Discussion What do you struggle with? How do you cope?

[Mango]

that is absolutely brutal tbh height and lookspills combined are a recipe for disaster. Dont worry about school though. School can fuck itself, its often not geared towards stimulating peoples interests and strengths. Plenty of ways to rectify it after school. I've seen plenty of people manage that. Social statuspill is brutal though.

I've actually always wanted to live somewhere with a decent climate. Some fucking island with cyan waters and stuff. Relaxing and calm type of thing. That would be an existencegasm. A place away from society in any regard would be nice so long as it wasnt run down as fuck. Just somewhere one can settle without having to deal with the hostility of others. You can definitely start building a small home gym already I guess. Just little things that can help you out.

Yeah school was brutal. Some of my biggest blackpill were experienced there. I had a slight idea that was something wrong with me and how society treated me, but I mostly brushed it to the side and fed myself copium. The most brutal thing about school was learning that alot of the Chads and normies we're not only better looking and socially accepted than me, but smarter.


As for my dream climate I would be live somewhere mild like SoCal or maybe somewhere with four seasons, like New York or New Jersey. Obviously cost of living is gonna play a factor in where I live but I'm guessing that I'll most likely stay on the East Coast.

 

[The Enforcer]

Yeah school was brutal. Some of my biggest blackpill were experienced there. I had a slight idea that was something wrong with me and how society treated me, but I mostly brushed it to the side and fed myself copium. The most brutal thing about school was learning that alot of the Chads and normies we're not only better looking and socially accepted than me, but smarter.


As for my dream climate I would be live somewhere mild like SoCal or maybe somewhere with four seasons, like New York or New Jersey. Obviously cost of living is gonna play a factor in where I live but I'm guessing that I'll most likely stay on the East Coast.

School just sucks. especially as a future lifelong reject. Copium is always nice though.

I'm not even sure entirely locationwise where i'd like to end up in an ideal world. Im sure theres plenty of based places. I'd probably have to look into them more though tbh.

 

[9372023464988394]

I'm in a lot of physical pain.

 

[The Enforcer]

I'm in a lot of physical pain.

What's wrong man?

 

[UnknownR]

Struggle with my looks and poor mental health. Guess I cope by isolating myself completely as a NEET from others and by drugs occasionally, and video games, entertainment. I've had days where I feel so ugly I can't even leave my house

 

[9372023464988394]

What's wrong man?

Something I suffer from. There are many hobbies that I would like to try but this poor health makes it very difficult. I'm also a poorcel. Feeling a like a legit third class citizen.

 

[The Enforcer]

Something I suffer from. There are many hobbies that I would like to try but this poor health makes it very difficult. I'm also a poorcel. Feeling a like a legit third class citizen.

That's brutal man. Is there no cure/treatment for it? Are there any things you can do that help at all that you enjoy?

 

[9372023464988394]

That's brutal man. Is there no cure/treatment for it? Are there any things you can do that help at all that you enjoy?

It will probably slowly get easier but I have no idea how long it will take. I just watch a lot of youtube and chat with people online.

 

[The Enforcer]

It will probably slowly get easier but I have no idea how long it will take. I just watch a lot of youtube and chat with people online.

Well, hopefully things get easier sooner rather than later. Hope it all works out for you tbhngl. Youtube is good to fill time I guess, but I pretty much spend my days talking to people online too. It's good cope

 

[9372023464988394]

Well, hopefully things get easier sooner rather than later. Hope it all works out for you tbhngl. Youtube is good to fill time I guess, but I pretty much spend my days talking to people online too. It's good cope

Thanks dude.

 

[_meh]

Tbh, a relationship would transform my life tbh. People dont seem to realise how important they are because they're lucky enough to have them. They dont know any different. Which is ironic because there are countless non-incels who literally cannot function without a relationship. I've seen countless of them, if they break up, they get someone else within the week because they cant bare to be alone. Privileged that theyre able to just do that tbh.

As for porn I dont really care for it. I dont watch it. I'm an imaginationcel jfl. Weights and exercise are good though. For most people they're great ways to maintain some level of mental clarity as well as just a good distraction in general from life. Plus they give you some tangible benefits aha. Keep that up for sure. I quite like puzzle based stuff too tbh. They're pretty interesting and distracting. Minesweeper is one that I sometimes rot with.

