Brutal Someone make this Redditor an account here.

[DoomThreeKoala]

View: https://www.reddit.com/r/aspergers/comments/1ndoir8/never_dated_and_never_kissed_37m_is_this_normal/

I always see people with aspie telling about their relationships, that some are even married and have kids, and here I am, virgin at 37M, feeling like an alien my whole life thinking about a lone future. I don't want to be alone, but with my age I think it's just gonna be harder and harder to find someone, specially with "zero dating skills".

When I was younger I thought the "The 40-Year-Old Virgin" movie was supposed to be a comedy, but it looks like this is where my life is going to, which doesn't feel like a comedy.

I barely get out of my house. I got lucky (I guess) to land a remote job as my first job out of college, so even at work I don't have physical contact with people. I even go to the gym but I never talk to anyone there. I even noticed an "admirer" at the gym but I'm too afraid to talk to her because I'm really lost with social cues and I have no idea how to deal with a possible rejection.

In the end I don't know how to get out of this situation and the older I get, the harder it'll probably be.

So my question is: Is this supposed to be normal for us?

edit: Thank you, everyone! It appears this isn't so unusual as I thought, but I understand I need to make more effort to change this from now on. I'm even looking for a not remote job right now so I can see people face to face and talk to them, so it's a start already.

37 year old non-NT KHHV. It's over for him.

 

[Wrath]

Fakecel he has an admirer

 

[hatepilledandrich]

Fakecel he has an admirer

His hallucinations probably

 

[H8mychudlife]

His hallucinations probably

Fakecel he has an admirer

Schizo maxxing

 

[Cloudrak]

If you're not NT it's over

 

[soft]

If he made that post in IT, they would tell him something like
it's actually for the best!
you're in your perfect place!
be happy that you avoided the disappointment of relationships! and didn't grow into a jaded inkie!
you're so brave for coming out
while secretly giggling at him inside, laughing at how pathetic he is to them, maybe they think he's cute like a baby or a puppy at best
fucking snake bitches

 

[rcnfive]

I even noticed an "admirer" at the gym but I'm too afraid to talk to her

either fakecel or false rape accusation incoming for that guy

 

[Leon98]

If he made that post in IT, they would tell him something like
it's actually for the best!
you're in your perfect place!
be happy that you avoided the disappointment of relationships! and didn't grow into a jaded inkie!
you're so brave for coming out
while secretly giggling at him inside, laughing at how pathetic he is to them, maybe they think he's cute like a baby or a puppy at best
fucking snake bitches

 

[DoomThreeKoala]

His hallucinations probably

If you're not NT it's over

If he made that post in IT, they would tell him something like
it's actually for the best!
you're in your perfect place!
be happy that you avoided the disappointment of relationships! and didn't grow into a jaded inkie!
you're so brave for coming out
while secretly giggling at him inside, laughing at how pathetic he is to them, maybe they think he's cute like a baby or a puppy at best
fucking snake bitches

either fakecel or false rape accusation incoming for that guy

 

[Takeyami1987]

Fakecel he has an admirer

Lots of autists/aspies heavily misread any bit of attention from women as a crush or admiration. I know I did in highschool.