VanGobbel
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I don’t know where to turn, I have scheduled an appointment with a therapist next week hoping I can get some help with this feeling of complete worthlessness.
Stable job, work out 2-3 times a week, own my own apartment, savings to last me to live comfortably for two-three years,no debt except mortgage, go to dance class weekly, hang out with friends two—three times a week, organise DnD groups, learning how to play piano, plan events and trips both with friends and jobrelated social parties.
I don’t smoke, drink ocassionally, dress smart casual most days, well groomed, proper shirt, tie and pants on important evenings.
I have been described as charming, smart, trustworthy, funny, kind, generous, well travelled, experienced.
Yet despite all of this I have never met someone who would want to be romantically involved. I don’t know what else to do. last time I ever was on a date of some sort was two years ago and before then almost ten years ago.
I am always the one to initiate, to seek contact, to show interest. While almost always kindly rejected I am feeling so exhausted, hurt, unloveable. Never having heard that someone loves me, romantically cares for me, or misses me. Always the greatest friend, boyfriend/husband material but not for the one in front of me. That I am sure I will meet someone that will make everyone else jealous because I am such a wonderful person.
I am so so tired. 42 years, single, friends with everyone, boyfriend with no one. Father for no one.
What is wrong with me?





