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Serious Does longterm inceldom destroy a man's pairbonding ability?

I'm having this thought rn: if you are an incel or even if you're some sort of a nearcel (whatever) - even 'getting a gf' and having a 'successful' relationship won't save you. There's a very hight chance that this relationship won't last long (just look at the divorce rates as a superficial proof of this) and after it's over it will hit you even harder than if you'd stay a loner. So, yes, you can 'ascend', but it's very likely that in the end you'll be a miserable fuck again.

Not a cope: relationship and getting a girlfriend have nothing to do with true happiness. Don't get me wrong, they will make you feel like you're happy. For a while. But then they will most brutally destroy and demolish you.
YES. This is what I have been screaming from rooftops on this site. What most young Incels don't understand is that the problem STARTS when you get into a relationship, not stops. So again TAKE THE BLACK.
Many people commit suicides while being in a marriage, having kids, job, etc. The key point is, that all these things are temporary, shallow, and, in fact, have nothing to do with happiness.
Bingo! Bravo ! Take the black.
But everything to do with the biologically hardwired need to reproduce.
No, it's NOT a biological need ! This is one of the biggest problems yall have in understanding. User K9Otaku broke his head trying to explain this, then finally gave up cause everyone fought him endlessly.
You can find happiness only inside of yourself. Because the only thing that does not really change is your personality, your qualities, etc.
You can change some of what you need to to maximize survival and produce better behavior/results others you are correct.
And by happiness here I mean having as little suffering as possible. Other definitions seem to be unrealistic.
Yes correct. Bravo!
I hope I made myself clear.
You tried and I clarified it even more. Good effort though. More Incels need to start thinking like you, in my opinion.
 
You tried and I clarified it even more. Good effort though. More Incels need to start thinking like you, in my opinion.
Glad you agree.
No, it's NOT a biological need ! This is one of the biggest problems yall have in understanding. User K9Otaku broke his head trying to explain this, then finally gave up cause everyone fought him endlessly.
Could you direct me at his posts and maybe to something similar that I've been describing in my post? Thanks
 
I definitely think it does, when you're alone for so long your brain just adjusts to that as being normal and the idea of another person being intimate with you just becomes so alien. Mahdi did a good video about this:
 
The standards for "Must-Read" content were evidently lower. :feelskek:
 
Glad you agree.

Could you direct me at his posts and maybe to something similar that I've been describing in my post? Thanks
@K9Otaku



 
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I definitely think it does, when you're alone for so long your brain just adjusts to that as being normal and the idea of another person being intimate with you just becomes so alien. Mahdi did a good video about this:

I'm sorry, but you guys are worshipping this Chadlite because he has had sex. He is an idiot and he has very little clue what he is talking about.
 
@K9Otaku



thank you
 
In my case, I'm afraid it has. If an attractive foid were to land on my doorstep today, I simply wouldn't know what to do with her, nor how to handle any kind of intimite relationship with her. All the adversity I've experienced over the last 20 years of trying to find a romantic partner (I'm an oldcel at 37) have definitely put a damper on my belief in things like "love" and romantic relationships. The youthful fire and enthusiasm with which I would have greeted any woman into my life have long left me. Additionally, taking the blackpill has severely diminished my tolerance for the usual annoying foid behavior and mannerisms. I often look with amazement at my bluepill normie male friends tolerating all this crap from their "loved ones".
Have you whoremaxxed?
 
i mean, even if we had any level of pairbonding ability at all, it would all be one sided from us. incel means women aren't genuinely attracted to us anyway? maybe i misunderstand what pairbonding means
 
I stopped giving a fuck about my anxiety I would hump and dump her
 
Cortisol works with adrenaline (epinephrine) to create memories of short-term emotional events; this is the proposed mechanism for storage of flash bulb memories, and may originate as a means to remember what to avoid in the future.[37] However, long-term exposure to cortisol damages cells in the hippocampus;[38] this damage results in impaired learning.
 
I recognize behavioral pattern that remind me of prison mentality. I am sure I wouldn't be able to leave my prison when Princess Stacy comes around the corner. That is fucked up.
 
Cope. I had no teenager love and I'm doing just fine.
You are not the exception to the rule, dude thinks he is some fkn messiah all of sudden because "I'm doing fine". Than why are you even here dickhead?
 
I made a similar thread here before where i said that i don't feel any 'love' towards a foid anymore no matter how attractive. I don't feel like loving or caring her. All i see are whores. I've seriously stopped considering women as people at all, more like parasites
 
I made a similar thread here before where i said that i don't feel any 'love' towards a foid anymore no matter how attractive. I don't feel like loving or caring her. All i see are whores. I've seriously stopped considering women as people at all, more like parasites
this.
 
Cortisol works with adrenaline (epinephrine) to create memories of short-term emotional events; this is the proposed mechanism for storage of flash bulb memories, and may originate as a means to remember what to avoid in the future.[37] However, long-term exposure to cortisol damages cells in the hippocampus;[38] this damage results in impaired learning.
well there it is, true to my username. Mentally blocked. OvER.
 
Having fucked over 170 escorts surely destroyed my pairbonding ability, kek
 
I think your brain is just adapting to live without it. If you offer a homeless person prestigious job, he may not believe it is real and refuse to do anything.
But would you blame him? His mind is already formed due to past experiences and he probably is being bitter and cynical about life. Maybe if someone helped him when he was a teen ( from 12 y.o. ) results would be different.
Maybe if the girls and women didn't ignored subhumans during school years, the ability to find common ground with them wouldn't be lost.
 
