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Discussion Have you ever had that cope: "if i just create the right type of existencial narrative in my head, then all will be good/ok/awesome"?

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Basically what im saying is, if you feed the right feel good moronic crap to yourself, then everything will be fine and dandy? Basically delusionmaxxing?
 
Basically everything shit that happens in my life is a cannon event meme?
 
Oh but it does. It's a big part of how humanity has dealt with this insane garbage heap of a universe. Everyone is the main character in his own head. The real delusion is thinking that seeing the world as it is will somehow free you, or save you, or do you any good. It's just a way to make yourself save of getting made fun of and humiliated at the cost of your sanity.

I think normies prove pretty impressively that being right and living a fun, enjoyable life are not synonymous. If anything, seeing a world as dogshit as this one as it is, really looking the horror in the face, realizing what kind of monster the average person is deep down, it only serves to isolate you and make you miserable. If you still can, do allow yourself the right to delude yourself. Consider it a birthright of sorts. It's the least this world could gift you in exchange for having to go through the nightmare that is your life.

This place does not merit being percieved without looking through multiple layers of falsification to make the view bearable.
 
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Oh but it does. It's a big part of how humanity has dealt with this insane garbage heap of a universe. Everyone is the main character in his own head. The real delusion is thinking that seeing the world as it is will somehow free you, or save you, or do you any good. It's just a way to make yourself save of getting made fun of and humiliated at the cost of your sanity.

I think normies prove pretty impressively that being right and living a fun, enjoyable life are not synonymous. If anything, seeing a world as dogshit as this one as it is, really looking the horror in the face, realizing what kind of monster the average person is deep down, it only serves to isolate you and make you miserable. If you still can, do allow yourself the right to delude yourself. Consider it a birthright of sorts. It's the least this world could gift you in exchange for having to go through the nightmare that is your life.

This place does not merit being percieved without looking through multiple layers of falsification to make the view bearable.
I didnt understand the last paragraph, can you dumb it down a lil bit?
 
Oh but it does. It's a big part of how humanity has dealt with this insane garbage heap of a universe. Everyone is the main character in his own head. The real delusion is thinking that seeing the world as it is will somehow free you, or save you, or do you any good. It's just a way to make yourself save of getting made fun of and humiliated at the cost of your sanity.

I think normies prove pretty impressively that being right and living a fun, enjoyable life are not synonymous. If anything, seeing a world as dogshit as this one as it is, really looking the horror in the face, realizing what kind of monster the average person is deep down, it only serves to isolate you and make you miserable. If you still can, do allow yourself the right to delude yourself. Consider it a birthright of sorts. It's the least this world could gift you in exchange for having to go through the nightmare that is your life.

This place does not merit being percieved without looking through multiple layers of falsification to make the view bearable.
Well, i guess you're right, in a way. Its fair game to delude yourself a lil bit, bit isnt the blackpill about seeing the world without the lense of cope? or do you think its about creating better copes in general?
 
I didnt understand the last paragraph, can you dumb it down a lil bit?


Normies are all wrong about everything and still happy. They are living proof that strict epistemological standards are not required to be happy. in most cases, happyness is not the result of a search for truth. This world is so ugly and terrible, forcing yourself to see it as it is is a form of self-harm. If you can, you should allow yourself to find a pleasent lie that makes your life enjoyable to live, as enjoyable as possible, and feel neither shame not the need to stop lying to yourself.

This believe that there is a need for truth is the real dangerous infohazard, the parasitic meme that serves only to make you feel superior to others at the cost of your own happyness.
 
Well, i guess you're right, in a way. Its fair game to delude yourself a lil bit, bit isnt the blackpill about seeing the world without the lense of cope? or do you think its about creating better copes in general?
I think it depends. But when it comes to the overall story of your life, lying is the way to go. If you can. The big picture is that life is an accident, a small, meaningless step in the process of going from high entropy to low entropy.

As Nietzsche said, we need to fill the void which the death of the god narrative left behind. Society has failed to do so at scale, so we have to do the best we can as individuals. But that void is way too big to fill for real. God and the afterlife gave us real goals as a species, it gave everyone a personal struggle worth going through and a clear aim to reach as a collective.

Now we lack those things, and you will have to fabricate some place holders by yourself. Since this is such an absurdly unreasonable task for any individual, don't feel bad if what you come up with isn't perfect. You did the best you could with what you were given. It's society that has failed its responsibilities, not you.
 
Well, i guess you're right, in a way. Its fair game to delude yourself a lil bit, bit isnt the blackpill about seeing the world without the lense of cope? or do you think its about creating better copes in general?
The black pill is a tool to free ourselves from the harmful lies society is forcing on us. That we are at fault for every bit of our lonelyness and suffering, that the world is fair and we deserve what we got, that we should just keep trying in vain forever and it will all work out, that women aren't horribly amoral monsters, that we should direct our anger inward towards ourselfs instead of ourwards towards the society that has abandoned us.

That's not all it is, but I think the big positive effects it can have on most incels are rooted in the harm the lies we grow up with wreck on our lifes.
 
You want to believe it will all work out and you will make it? Go ahead, if that helps you cope. You want to give up, are tired of trying and just want to lay down and cope with video games and drugs and anime? Sure.

Optimize for your own personal happyness. Do so aggressively. And without shame or guilt. That is what should be your top priority. Not truthseeking. Truthseeking can be a way to get the necessary kick of "feeling superior to others" that everyone needs a bit of. You can know more and feel superior for it. But then do allow yourself to really feel superior. Don't half-ass it. Or feel shame for wanting to feel like you are better.

You deserve to be as happy as you can, in a sense you owe it to yourself more than you owe anything to any other person.

Many people like us struggle with putting themselves first. Imagine owning a dog.
What to do with a needy dog 1634302388

Wouldn't you do anything to make the dog you have responsibility for happy? Now try to feel the same way about your own life, act the same way, plan the same way, as if your life was as valuable as that dogs life. Because it should be. Because it is. You are certainly no less of a feeling, concious being deserving of happyness than a random cute canine.
 

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