Yeah many non-incels can't fathom the idea of being alone for one week. The start of the pandemic drove a lot of them insane, but we were obviously better prepared for it because we didn't had much of a social life at all (before going into it).

The porn stuff is just mainly to get shit out of my head, I was wish I can have zero sex drive/desire to think less about it.

 

[The Enforcer]

Thanks dude.

anytime. Keep updated if any good news

 

[The Enforcer]

Yeah many non-incels can't fathom the idea of being alone for one week. The start of the pandemic drove a lot of them insane, but we were obviously better prepared for it because we didn't had much of a social life at all (before going into it).

The porn stuff is just mainly to get shit out of my head, I was wish I can have zero sex drive/desire to think less about it.

The pandemic was kind of funny in the sense that our jokes about them not lasting a week in our shoes came true jfl. Somehow after the pandemic started, suddenly human connection was a necessity and people couldnt just "find happiness elsewhere" and be happy with themselves.

 

[_meh]

The pandemic was kind of funny in the sense that our jokes about them not lasting a week in our shoes came true jfl. Somehow after the pandemic started, suddenly human connection was a necessity and people couldnt just "find happiness elsewhere" and be happy with themselves.

Lol.

Seeing the videos of celebrities crying and saying "we're all in this together."

All quite comical.

Yeah that shit really slapped their faces. Really shows that they can't practice what they preach, especially when they're used to having it so good for themselves.

 

[The Enforcer]

Lol.

Seeing the videos of celebrities crying and saying "we're all in this together."

All quite comical.

Yeah that shit really slapped their faces. Really shows that they can't practice what they preach, especially when they're used to having it so good for themselves.

I stupidly assumed that it would help people relate to us more and realize what we have to deal with. But no. They experience a fraction of inceldom, namely the forced isolation and exclusion, and instead they just sort of appropriate it. Almost going "shush, this is our issue now, go away"

 

[wei#3959]

Tired of life just wanna ldar

 

[based_meme]

My struggles are over. I gave up a long time ago when I finally accepted the black pill without knowing it by name. The feeling is like a great wave of serenity, followed by a period of sadness, then lasting peace (with the occasional bouts of anger and resentment towards missing out on the basic life experiences). My body is middle age, but my mind feels like an old man's who feels like his time is over and he's just waiting to die.

I guess more recently my more surface level struggle has been finding new copes. Video games aren't fun for me anymore. Online games are filled cheaters and cracked 12 year olds high on red bull. Most single player games are dog shit.

 

[The Enforcer]

Tired of life just wanna ldar

sadly relatable

 

[Ahnfeltia]

Im dying

Yeah that would do it too. What ails you if I may ask?

 

[Ahnfeltia]

My struggles are over. I gave up a long time ago when I finally accepted the black pill without knowing it by name. The feeling is like a great wave of serenity, followed by a period of sadness, then lasting peace (with the occasional bouts of anger and resentment towards missing out on the basic life experiences). My body is middle age, but my mind feels like an old man's who feels like his time is over and he's just waiting to die.

I suppose I'm still in the sadness period then. How long did your sadness period roughly last?

 

[Puppeter]

Yeah that would do it too. What ails you if I may ask?

Life itself

 

[Ahnfeltia]

Life itself

Your life or life in general?

 

[Nemesis]

Hugging my pillow, playing games, imagine my gf

 

[RuudVanNistelrooy]

Food, movies, alcohol.

 

[based_meme]

I suppose I'm still in the sadness period then. How long did your sadness period roughly last?

Lasted years. About close to five for me.

 

[The Enforcer]

My struggles are over. I gave up a long time ago when I finally accepted the black pill without knowing it by name. The feeling is like a great wave of serenity, followed by a period of sadness, then lasting peace (with the occasional bouts of anger and resentment towards missing out on the basic life experiences). My body is middle age, but my mind feels like an old man's who feels like his time is over and he's just waiting to die.

I guess more recently my more surface level struggle has been finding new copes. Video games aren't fun for me anymore. Online games are filled cheaters and cracked 12 year olds high on red bull. Most single player games are dog shit.

Definitely a lot of solace to be found by accepting the reality of things tbh. It removes all the confusion and need for extensive self hate. I feel the same though. Being uttely alone at this age is like an entire lifetime. It just ages you. I'm glad I wont have to deal with living a full lifetime.