My mind is littered with consumerism and materialism mixed in with no community or identity beyond my favorite music or video games and plastic trinkets. Due to years of bullying and social isolation I believe I am unable to form friendships let alone a romantic/sexual partnership.

Bullying and social isolation is used to insert complete domination over the sub 5s to prevent their flawed genes form being passed on. Being born the way I am, then factor in these things. It’s Ultra over
 
it has made me realize that I don't need what soyciety tells me I do and it has made me stronger
 
Certainly destroyed bonding with anything for me
 
I think your brain is just adapting to live without it. If you offer a homeless person prestigious job, he may not believe it is real and refuse to do anything.
But would you blame him? His mind is already formed due to past experiences and he probably is being bitter and cynical about life. Maybe if someone helped him when he was a teen ( from 12 y.o. ) results would be different.
Maybe if the girls and women didn't ignored subhumans during school years, the ability to find common ground with them wouldn't be lost.
Lots of good points there
 
For me it would be opposite, I think I would get too attached to that woman and very possessive but also wouldn't like having extra obligations to her, since I'm used to have zero obligations and responsibilities.
 
It destroys a mans nuts
 
No, oneitiscels disprove the theory.
 
I'm 22 and uncapable of love after 9 years of inceldom (I was first rejected at 13 - little did I know...), there is only I, my, hate and war in this world, not necessary a militaristic war.
 
I made a similar thread here before where i said that i don't feel any 'love' towards a foid anymore no matter how attractive. I don't feel like loving or caring her. All i see are whores. I've seriously stopped considering women as people at all, more like parasites
well it's only fair, they treat us in the same way
 
quoting from everyone's favorite author:

"It's already too late, in any case. The sexual failure you've known since your adolescence, Raphaël, the frustration that has followed you since the age of thirteen, will leave their indelible mark. Even supposing that you might have women in the future - which in all frankness I doubt - this will not be enough; nothing will ever be enough. You will always be an orphan to those adolescent loves you never knew. In you the wound is already deep; it will get deeper and deeper. An atrocious, unremitting bitterness will end up gripping your heart. For you there will be neither redemption nor deliverance. That's how it is."
 
No teenage love will fuck you up for life

I do not agree. Of course I'm not 100% sure if I was really ruined by my first and only real love, but I've had a very hard time with it for years. Meanwhile life goes on and before you know it you are old.
 
You can find happiness only inside of yourself. Because the only thing that does not really change is your personality, your qualities, etc. And by happiness here I mean having as little suffering as possible. Other definitions seem to be unrealistic.
That is partly true, but I think that your personality, your qualities, etc. can indeed change because of what happens to you. I mean, if you keep going through negative things, then try to stay happy.
 
Yes. It destroys everything, the very soul until nothing is left but a shell of a man.
Good. I'm really hoping a bigger part of the male population will find themselves in the inceldom in the future. We need total desensitization.
 
I don’t know. There would only be one way to find out. Start a relationship. I don’t know if it would work for me, I became numb.
 
To me, inceldom destroyed most of my social abilities. I used to try to socially interact with people and to go out. But with all the lack of success,
I became obsessed with work. Overworking gave me some kind of goal in life. Now, after all these years, I started to see sexually active people as reproducing apes. Lower humanoids.
 
Yes,if I suddenly woke up with a 10/10 stacy gf tomorrow I legit wouldn't know wtf to do.
 
An incel doesn't have any pairbonding ability to begin with. Inceldom is a state of being, something you either are or are not. What even is "long term inceldom" ??? do these niggas know they're going to ascend at some point a decade or two from now??? :feelskek: The language used in this post would indicate that OP is probably like 17 or 18 and will ascend within the next few years because they're actually just a low tier normie that will eventually scrape by, not an incel
 
An incel doesn't have any pairbonding ability to begin with. Inceldom is a state of being, something you either are or are not. What even is "long term inceldom" ??? do these niggas know they're going to ascend at some point a decade or two from now??? :feelskek: The language used in this post would indicate that OP is probably like 17 or 18 and will ascend within the next few years because they're actually just a low tier normie that will eventually scrape by, not an incel
True. A man either is an incel, or not. An actual incel isn't magically going to start being liked by women . If women didn't like you in high school, they'll never at any point in life
 
If women didn't like you in high school, they'll never at any point in life
Untrue. Many normies will ascend after they finish highschool. (18-21) This is why incels shouldn't be taken seriously until they're at least 21
 
In my case, I'm afraid it has. If an attractive foid were to land on my doorstep today, I simply wouldn't know what to do with her, nor how to handle any kind of intimite relationship with her. All the adversity I've experienced over the last 20 years of trying to find a romantic partner (I'm an oldcel at 37) have definitely put a damper on my belief in things like "love" and romantic relationships. The youthful fire and enthusiasm with which I would have greeted any woman into my life have long left me. Additionally, taking the blackpill has severely diminished my tolerance for the usual annoying foid behavior and mannerisms. I often look with amazement at my bluepill normie male friends tolerating all this crap from their "loved ones".
good thread, and yes it definitely does destroy pairbonding ability. no one here is cut out for a relationship. doesnt matter how good looking you are or how good your general physical stats are but your mind has adapted to being alone
 

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