Discussion How did your family conditioned your thoughts and how did your perception of things got twisted?

[Dr_V./i.m.o.i.s.5]

Personally i had a long list of problems and shit that happened solely because of them but what i wanted to know is how did your family indoctrinated you into thinking?
Personally i developed a literal "spectator" complex in the way i would basically act as a completely passive and subservient element in my own life, at my age i believe i wasted I don't know how many opportunities because of how they stunted my physical and mental growth more than already by birthing me in old age and with of course my mother obese especially only with me and not like her other child who's actually normal, also not completely giving all resources to my sister since i basically was the second one and had only the leftovers....her getting constant vacations and me basically a loser and constant disappointment to them....the only things i can do is purely basic forms of online and media entertainment plus studying, maybe the only two things i am above decent at all....not talking of course how they constantly warped everything to be them the victims despite me having always passively being subjected to their happenings while being shouted on being useless despite doing literally everything plus asking if they could help me find work where i would help them with money.....wich they completely ignored back then and continued saying i am alongside my generation a loser while pretty much all other problems in between.
What about you and how did they try to twist your view especially on women?

 

[Dr_V./i.m.o.i.s.5]

This is my first thread plus post, so don't expect anything unique in terms of questions, just my personal curiosity since i am new.

 

[ToBurble&Pine]

They raised me like a potato

 

[Dr_V./i.m.o.i.s.5]

They raised me like a potato

Pretty much sums up my own upbringing, its always interesting to see how those people never feel any guilt or ever even think back about it despite having completely shaped me....but i guess it is what it is when someone is basically just a possible resource and secured moral punching bag to use like me.

 

[tulasdanslos]

They expect me to reach milestones but they didn't teach me anything that could be conducive to that.

 

[friedrllyudidntknow]

I wasn't planned so they treated me & my older brother with lots of scorn and resentment. My mother was physically abusive & my father was emotionally abusive. Didn't teach me anything since they were always high stress survival mode, punished me hardcore just for being a kid and making mistakes. That turned into a fear of failure and being a perfectionist. Their abusive ways essentially groomed me to be the perfect target for bullies to latch into. It snowballed into becoming a NEET for 6 years and now I'm here; a 24 y/o KHHV mentalcel.

 

[Dr_V./i.m.o.i.s.5]

They expect me to reach milestones but they didn't teach me anything that could be conducive to that.

Seriously it's funny how people expect children to simply adapt, whatever thing happened nobody ever prepared me for it and i looked always out of place.....i had to learn everything by myself and i am even now a model student in terms of even votes and conduct......but still weird while popular people can do the most rude and horrible shit or completely disgusting and have no problems.

 

[Dr_V./i.m.o.i.s.5]

I wasn't planned so they treated me & my older brother with lots of scorn and resentment. My mother was physically abusive & my father was emotionally abusive. Didn't teach me anything since they were always high stress survival mode, punished me hardcore just for being a kid and making mistakes. That turned into a fear of failure and being a perfectionist. Their abusive ways essentially groomed me to be the perfect target for bullies to latch into. It snowballed into becoming a NEET for 6 years and now I'm here; a 24 y/o KHHV mentalcel.

Being not planned for hits hard, my condolences for that, sadly only a minority gets actually perfect or even just decent parents....not talking environment+ parents and body being also decent or above it even more so impossible to have.