Also relatable tbh. I find it hard to enjoy near anything nowadays. Everything just becomes a chore. It just seems pointless and futile. It doesnt matter because ultimately i'll never truly be happy. So everything just becomes a victim of anhedonia. Hopefully you can find something that piques your interest though

 

[The Enforcer]

Hugging my pillow, playing games, imagine my gf

mfw grasping fabric is the closest I have to real hugs jfl

 

[The Enforcer]

Food, movies, alcohol.

Alcohol for sure. My favorite cope

 

[frankie.driver]

Just thought i'd make a thread where people can discuss things or realities they struggle with, things that bother them. How they cope. Wishful but maybe find ways to better cope, distract from or easier deal with shitty reality. Inceldom is a miserable circumstance to be afflicted with tbh but fuck, if anything can lower the burden even slightly its good.

Jfl consider it some shitty "group therapy" Atleast unlike actual therapists, we understand the circumstance. Not exactly meant to be a "solutions to inceldom" thread because as we all know, there aren't really any surefire ways at all baring say surgery or someshit. Just a thread to maybe help people cope a bit easier. God knows during the festive seasons while everyone else is out having fun and being accepted by the world, we have no one, and have to suffer in this cold. So hopefully it makes someone feel somewhat better even if for a moment.

turbomanlet, severe social anxiety and literally no social life. My old man keeps fighting with my mother and I get constantly mogged( in nearly every aspect possible) by 80 percent of the population of my city . I really hope that it is possible to die while youre sleeping. Do I cope? Honestly, I have no idea HOW to cope with all what is currently happening in my life.

 

[Puppeter]

Which country? We dont really have a whole lot of that round here unless I go to the countryside. Unfortunately I dont see much point for myself. I find it hard to enjoy things nowadays. If i've no one to share the moment with, it's just grey. I do appreciate the calm of nature though. Atleast such places are rarely filled with malicious people

Albania , its full of hills and mountains i live in a hill myself so its pretty nice with the view and greenish nature
Really wish you could enjoy this

 

[frankie.driver]

-I try to dont go to places and hours in which you will find a lot of couples(specially if they are young and tallfags).

based

 

[Don Vito]

My struggles are over. I gave up a long time ago when I finally accepted the black pill without knowing it by name. The feeling is like a great wave of serenity, followed by a period of sadness, then lasting peace (with the occasional bouts of anger and resentment towards missing out on the basic life experiences). My body is middle age, but my mind feels like an old man's who feels like his time is over and he's just waiting to die.

I guess more recently my more surface level struggle has been finding new copes. Video games aren't fun for me anymore. Online games are filled cheaters and cracked 12 year olds high on red bull. Most single player games are dog shit.

Play Pokemon.

 

[based_meme]

Hopefully you can find something that piques your interest though

Thanks brocel. I'm currently debt free and don't owe anyone any favors. That puts me ahead of the game due to that fact alone. I can take a dramatic life turn at any point if I want.

I doubt something new will pique my interest enough for me to cope for decades more. Ironically, something like WWIII - a catastrophic historic event - might breathe new life into me.

 

[based_meme]

Play Pokemon.

I think I'd rather kms.

 

[Repulsive123]

Can't exactly list the reasons from the top of my head.

It's just mainly not having a gf, I can cope without having friends (even though it maybe nice to hang out with a fellow bro or even incel), but having a gf just matters more. I accept the fact that I won't get a gf (tried online dating/apps for a while) and will plan to escortcel in a few years.

Anyways I mostly cope with watching porn (need to get it out of my system so I don't look at very woman when I'm outside and minimize being distracted by horny shit), lifting weights to get out the pent up emotions and to get stronger (feel that part too), watching anime, watching youtube, solve some physics equations for fun, and playing some video games (the usual stuff like most guys here).

Being a low iq mentally ill non nt abomination. I could cope with being incel if I had something going for me but alas the life a genetic dead end retard

 

[Don Vito]

I struggle with the fact that i live with my hoarder mother and my living conditions are worse than some homeless dudes out there. I don't have a shower at home, the place is closed there's no ventilation, it's full of bugs and trash. To go to the bathroom i have to move a lot of shit and doing it everytime you want to go makes you nuts. I'm constantly ashamed of people looking at my house and seeing how dirty, ugly and disgusting it is. It's summer now and it's too fucking hot to live.


I hate the fact that my grandmother gave all of her money to my uncle and he's spending it on whores, drugs, alcohol. He later comes to me and shares his "advice" and i get so fucking mad about it, cause what advice you gonna give me you motherfucker? He also is really tall and a lot of women are into him just bc he's tall and remotely good looking.

