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Serious I am a man without qualities

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One of the barriers I have with connecting with people irl is that I am a nobody. When they ask me who I am, what am I into, I can't answer, and it's a great insecurity of mine. Because these things aren't defined for me. I have no hobbies. I have tried to force myself into hobbies, like learning the guitar or making models, but they never really captivate me and I always drop them. Furthermore, I'm not part of any activities or irl groups that could give me any sort of identity. I try to hide this as much as possible, so I can't express myself to other people. Not only that, but I can't bond with other people at all. Because what are we supposed to bond over? We have nothing in common. Because of this, I am a friendless man. When I am not forcing myself to studycel things I'm not interested in so I can get a job, all I do is LDAR.

This is why I have been drawn to loser type forums since I was 14. Because the only thing I can really identify with other people is that we have nothing to identify with since we are outcasts. And this is the crux of the issue. Everything in life is an experience. I have "lived" and "experienced" just as much as anyone else my age. But to have an "identity" your experiences and interests need to conform to social standards. It's not really an identity per se, but a label that you can categorize yourself as and then identify with the people you are conforming to. As an outcast, you are naturally bereft of an identity. If your identity consists of solitary pursuits, you are really just identifying with yourself, which is worth fuckall in the social world which decides who you are. That is how you become nobody.
 
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I can't hold a conversation to save my life.
 
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same.Most men(including me) are very simple people who were meant to live a very simple life.this idea that we are to derive our happiness from our huge acomplishments and "gains" is a complete meme.we were meant to be born,to marry,to have children,to work,pray,think and then die.we weren't meant to become incredibly rich,rockstars,musicians,painters,comic makers,writers,poets,enginners,scientists,bill gates programmers etc etc etc.we were just meant to be simple man living simple lifes.

sad that i can't get that simple life...
 
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same.Most men(including me) are very simple people who were meant to live a very simple life.this idea that we are to derive our happiness from our huge acomplishments and "gains" is a complete meme.we were meant to be born,to marry,to have children,to work,pray,think and then die.we weren't meant to become incredibly rich,rockstars,musicians,painters,comic makers,writers,poets,enginners,scientists,bill gates programmers etc etc etc.we were just meant to be simple man living simple lifes.

sad that i can't get that simple life...
YES! I think a major problem is the divorce between our pursuits and our necessities. In the past, everything we did was tied to what we need. Like getting food and water and shit. So identity came naturally. You were just a person living. Now that we have those things covered, identity is abstracted and perverted. It's about conformity, serving other people, consumerism, and most of all commodifying yourself.
 
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And so the lonesome drifter, drifts again...

At least you have nothing to lose.
 
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YES! I think a major problem is the divorce between our pursuits and our necessities. In the past, everything we did was tied to what we need. Like getting food and water and shit. So identity came naturally. You were just a person living. Now that we have those things covered, identity is abstracted and perverted. It's about conformity, serving other people, consumerism, and most of all commodifying yourself.
Yeah, I have thought about that before. We want to live what we were bred to do: Get our basic needs met.
 
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A Woman without qualitys , is still loved and worshiped to hell and back regardless. While Man arent.
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YES! I think a major problem is the divorce between our pursuits and our necessities. In the past, everything we did was tied to what we need. Like getting food and water and shit. So identity came naturally. You were just a person living. Now that we have those things covered, identity is abstracted and perverted. It's about conformity, serving other people, consumerism, and most of all commodifying yourself.


high IQ very true
 
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since we are outcasts
That's right. We're outcasts due to our shitty genes.
I can relate. I have no hobbies, nothing interests me anymore.
 

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