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Discussion What do I say when I get asked about relationships and socialising?

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I haven't had any friends for 5 years, never been in a relationship, never been to a nightclub and haven't celebrated a birthday party since I was 12.

I've lied over the phone before on my birthday to a family member saying "yeah, I'm celebrating with my friends later today" but it's not the same when you're in-person and infront of your close family.

There's no way that I don't get asked about this at my upcoming family gathering. What the fuck do I say? Like genuinely what is a good excuse or lie I can give everyone?
 
@UnwantedVirgin @subhuman thoughts?
 
I never really get asked this at family gatherings. I don’t really care that much what they think either.

The first thing I’d say is just to keep privacy. You aren’t gonna be asked to go over your entire social life. So you don’t need to lie that much. The second thing I’d say is that it’s easier to lie when there is some truth to it. Don’t make it seem like your a hypersocial highly nt normie. Just say you have a couple friends but aren’t really that social or you are usually too busy to do much social things. Normies will understand the second one, they are always going on about how busy they are. It’s something they do.
 
I never really get asked this at family gatherings. I don’t really care that much what they think either.

The first thing I’d say is just to keep privacy. You aren’t gonna be asked to go over your entire social life. So you don’t need to lie that much. The second thing I’d say is that it’s easier to lie when there is some truth to it. Don’t make it seem like your a hypersocial highly nt normie. Just say you have a couple friends but aren’t really that social or you are usually too busy to do much social things. Normies will understand the second one, they are always going on about how busy they are. It’s something they do.
K thanks man that's actually useful advice I appreciate it

Much better than having a ton of shitposter/spammer replies with 3 word sentences
 
I need to figure out what to say when my parents ask me if I have a girlfriend or not. I just tell em no. But sooner or later, ill need a different response
 
I haven't had any friends for 5 years, never been in a relationship, never been to a nightclub and haven't celebrated a birthday party since I was 12.

I've lied over the phone before on my birthday to a family member saying "yeah, I'm celebrating with my friends later today" but it's not the same when you're in-person and infront of your close family.

There's no way that I don't get asked about this at my upcoming family gathering. What the fuck do I say? Like genuinely what is a good excuse or lie I can give everyone?
The friends thing is harder to lie about imo but for the lack of gf you have two options, first is to lie and say "I'm not really looking for anyone right now, I'm focusing on x" and not say much when people ask you more or change the subject. This gets harder to maintain the older you get unless you're working every waking moment.

Second is to tell the truth and say "Nobody has ever shown any interest in me or accepted my advances, no matches on dating apps". The responses to this will depend on the age of the person you're talking to, boomers give boomer advice etc. I recently had a chat with my foid millennial cousin about all this and apart from taking me into town to choose some new clothes and get a haircut nothing really became of it.

The older I get the less I mind talking to people IRL about it, still not discussed it with my parents however. I'm waiting for the right opening.
 

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