I also hate my father because when my mother left him he started being mean to me and i had to go to his place every other weekend. He would go full psycho a lot of the times and was screaming at my face, sometimes pulled my ear and always was a fucking hard person to be around. Always walking on eggshells.

Now i'm 27 and broken beyond measure. Sure i can make "friends" but that's all based on lies. I resent both of my parents and my grandmother to some degree, i also care for them a bit too. But it's too fucking hard to always had to accept my shitty circumstances forced by outside factors.

But then they go "oohhhh how lazy you are, and what has that to do with you?" Nothing fucker, absolutely nothing that you did may have impacted in that nowadays i want to just stare at the ceiling watch videos and do nothing all day.

So yeah my life was always about "understanding" i have to understand that my mother is mentally-ill and that the reason she dosn't clean it's not because she dosn't want to. I have to understand that my father had a rough childhood. Same with my grandmother. And nowadays i also have to understand that i have been fucking unlucky and learned that i'm unnatractive to women cause i'm fucking short and ugly and balding.....

I don't really understand why i'm even alive

My condolensces. I didnt know that your family was this messed up. I always thought you were fine in that department due to the positiveness or lack of angryness in your posts.

 

[Don Vito]

I struggle with fear of balding. I know I'm balding every day and I also know I'm aging and losing my youth. I cope by jerking off copious amounts till my brain is numb and then visiting forums, discord, YouTube. Whatever keeps me active untill I fall asleep.

How ild are you sir?

 

[deleted fren]

How ild are you sir?

18. Brutal I know.

 

[Don Vito]

18. Brutal I know.

I read someone gave you advise. But I was tou I would also go to lookmax.org, explain your situation and see what they recommend in order to prevent or at least slow down the balding until you can afford a hair transplant(if is necesary).

 

[Nikalas]

I am 5'7, I feel like my entire life is over just by that alone. I have basically no future since I was too autistic too get good grades in school. I struggle to get friends and the ones I do have I am always overshadowed, I feel like a loser even in my own friendgroup. I have no talents even if I put countless hours in, no matter how hard I try I can't even come up to an average level. I struggle a lot with jealousy, I get jealous extremely easily and it destroys my relationships with people, I can't even count the amount of people I have lost due to it. I try to cope with drugs and shit but it makes me feel shit as well. Nothing works, I just rot. I feel like I have no one to talk to about my problems, never, and when I do it just drives people away. I just want a best friend since I have never had one, well I have but the feelings have never been mutual with anyone. If people can't even like me enough to be their best friend I can't even begin to imagine a girl liking me. My life is over and I am a jealous loser.

 

[Don Vito]

Waking up and feeling trapped in my own body. I get on TikTok and see people living normals lifes. Knowing I’ll never have that is a death feeling I feel everyday I wake up . Going outside , is death the stares ,laughter and gossip. I honestly can’t take it there’s more but you get the just

Tiktok is not that bad. You can train the algorithm to stop watching that normie content.

If you only give like and seek for channels that talk only about Ben 10. The conent of those Chads and foids will slowly dissapear and you will only have content of Ben 10.

 

[Don Vito]

I am 5'7, I feel like my entire life is over just by that alone. I have basically no future since I was too autistic too get good grades in school. I struggle to get friends and the ones I do have I am always overshadowed, I feel like a loser even in my own friendgroup. I have no talents even if I put countless hours in, no matter how hard I try I can't even come up to an average level. I struggle a lot with jealousy, I get jealous extremely easily and it destroys my relationships with people, I can't even count the amount of people I have lost due to it. I try to cope with drugs and shit but it makes me feel shit as well. Nothing works, I just rot. I feel like I have no one to talk to about my problems, never, and when I do it just drives people away. I just want a best friend since I have never had one, well I have but the feelings have never been mutual with anyone. If people can't even like me enough to be their best friend I can't even begin to imagine a girl liking me. My life is over and I am a jealous loser.

Where you live?

