Because it's a sand only server, when i had the colvin server i accepted everyone. and that's not the one i was talking about.
And again that's not my "gang", i'm in a lot of different "groups", i talk with a lot of people. if you want an idea, i'm in my sand server (obviously), a PM group of around 20 users, a discord chat with only 3 persons, another with 50 people, a very small private server with like 10 users (not incel related even tho half of them are incels and identify themselves as such). these are the active ones, there are others that i'm in but not active all day long, more like once a day.
For someone who doesn't have any friends i find it surprising how easy i can connect with people online.
He wasn't a mod.