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"Are you inclined to swipe right on a white guy more than an Indian?" I asked 28-year-old Sonali, a friend whose being on Tinder had initially made me consider that the whole thing might not just be for douche-tubes.
""I would lean towards the white guys," she said, "the good-looking Indian ones tended to be very 'Delhi': wanky and over-privileged if they were well travelled, and boring if they weren't. The white ones were usually more fun with fewer hang-ups and better manners. Though there were stereotypes too, like the Americans who wouldn't stop talking..."
"Posing with a car. Vanity shots... A man with jewellery is a major no-no," she listed. "I make an effort to swipe Indian boys but tend to swipe more white. There's more mystery, I think. It's very easy to culturally dissect an Indian boy."
And she's been busy, about 100 matches going at any given time, but if by three figures she doesn't see anyone she's "keen on chatting with, I delete my account, go off Tinder for a week or so and then reactivate it." She's done this six times since January, and has been on only 10 dates -- one Indian, nine whites. "One led to sex and one was just heavy petting," she wrote. "Both were white."
I asked Meera, 28, 24 kilometers away, active 6 minutes ago, "if there really is this stereotype that white men will treat you better, that they won't be as judgmental?"
"That is a belief," she replied. "Indians criticize the West for their casual dates, their attitude towards relationships, divorces, etc. But at least Westerners are open about the things they do. India is the fucking hypocrisy capital of the world."
"How so?"
"Indian men on Tinder think that if a woman is on there, she is looking for casual sex and gets termed 'that' kind of woman. They want to meet, and when you do, they want to sleep with you then and there."
"Like they try to jump over the table at you?" I joked.
"Ok," I typed. "How many of those Tinder matches turned into real dates?"
"Four."
"And how many of them led to sex?"
"Just one. The white guy."
""I would lean towards the white guys," she said, "the good-looking Indian ones tended to be very 'Delhi': wanky and over-privileged if they were well travelled, and boring if they weren't. The white ones were usually more fun with fewer hang-ups and better manners. Though there were stereotypes too, like the Americans who wouldn't stop talking..."
"Posing with a car. Vanity shots... A man with jewellery is a major no-no," she listed. "I make an effort to swipe Indian boys but tend to swipe more white. There's more mystery, I think. It's very easy to culturally dissect an Indian boy."
And she's been busy, about 100 matches going at any given time, but if by three figures she doesn't see anyone she's "keen on chatting with, I delete my account, go off Tinder for a week or so and then reactivate it." She's done this six times since January, and has been on only 10 dates -- one Indian, nine whites. "One led to sex and one was just heavy petting," she wrote. "Both were white."
I asked Meera, 28, 24 kilometers away, active 6 minutes ago, "if there really is this stereotype that white men will treat you better, that they won't be as judgmental?"
"That is a belief," she replied. "Indians criticize the West for their casual dates, their attitude towards relationships, divorces, etc. But at least Westerners are open about the things they do. India is the fucking hypocrisy capital of the world."
"How so?"
"Indian men on Tinder think that if a woman is on there, she is looking for casual sex and gets termed 'that' kind of woman. They want to meet, and when you do, they want to sleep with you then and there."
"Like they try to jump over the table at you?" I joked.
"Ok," I typed. "How many of those Tinder matches turned into real dates?"
"Four."
"And how many of them led to sex?"
"Just one. The white guy."
Is there White Privilege on the Dating App Tinder in India? | GQ India
After refusing to engage in online dating for, uhh, forever, I have to admit: Tinder, the dating app, works in India. But it also reveals and enforces old stereotypes.
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