 

[Don Vito]

Heightpill is a very brutal pill tbh

Rotting is comfy though. I dont see prostitutes, just not for me but for those that it's a good cope for I say go for it. Dopaminemaxx. And yeah I try to avoid going out nowadays too, not just due to couples and whatnot. I just dont like all the stupid looks and dirty comments people give me. It ruins going out and is just demoralizing

Heightpill for me is the most brutal IMO and more as an ethnic man. White short dudes can get a noodlewhore at least. Balding men have their niche if they are tall. Ugly men have their niche if they are tall. Thugmaxxers have their niche if they are tall. But short men of any kind dont. If your turboshort NEVER BEGAN. Also you cant be a jerk as a short guy because they will think you will have "napoleon complex". So I just rather to be "nice" to keep things in peace.


Rotting in my room is only nice in summer because thats when I usually request vacations and because is nice to see the sunny day through my bedroom's window.


I like to go outside. IDK. I used to watch anime in my early teens and I always liked the backgrounds so I used to compare them in real life. I give shit if foids triggered themselves with my existence as long I dont eye contact to them. Nowadays I cope that Im in a movie BUT I dont like when a lot of couples and tallfags are around. I feel tera-mogged and old fashioned.

 

[Ahnfeltia]

I am 5'7, I feel like my entire life is over just by that alone.

5'7" ain't that bad right? I'm 5'7" too btw

 

[Don Vito]

5'7" ain't that bad right? I'm 5'7" too btw

It depends of the country. I'd wish to be 5'7 ngl. (Im shorter yes It never began).

 

[Justdone]

I don’t get to talk to people irl that much and I abandon things quickly. I haven’t socialized in years and i still don’t have much anxiety enough to become a shut in.

 

[The Enforcer]

turbomanlet, severe social anxiety and literally no social life. My old man keeps fighting with my mother and I get constantly mogged( in nearly every aspect possible) by 80 percent of the population of my city . I really hope that it is possible to die while youre sleeping. Do I cope? Honestly, I have no idea HOW to cope with all what is currently happening in my life.

Social anxiety sounds brutal af tbh. Where do you live? Is it a big city at all? The locationpill can be fairly brutal tbh. And understandable. Somethings are hard to cope with ngl. They drag along constantly seemingly to no end. Stressmaxxers

 

[The Enforcer]

Albania , its full of hills and mountains i live in a hill myself so its pretty nice with the view and greenish nature
Really wish you could enjoy this

huh, that sounds alright tbh. I like seeing pictures of such views. Always just want to sit somewhere like that, let a sunset go while i'm doped the fuck out with some whiskey, a cigar and a death during my sleep. A nice sight to lull me out of this existence

 

[The Enforcer]

Thanks brocel. I'm currently debt free and don't owe anyone any favors. That puts me ahead of the game due to that fact alone. I can take a dramatic life turn at any point if I want.

I doubt something new will pique my interest enough for me to cope for decades more. Ironically, something like WWIII - a catastrophic historic event - might breathe new life into me.

That's good to hear. A modicum of stability atleast, and in an area that many people don't realize is absolutely crucial. Problems with that sort of stuff can certainly turn bad very quick so at least that's under control.

Tbh I can't really think of anything else anymore either. Most things in this world are stale given they're all pretty much "single-player" jfl. I got banned from "multiplayer" in this life due to ugliness. WW3 would be very interesting though. I dont think the universe would be at loss if this world got another reset. Humans suck, we've failed in my opinion. We are a shit, shallow species. Let the animals own the place again or just let the planet remain as a desolate floating rock.

Would be interesting if all the nuke shit that we have on this planet could cause enough inertia to slightly tap the earth out of its natural orbit. Then it would certainly be stuck as just another rock.

 

[The Enforcer]

Me being non-NT ruins my life. I can't deal with anything and everything feels like too much. I'm also very depressed and hate the fact that my life just passes by. I will die one day, and I have done nothing with my life. I fear death

I also have to graduate next year and don't know what to do. I havd absolutely no plans for my future and I'm very scared of being independent and having to hold responsibility. I'm pretty much a child in the body of an adult. I'm totally dependend on others and can't function as an independent adult.
I'm 20 years old and don't have any skills needed to survive. And I'm probably too autistic to ever learn them.

Doctors given you any information about the non-NT stuff or is it the usual word soup shit they seem to give people? Death is a brutal fear though. I know when I was younger it used to bother me. The very idea of mortality was harrowing. Nowadays I feel it's more a blessing and I welcome it, and would very much like it to hurry itself up.

Graduation will be good hopefully. Perhaps you can enroll onto another course that's a level above? Gives you time to add something else to your resume and see if you can get to grip with some independent life skills while you're at it without being thrown headfirst into it all afterwards.