One might be able to learn to eventually block out the 'feelings' but to dismiss them as trivial and something u can jus switch off sounds abit arrogant imo.
That bond feeling is created by oxytocin and by all acocunts men don't release much during sex at all, its women who release a lot, so they bond stronger, yet its so easy for them to ride the cock carousel and jump from guy to guy, that alone should tell you what that "bond" is worth and how effective it is
A lot of things can be "switched off", its just that when you have the convenience of choice you tend to tell yourself "I can't"
How many male arachnophobes do you think existed in the hunter gatherer days?, and by that I mean men who would avoid spiders no matter what (a lot of men today won't even play video games with spiders in them due to "
how real their fear is" JFL)
People are what they can afford to be, nobody in the past could have survived by submitting to stupid shit "claustrophobia" (fear of small spaces), you overcame your fears or you died, nobody had the luxury of telling themselves "but but muh feelings"
So sorry I call BS, you were raised to think a certain way and to believe that certain desires are innate to you and you can't do without them
Yet if you were born X amount of years in the past as a marauder as part of some raider tribe, you'd have razed a village and claimed a woman as your wife, and not given two fucks about some "bonding" feeling because she wanted to fuck you, you'd have enjoyed the sex all the same
It always confuses me how people act like all of the things they believe today are constants (absolutes that are just "
SO TRUE") and it has nothing to do with culture and indoctrination
Everything you think you want "in a relationship"
IS WHAT YOU WERE TAUGHT TO WANT, the only thing you really want is to stick your dick in a woman, oxytocin would be released all the same whether a woman is your "girlfriend" (
MODERN DAY TERMINOLOGY AND CULTURAL NORMS) or just your rape victim, it makes little difference
You just aren't thinking about this abstractly, you are thinking about it from within the context you were raised to think about it, and ignoring the fact that humans existed for thousands of years before the cultural norms you believe are absolutes existed
So yes,
IT IS TRIVIAL, and you don't have to "switch it off"
BECAUSE IT WAS NEVER ON, you just think its on
BECAUSE YOU WERE RAISED TO BELIEVE IT ACTUALLY EXISTS