It seems every time I talk I say something that I end up regretting and making me relive it in my head all day.

[Deleted member 7448]

Many, many years ago I started telling myself "keep your mouth shut, never say anything". Precisely because of this. I definitely have some sort of mild aspergers or autism, so when communicating with people I always say something I wish I didn't.

Unfortunately I can't keep my mouth totally shut. Actually it might've backfired, cause I'm quiet and alone all the time, so I only talk when I have to. But when I have to talk, I always end up doing something stupid cause I'm so unused to talking.

Every time, literally every time.I end up regretting what I said. It always ends up with me sounding like an idiot or a weirdo. And I always seem to say something different from what I really think or feel. But what comes out of me never seems to synchronize with what I really think. I just blurt out shit.

I have to keep telling myself: NEVER TALK. The less you talk the less opportunities there are to screw up. Don't ever talk unless you have to.

 

[ThoughtfulCel]

The less you talk, the less opportunities you have as well. Take it from me, a creature who shouldn't even be able to talk in the first place

 

[coldmachinery]

The voice in your head that tells you you said some retarded shit is not infallible. It's easy to just go with it and think you're embarrassing yourself, but it's often all in your head. The more preparation you put into speaking, the more stilted and "off" you'll sound in conversation, which leads to you analyzing it in your head and running it back over and over again before you go to bed. I've been there, and it's not worth it. Often, I was completely wrong.

 

[micropenis29]

it's just ugliness

If chad was as anxious and awkward as you, people would find it endearing and foids wuld be turned on by it

 

[Incellectual]

I can relate. I always end up saying something that is weird or offensive accidentally without realizing it later or until right after I said it. I am at a point now where I kind of stopped caring and will get into moods where I just stop giving a shit and will just ramble and make shit awkward. Though I have times where I get super self conscious about my inability to socialize and how cringe I can be which sucks ass.

 

[Copexodius Maximus]

it's just ugliness

If chad was as anxious and awkward as you, people would find it endearing and foids wuld be turned on by it

 

[Sportbro]

The less you talk, the less opportunities you have as well. Take it from me, a creature who shouldn't even be able to talk in the first place

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the more NT you are the better

 

[Ecstasy]

I know what you feel man.
Even if some beggar wants something from me or I just decline something I feel like shit.
I bet all those low inhib beggars and scammers who try to get some service or money out of you never feel bad for their shit.
Whereas we, who only try to go somewhere in peace have to feel shit for defending ourselves.

 

[Deleted member 7448]

The voice in your head that tells you you said some retarded shit is not infallible. It's easy to just go with it and think you're embarrassing yourself, but it's often all in your head. The more preparation you put into speaking, the more stilted and "off" you'll sound in conversation, which leads to you analyzing it in your head and running it back over and over again before you go to bed. I've been there, and it's not worth it. Often, I was completely wrong.

Thanks for sharing, I'll try to make my brain ignore it. I really need to learn how to deactivate that voice in my head. Just living in the moment, no anxiety, no overthinking.

I can relate. I always end up saying something that is weird or offensive accidentally without realizing it later or until right after I said it. I am at a point now where I kind of stopped caring and will get into moods where I just stop giving a shit and will just ramble and make shit awkward. Though I have times where I get super self conscious about my inability to socialize and how cringe I can be which sucks ass.

Yes, we need to stop caring and just go with the flow. All this anxiety doesn't seem to be helping me avoid these situations, so I might as well learn to accept my awkwardness.

 

[Incellectual]

Thanks for sharing, I'll try to make my brain ignore it. I really need to learn how to deactivate that voice in my head. Just living in the moment, no anxiety, no overthinking.

Yes, we need to stop caring and just go with the flow. All this anxiety doesn't seem to be helping me avoid these situations, so I might as well learn to accept my awkwardness.

I switch between apathy towards my awkwardness and being insecure about it and wanting to not be cringe. I think my apathy towards it honestly comes from fatigue from caring about it. As I get older I stop caring more and more and hopefully it sticks 100% at some point.

 

[Deleted member 7448]

I know what you feel man.
Even if some beggar wants something from me or I just decline something I feel like shit.
I bet all those low inhib beggars and scammers who try to get some service or money out of you never feel bad for their shit.
Whereas we, who only try to go somewhere in peace have to feel shit for defending ourselves.

Damn, life sure is weird. People out there doing all kinds of crazy shit and we're anxious about things they don't think twice about.

I switch between apathy towards my awkwardness and being insecure about it and wanting to not be cringe. I think my apathy towards it honestly comes from fatigue from caring about it. As I get older I stop caring more and more and hopefully it sticks 100% at some point.

Yep, we have to cultivate the not caring. Gotta make it a permanent mindset.

 

[Incellectual]

Damn, life sure is weird. People out there doing all kinds of crazy shit and we're anxious about things they don't think twice about.

Yep, we have to cultivate the not caring. Gotta make it a permanent mindset.

I find forcing myself to be low inhib helps sometimes tbh. Like now I will wear clothes that I like but are kind of "cringy" to a lot of people. Before this would have been super hard and I probably would have avoided doing it but over time it gets easier. I haven't mastered it 100% since there are some things I still wont wear but I might be able to move up to that one day.

 

[Deleted member 7448]

I find forcing myself to be low inhib helps sometimes tbh. Like now I will wear clothes that I like but are kind of "cringy" to a lot of people. Before this would have been super hard and I probably would have avoided doing it but over time it gets easier. I haven't mastered it 100% since there are some things I still wont wear but I might be able to move up to that one day.

Yes, that is absolutely what we need to do. More than just clothes though, we need to really stop caring. We're weird, we'll never be totally normal. Might as well make something out of it, we need to get comfortable with who we are.

 

[Incellectual]

Yes, that is absolutely what we need to do. More than just clothes though, we need to really stop caring. We're weird, we'll never be totally normal. Might as well make something out of it, we need to get comfortable with who we are.

tbhtbh. Now I try to just be polite but if I am a little awkward I dont give a shit. I dont want to be mean or offensive (if the person isn't fucking awful) but I have stopped caring if I say something that is a little cringe or socially retarded.

 

[Deleted member 7448]

tbhtbh. Now I try to just be polite but if I am a little awkward I dont give a shit. I dont want to be mean or offensive (if the person isn't fucking awful) but I have stopped caring if I say something that is a little cringe or socially retarded.

I'm polite too, we need to be polite, otherwise we might bring unwanted attention/trouble to ourself. Just be polite to maximize your comfiness. For me it's all about comfort. Any action that might reduce my comfort and bring unnecessary stress is an action that should be avoided. So I just do what's comfortable and that is being polite. I was always polite but sometimes I'd let some of my inner thoughts leak without censorship, that's bad. Over the years it's gotten better though, I'm mostly quiet.

 

[Incellectual]

I'm polite too, we need to be polite, otherwise we might bring unwanted attention/trouble to ourself. Just be polite to maximize your comfiness. For me it's all about comfort. Any action that might reduce my comfort and bring unnecessary stress is an action that should be avoided. So I just do what's comfortable and that is being polite. I was always polite but sometimes I'd let some of my inner thoughts leak without censorship, that's bad. Over the years it's gotten better though, I'm mostly quiet.

I just try to be nice because I dont want to be fucked with plus I just dont like being mean tbh. I hate mean people since normies have been mean to me a lot my entire life so I dont want to be anything like them and I dislike the idea of people being in the same position as me when I was bullied too. I dont act cuckish about it or overly nice or suck uppy but I actively try to not be insulting if I can help it, though I am prone to accidentally doing it anyways by saying something I think without thinking of the implications.