What does the word "self-esteem" mean to you?

[Ihatemylife123]

What does self-esteem mean to you guys and describe it in any way, shape, or form

 

[Saint Cho]

Chad

 

[Deleted member 40650]

Chad

 

[crvkek]

fake persona of arrogance and haughtyness to convince others that you ar eworth more than you are. frankly, its annoying. many people just prefer to walk around calm and indifferent. But you have to swell up like a bullfroog and pull your shoulders back and speak in a stern tone and stare people down to exude confidence. smh . all kinda extra umb shit just to walk outside smh

 

[SlayerSlayer]

IT MEANS YOU HAVE BIG DICK ENERGY,

YOU SWING IT AROUND, PUT IT ON A TABLE, AND JIZZ EVERYWHERE AND FOIDS LOVE IT

 

[Subhuman Niceguy]

Being physically attractive.

 

[uglyTruecel1000]

It means not being bullied for every little thing

 

[zephyr]

Yet another abstract quality normies came up with to use against Incels.

 

[bicuspid]

having the drive to do anything at all, except eating and reading forums. I don't have it

 

[Lux]

social status when others say, something valueless if you only have appreciation for yourself while alone

 

[ogleman]

fake persona of arrogance and haughtyness to convince others that you ar eworth more than you are. frankly, its annoying. many people just prefer to walk around calm and indifferent. But you have to swell up like a bullfroog and pull your shoulders back and speak in a stern tone and stare people down to exude confidence. smh . all kinda extra umb shit just to walk outside smh

 

[Deleted member 43828]

Height

 

[ugly_genius]

For the most part: an abstract concept that red-pill cunts use as clickbait and sales-funnel fodder to extract green notes from insecure incels such as most of us once were...

In reality: Chad (tall, good-genetics, etc...)

 

[turbosperg]

From the horse's mouth:

What Is Self-Esteem?​

In psychology, the term self-esteem is used to describe a person's overall subjective sense of personal worth or value. In other words, self-esteem may be defined as how much you appreciate and like yourself regardless of the circumstances. Your self-esteem is defined by many factors including:

• Self-confidence
• Feeling of security
• Identity
• Sense of belonging
• Feeling of competence

Other terms that are often used interchangeably with self-esteem include self-worth, self-regard, and self-respect.




Self-esteem tends to be lowest in childhood and increases during adolescence, as well as adulthood, eventually reaching a fairly stable and enduring level. This makes self-esteem similar to the stability of personality traits over time.

Why Self-Esteem Is Important​

Self-esteem impacts your decision-making process, your relationships, your emotional health, and your overall well-being. It also influences motivation, as people with a healthy, positive view of themselves understand their potential and may feel inspired to take on new challenges. People with healthy self-esteem:

• Have a firm understanding of their skills
• Are able to maintain healthy relationships with others because they have a healthy relationship with themselves
• Have realistic and appropriate expectations of themselves and their abilities
• Understand their needs and are able to express them

People with low self-esteem tend to feel less sure of their abilities and may doubt their decision-making process. They may not feel motivated to try novel things because they don’t believe they're capable of reaching their goals. Those with low self-esteem may have issues with relationships and expressing their needs. They may also experience low levels of confidence and feel unlovable and unworthy.



People with overly high self-esteem may overestimate their skills and may feel entitled to succeed, even without the abilities to back up their belief in themselves. They may struggle with relationship issues and block themselves from self-improvement because they are so fixated on seeing themselves as perfect.

Pay attention to this part:

• Self-confidence
• Feeling of security
• Identity
• Sense of belonging
• Feeling of competence

What does that mean for foids and Chads, who play on tutorial mode?
-- Foid and Chad are confident in his ability to obtain social relationships and sex
-- Foid and Chad are secure because betas will pay for their lifestyle, even if it's all about careless breeding.
-- Foid and Chad should have no identity issues, since they are well-treated by basically everyone since birth.
-- Foid and Chad belong everywhere, they are well-received in basically any social circle just by showing up.
-- Foid and Chad feel very competent because an army of beta orbiters will do basically anything she asks, and will look up to him for "leadership".

And for betas who play on normal difficulty?
-- Beta is not confident in himself, but he believes he can overcome this by slaving away and acquiring experience.
-- Beta is insecure about his ability to succeed, but he believes he can overcome this by slaving away and building wealth.
-- Beta is invisible and has no identity, but he believes he can overcome this by slaving away and buying expensive shit.
-- Beta is not included in any group until he proves he can slave away to "contribute" to the group, and he does just that.
-- Beta feels incompetent, but he believes he can overcome this by slaving away and acquiring skills, getting promotions etc.

How about incels, who play on nightmare mode with a broken controller?
-- Incel is confident in his ability to fail socially because he's ugly, low status etc..
-- Incel is secure that he will not succeed in acquiring security. He's automatically hated because he's ugly.
-- Incel identifies with his own failure. Being a failure becomes the identity of the incel.
-- Incel knows he's genetically exiled from the human race. He belongs nowhere.
-- Incel knows his competence (if any) will not be appraised because he's ugly (failo effect).

