Experiment Did your parents get divorced?

[Deleted member 5712]

There have been many studies or documentaries that try to understand or explain how a divorce ruins a childs image of a happy relationship and effects their own relationships as they grow up. Im just curious how many people here actually have divorced parents and if any of you think that split negatively impacted you to see females as less than or relationships as broken from the start.

From my personal life I have about 20, give or take, families that Im decently close to. Enough to know a little about their life. Aunts and Uncles. and cousins and such. Out of those 20 there is 1 family that married in their 20s and are still together 30+ years later. I would say they probably have a long relationship but on the verge of ruin. The other 19 are all divorced and if they never married they still split up. That is 1/20 for me personally so right as a child I always knew relationships never lasted because nobody I knew was ever in one. I never dated but even if I did I would feel I have this looming thought that my gf was bound to leave me so I would always be on edge thus creating a negative view on the relationship from the start.

You guys?
Also, let us know if they divorced when you were a kid or if they did it when you were an adult and if you think that makes a difference.

 

[NoMoreSlaving]

Yes. I was considered gifted in school and received every possible award of excellency, etc, etc. Then my parents broke up and I moved to the city. Lived with my mom. It was ok, but I was a lazy bastard and completely squandered my potential just so I could drink cheap beer all the time. My dad would never have allowed it to happen

 

[Deleted member 5712]

My parents split up when I was about 15 but didnt finalize the divorce until I was 18. They lived in different apartments. I had been praying for them to divorce much sooner than 15 tbh.
It didnt affect my views because they were already so low from the 1/20 I mentioned earlier and so I just always knew relaionships were a failed expectation.

Yes. I was considered gifted in school and received every possible award of excellency, etc, etc. Then my parents broke up and I moved to the city. Lived with my mom. It was ok, but I was a lazy bastard and completely squandered my potential just so I could drink cheap beer all the time. My dad would never have allowed it to happen

Wow that sounds rough.
Was your Dad an achiever or did he just expect good things/good results from you?

 

[GameDevCel]

Yes. I was considered gifted in school and received every possible award of excellency, etc, etc. Then my parents broke up and I moved to the city. Lived with my mom. It was ok, but I was a lazy bastard and completely squandered my potential just so I could drink cheap beer all the time. My dad would never have allowed it to happen

similar stuff happened to me

 

[NoMoreSlaving]

My parents split up when I was about 15 but didnt finalize the divorce until I was 18. They lived in different apartments. I had been praying for them to divorce much sooner than 15 tbh.
It didnt affect my views because they were already so low from the 1/20 I mentioned earlier and so I just always knew relaionships were a failed expectation.

Wow that sounds rough.
Was your Dad an achiever or did he just expect good things/good results from you?

He was a lazy bastard like myself but he had some expectations of me. I wouldnt say it was over the top or unrealistic. Just wanted me to do my homework after I come home and attend classes.
My mom was too soft and I was too lazy so it got out of hand... failed a year multiple times


but that didnt affect my views on relationships though

 

[Adolf_Hitler]

My parents were never married.

 

[Albocel]

My parents were never married.

 

[NoMoreSlaving]

My parents were never married.

absolute degeneracy

 

[NotQuiteChadLite]

Divorce = Boomer invention. People didn’t get divorced before boomers and their narcissism and hedonism made it hip. “I’m not getting enough fellatio at home, time to ruin everyone in my family’s life!” Now the divorce rate is sky high and marriage is a joke because of them.

 

[Deleted member 8353]

My parents separated when I was a toddler, they actually got divorced a few years later. While I'm certain that growing up like this affected me a great deal, it wasn't an explicitly conscious issue as it might've been had this happened when I was older. I lived with my mother, and she barely taught me anything.

 

[Deleted member 16624]

No,one of them died and the other one left.

 

[Deleted member 12355]

parents divorced when I was 6 months old. Didn't affect me in the slightest to my knowledge, although my life would've probably been a bit different if my parents weren't constantly fighting throughout my childhood, looking at it realistically

 

[Cuyen]

No but it would devestate me for ure.

parents divorced when I was 6 months old. Didn't affect me in the slightest to my knowledge, although my life would've probably been a bit different if my parents weren't constantly fighting throughout my childhood, looking at it realistically

did your mom divorce raped your dad or what happened

 

[Mainländer]

Yes bro. I was 3 years old.

 

[Adolf_Hitler]

absolute degeneracy

My mother now regrets having me. Even all of my achievements are to her dismay, with her always having this general attitude even if she pretends that she thinks I did well. It's the "Do better next time" attitude, and I feel like she wants me to know that's what she feels. A couple of times she even mocked my achievements.

 

[FaceandHFD]

They didnt because it isnt socially acceptable and they are pussies

 

[NoMoreSlaving]

My mother now regrets having me. Even all of my achievements are to her dismay, with her always having this general attitude even if she pretends that she thinks I did well. It's the "Do better next time" attitude, and I feel like she wants me to know that's what she feels. A couple of times she even mocked my achievements.

Sorry bro, that sucks. I would probably just ghost her. But I understand not everyone can be cold like that

 

[Adolf_Hitler]

Sorry bro, that sucks. I would probably just ghost her. But I understand not everyone can be cold like that

She was abused by her mother during her childhood, so I cannot necessarily do that to her, even though I would gladly do that with my sister who shows no respect.

 

[Michael15651]

They got divorced but it happened so quickly it didn’t affect me

 

[Deleted member 15752]

Divorce = Boomer invention. People didn’t get divorced before boomers and their narcissism and hedonism made it hip. “I’m not getting enough fellatio at home, time to ruin everyone in my family’s life!” Now the divorce rate is sky high and marriage is a joke because of them.