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Like at some point we all learned that it's just not going to happen. Marriage, kids, any of it......but for how many of you was it a gradual awareness of this over time versus realizing it acutely in a specific moment.
Mine was about 4 years ago when I was 40-41(yes Im that old).
A mom before the moment I was buying some woman tapas and drinks after getting a colleague to set me up with one of his wife's colleagues. Anyways we're midway through the dinner and I can already tell that she's just not that into me. I was pretty used to that look at that point of course. It's hard to describe but when you see it....you know it.
Despite being not into me she's cordial and we were actually having an okay pleasant conversation that didn't feel too forced. When I asked her if she has had any success on dating apps like bumble and hinge, she goes into a story about how she met this guy who "isn't right for me but....but....we just had a real connection, you know?" I listen to the story and it's the typical bs we've all heard- how the guy has a brilliant mind and is one of a kind and they really 'got each other', but it can't work because they are "too fiery and emotional around each other" and "you never know what may happen next with him". IOW, she's very much in love with him and it's been a few weeks since they 'last saw each other'. But I think from her description I know who it is, so I ask and she states yes it this emergency room physician I know of. He's a clear chad. Not a gigichad, but a guy a ton of women(both average and well above average) are dying to get with.
A month later....different girl. Same bullshit look in her eyes. Same cordial pleasant conversation. Oh both these girls are like 6/10s by the way. You're typically white middle to upper middle class early 30s girls. So somehow we get around to talking about skiing, and she states "you wouldn't believe my last boyfriend was a professional skiier". And then......boooom, I got it all. Emergency room doc was a professional skiier over a decade ago. I ask "would he happen to be that ED doc at x?" She states "well yeah....." and then goes on to describe their "intense but difficult" relationship. Surprise surprise it was a 'connection' they had to, and "we really got each other". Soo yeah you get it, she's in love with too.
So as she's giving me his life history(even though they had probably seen each other 6-7 times), a wave of realization came over me. Here were the facts as my mind saw it:
-these two girls are both 6/10s
-over the same time frame they continue to have sex with the same guy intermittently
-the guy is a 9/10
-they are basically in love with the guy, despite each only seeing him half a dozen or so times
GAME.OVER
Mine was about 4 years ago when I was 40-41(yes Im that old).
A mom before the moment I was buying some woman tapas and drinks after getting a colleague to set me up with one of his wife's colleagues. Anyways we're midway through the dinner and I can already tell that she's just not that into me. I was pretty used to that look at that point of course. It's hard to describe but when you see it....you know it.
Despite being not into me she's cordial and we were actually having an okay pleasant conversation that didn't feel too forced. When I asked her if she has had any success on dating apps like bumble and hinge, she goes into a story about how she met this guy who "isn't right for me but....but....we just had a real connection, you know?" I listen to the story and it's the typical bs we've all heard- how the guy has a brilliant mind and is one of a kind and they really 'got each other', but it can't work because they are "too fiery and emotional around each other" and "you never know what may happen next with him". IOW, she's very much in love with him and it's been a few weeks since they 'last saw each other'. But I think from her description I know who it is, so I ask and she states yes it this emergency room physician I know of. He's a clear chad. Not a gigichad, but a guy a ton of women(both average and well above average) are dying to get with.
A month later....different girl. Same bullshit look in her eyes. Same cordial pleasant conversation. Oh both these girls are like 6/10s by the way. You're typically white middle to upper middle class early 30s girls. So somehow we get around to talking about skiing, and she states "you wouldn't believe my last boyfriend was a professional skiier". And then......boooom, I got it all. Emergency room doc was a professional skiier over a decade ago. I ask "would he happen to be that ED doc at x?" She states "well yeah....." and then goes on to describe their "intense but difficult" relationship. Surprise surprise it was a 'connection' they had to, and "we really got each other". Soo yeah you get it, she's in love with too.
So as she's giving me his life history(even though they had probably seen each other 6-7 times), a wave of realization came over me. Here were the facts as my mind saw it:
-these two girls are both 6/10s
-over the same time frame they continue to have sex with the same guy intermittently
-the guy is a 9/10
-they are basically in love with the guy, despite each only seeing him half a dozen or so times
GAME.OVER