So, when a foid or chad say to the psychologist "--mwaa doc my life sucks" that is a "low self-esteem" problem. Just reframing their thoughts is enough to solve the problem. When a beta male says the same, that is a matter of training him like a good obedient ox to slave away harder for his "prize" (bankruptcy following a divorce-rape just before retirement, after slaving away for 20 years to put Chad's sons through college, and a heart attack -- or cancer, soon thereafter).

Even if an incel gaslights himself (or with the help of a thERapist) into "feeling like a chad" his newly acquired

• Self-confidence
• Feeling of security
• Identity
• Sense of belonging
• Feeling of competence

will quickly be crushed by this tiny little thing called "reality". He'll find himself failing and getting excluded, bullied, mocked, mistreated, called names, ignored, etc. by basically everyone he tries to approach, every social circle, every organization etc. and he'll end up getting passed over for promotion in favor of incompetent foids, he'll see Chads impregnating his oneitis (and ghosting her), he'll be ignored and not appreciated for his skills no matter how impressive, he'll be truly accepted in no social circle, etc. etc.

Therefore when an incel says that his life sucks, that demonstrates level-headedness and a sane appraisal of reality. There is nothing to "feel bad" about acknowledging your life sucks --- if, and only if, it does indeed suck. In the incel situation, all that's left is serene acceptance of reality and learning to cope with it.

See this part:

People with healthy self-esteem:

• Have a firm understanding of their skills
• Are able to maintain healthy relationships with others because they have a healthy relationship with themselves
• Have realistic and appropriate expectations of themselves and their abilities
• Understand their needs and are able to express them

What does it mean for an incel?
-- He may have perfect understanding of all his skills and yet he'll know he'll be dejected due to his looks (failo effect).
-- He'll not be able to maintain healthy relationships because he's ugly, regardless of how healthy is his relationship with himself.
-- His "realistic and appropriate expectations of themselves and their abilities" indicate he'll fail at basically every social situation.
-- He may understand very well his need for social relationships, sex, belonging, friendship etc. and yet can't fulfill those.

So, an incel a with "healthy self-esteem" basically means he's accepted he played the genetic lottery and lost.

 

[Zhou Chang-Xing]

View: https://youtu.be/ZjGT074oQow


This is what self-esteem is, it is largely low-Neuroticism and / or high ability. If you're good at something you feel confidence doing it, if you're bad at something you know that you won't perform well and won't feel as confident.

Don't get me wrong, Noobs often overestimate their ability because they simply don't know the entire iceberg of the skill they haven't mastered (this is called the Dunning-Kruger Effect). But generally speaking those that are successful have higher self-esteem because they know that they are likely to win.

You wouldn't have low self-esteem if you're constantly winning... Unless you're highly Neurotic and have imposter syndrome.

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

[UWSL]a realistic respect for or favorable impression of oneself; self-respect.[/UWSL]
[UWSL]an inordinately or exaggeratedly favorable impression of oneself: [/UWSL]

Re: A small question

AnonyAnonymous Join Date: 2013-06-23 Post Count: 6332

#145888102Friday, September 12, 2014 5:06 AM CDT In a very wide majority of cases, low self-esteem is a very motivating factor combined with perhaps emotional trauma the person may have experienced.

AnonyAnonymous Join Date: 2013-06-23 Post Count: 6332

#154412912Wednesday, January 21, 2015 10:03 PM CST "WHY DO YOU LET YOURSELF BE AN EASY TARGET FOR PEOPLE" Although the following statements may appear as patronizing or otherwise negative, I'm not trying to insult you, I'm merely trying to help you rationalize the situation. In society, 'acceptance' is a necessary aspect beginning from the very critical durations of cognitive development, failure to feel accepted by other individuals has some degree of influence on your psychological state, though this varies on an individual basis. These other individuals, who are targeting you, are likely targeting you simply because you aren't accepted in their clique and thus harassing you is a mechanism for the individuals involved to gain support from other members of their Social-Circle without being ridiculed as many people tend to avoid sources they're uncertain and thus uncomfortable with. I'm assuming, then, that you're feeling insecure due to the consistent insults you've received and perceive yourself as inferior, which would be completely incorrect. Though this may certainly be difficult to comprehend at the current duration of time, each individual has characteristics that vary from another person, the people bullying you are likely attempting to make their "Friends" perceive them as 'good' as a method of increasing self-confidence that they may be lacking. I'd highly suggest that you communicate with someone you trust about the situation and attempt to adapt how you perceive the issues involving yourself, although you may be receiving insults, you certainly aren't inferior and shouldn't consistently be aggressively criticized.

Re: I JUST NEED HELP ON ONE QUESTION

AnonyAnonymous Join Date: 2013-06-23 Post Count: 6332

#148434879Wednesday, October 22, 2014 6:48 PM CDT "D" seems rather plausible as the independence and self-reliance he acquired appears to have certainly given him more confidence.