Hi I HL 20M have been having this issue with my gf LL 20F and can’t seem to understand it, it’s honestly so baffling. We have sex maybe once a month and it’s really starting to affect my mood, we’ve been together near on two years.
I’ll try to initiate sex, usually by kissing her neck slowly and paying close attention to her nipples (she gets super turned on from that). I know she likes it from the way that she responds. But then she’ll say to me my body wants it but my mind doesn’t.... what the fuck does that mean honestly. I cannot wrap my head around it, it feels good so you say no?? I’ve tried talking to her and saying that you should let me continue if it feels good but she still stays adamant on saying no. So of course I drop it there cause I don’t want to force her into anything. Then other times she’ll say her mind wants it but her body doesn’t (but I feel like she just says that so she can say she wanted it but it’s my fault I didn’t turn her on so she doesn’t have to engage in anything for another month)
Does anyone have any insight into what this might be? Cause it’s got me fucked (not literally lol).
I’ll try to initiate sex, usually by kissing her neck slowly and paying close attention to her nipples (she gets super turned on from that). I know she likes it from the way that she responds. But then she’ll say to me my body wants it but my mind doesn’t.... what the fuck does that mean honestly. I cannot wrap my head around it, it feels good so you say no?? I’ve tried talking to her and saying that you should let me continue if it feels good but she still stays adamant on saying no. So of course I drop it there cause I don’t want to force her into anything. Then other times she’ll say her mind wants it but her body doesn’t (but I feel like she just says that so she can say she wanted it but it’s my fault I didn’t turn her on so she doesn’t have to engage in anything for another month)
Does anyone have any insight into what this might be? Cause it’s got me fucked (not literally lol).
