Cold approach journal of a 28-year-old virgin

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Colin said:
I sent her a message the day after meeting her, she replied after 24 hours, then I sent her a second message and she never replied to that.
That sucks. What did you send her?

I resort to cold approaching because it's all I really have.

I have no social circle. I have very few friends and hardly ever meet up with them.

then I would try to make new friends, even if it doesn't help you to ascend it is a good cope on its own. Trying out new clubs and hobbies is also possible without friends. Of course there is no guarantee that you will find a gf this way, but at least it is more promising and less exhausting as mass cold approaching.
 
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Erenor said:
Colin @Colin
What do you think of this?
This guy is proposing almost exactly what you did, approaching 100 girls in a month, but recommends practicing social interactions, leaving a good first impression and starting a deeper conversations on males and platonic interactions on females first (just ignore 0:40-0:51). Maybe this will increase your chances, or did you see this already and this is actually where you got the idea from?
muh social skills
 
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BonoboPower said:
muh social skills
social skills do play a role, especially if you're not ugly, like OP
 
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Colin said:
I sent her a message the day after meeting her, she replied after 24 hours, then I sent her a second message and she never replied to that.

I resort to cold approaching because it's all I really have.

I have no social circle. I have very few friends and hardly ever meet up with them.
OP, what country are you located in? Are you in the US?
 
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4. Brunette girl in bright top in mall.
Started walking alongside her, tapped her on the shoulder and said I thought she looked nice. Her facial expression left me in no doubt that she didn't want to be there. She sped up so I just turned and left her.

If you randomly go touch someone like that chances are they'll become startled and feel uncomfortable. Avoid physical contact.
 
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Much respect
 
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I'm good. I haven't stopped completely. But this will be my last post on here for a short while.

I'm nowhere near ascending, so it's nothing to do with that - I'm just going to take a step back for now.

I did 12 approaches today - a new personal record for a day. I thought it might take time to get going but my inhibition was pretty much zero. The 12 approaches took just over an hour. All approaches were direct.

1. Blonde girl in formal black attire.
Lukewarm reaction, quick rejection.

2. Stunning brunette girl in white coat.
Stopped her as she was about to enter a shop. She smiled uneasily and entered the shop.

3. Brunette girl. Freckled face but still fairly attractive.
Approached her from behind. Best reaction so far but gave me the boyfriend excuse.

4. Asian girl. 5/10.
Not very receptive. Quick rejection.

5. Slightly older looking girl, hair tied back.
Her ass caught my eye. Approached her from the side, she smiled and laughed and hesitated for a moment but walked off.

6. Blonde girl, marginally above average.
Said she had to go.

7. Brunette girl with hair tied back.
Receptive - said "thanks" with smile - but kept walking.

8. Brunette girl.
Very much my type. She was laughing, seemed receptive enough but gave me the boyfriend excuse.

9. Blonde girl with thick ass. Fuuuuuck, what I would give to have that up against me.
Saw her on the street and she went into a mall so I went in too. Couldn't help but stare at her ass before approaching. Decent enough reaction if a bit surprised - she said it was "unexpected". When she spoke she only opened one side of her mouth - as if she'd had a stroke or something on one side - looked a bit weird. Her ass made up for it though. Did I mention her ass? Said she was on her break so I said "let's keep it short and sweet - I can take your number"...got the boyfriend excuse.

10. Blonde girl with glasses, walking with two friends.
Saw them at the last possible moment as they walked towards me and instinctively went for it, planting myself right in front of them. The three of them stopped. More receptive than I'd expected. Said to her friends "you two are probably judging me" and one of them said "not at all". Target was smiley but gave me the boyfriend excuse. Her friend said "that's so lovely".

11. Blonde girl with earphones.
Longest interaction of the day. She looked very unreceptive, said nothing at first, just frowned...when she eventually spoke she was so quiet I had to strain to hear her. Asked her what she thought about cold approaching and she said "there's a fine line between a guy being nice and friendly and what I would personally find uncomfortable". She eventually let her guard down somewhat and said "I appreciate you taking the time out of your day to say that to a stranger, so thank you". Didn't mention a boyfriend but said she didn't feel comfortable giving her number to a stranger.

12. Blonde girl, attractive except for huge pointy nose.
Again, looked very unreceptive at first - she frowned at me and said nothing. I was completely unmoved as I smiled and stared into her eyes and spoke in a low, slow voice. She started to let her guard down as I walked with her. I said "I'm not into the social media thing or Tinder" and she said "fair enough" - then I said "but this isn't effective either"...her next words here - "oh, well, I'm married" - cue my response - "there we go - case in point".

0/12.

I wish I had something more interesting to report, but ultimately it was 12 run-of-the-mill rejections.

148 girls approached, 0 dates.

Thanks to those who have posted messages of encouragement and support in here. It is greatly appreciated and gives me the motivation to keep going when I'm roaming the streets and malls encountering rejection after rejection.

Maybe one day I'll get a date out of this but as for anything beyond that...well, the writing's on the wall.

That's all (for now), folks.