A lot of men in this forum already visited escorts (their words not mine), would you believe they were not Incel just because of it?
I wouldn't call them incels anymore, because they're not celibate. I'd try to use a specific term for them. Maybe unwanted or bux-ascended.
However I wouldn't think they have to be excluded from the forum or anything like that. They still share our experience of the world.
My understanding is that if the average woman, think HS or some rando from the work force does not want / wanted to have sex then you are an Incel.
In the end is just a semantic argument.
The moment you put money on the table does not means your Incel status is revoked, many, and I mean MANY betabuxxers today would be Incel if not for their ability to provide.
In the same sentence you say that paying doesn't revoke incel, but that betabuxxers "would be incel", implying they're not incels anymore because they provided (which is paying all the same, just in other form). That is, you're implying that paying revoked their inceldom.
See, there's a contradiction there.
Many of us wouldn't be here if our fathers wouldn't have paid in the shape of providing, and I'm sure most of us wouldn't call our dads incels, even those of us who are single children.
I don't see a problem with your view, what women want is irrelevant, but society now as a whole is ruled by women, if you want sex or the company of a woman, you need to look how they want and act how they want, this is a fact.
I can't brute force myself to have sex with a woman without having consequences, I could do it in Grand Theft San Andreas.
That is true, but if we really want to go back to how things were, or at least to some middle point fairer than the current one, we should stop validating the current discourse by measuring our inceldom status on whether one of them wanted us or not. Ideally, in our discourse we should enforce the idea that women can't have it all anymore and that they need to let go of some of their wants for the good of society if they want men to invest themselves again. So we should start thinking and defending that paying/providing is a respectable way to ascend and hopefully women should concede that they have to respect providers and give them a good deal.
Not saying we must do this, maybe we just want to enjoy the decline, I'm not fully sure about it myself, most of us probably wouldn't even be able to provide satisfactory, on the other hand elites probably wouldn't allow it because they have profited immensely from the male-female separation. It would need to be a social revolution, not a political one.