time we talked. Assuming there wasn't an abortion or miscarriage, the kid must be ~6 year old now. Either in first grade or starting this year.
I've been reflecting on my life a lot as I've gotten older. Until recently I never really thought about the situation as "another human exists because of me" and it's surreal to think about it like that. This is the closest thing I'll ever have to actually making an impact on the world. I never made this much of an impact on anyone else's life and my posts online are nothing but dust in the wind.
