nah it doesn't always happen that way; most of curries live with their parents in joint families and all because of backbreaking expenses here; housing included; heck even in rental homes you'll find curry joint families and all
those who live on their own here are either migrating from different cities for jobs or studies etc; or fortunate enough to afford it or ones kicked out of homes by parents etc or runaways kind of unique cases
look at me i'm still sticking to my asshole father at his home because i'm a poorcel to afford my own things yet; while my successful siblings just shifted to their own houses some 120 km away from my place
same thing with me fellow currycel, just my father who did it
imagine your own father turning situations in such a way that long term effect turned into your inceldom so here is my story, i live in a very old fashioned suburban area which is famous for its fisheries industries in eastern side of India, born into a very lower middle class (borderline poor)...
incels.is
during bacherlos when i would come back home for some peace of mind even presence of my father would annoy me so much that even being at home would turn untolerable experience
as for parents venting their anger out;
when my mother was alive my father used to fight with her every single fucking day over random things and all of that left deep scars on my psyche;
as if that was nothing one day my asshole father enraged over something threw a hot pressure cooker on floor while i was sitting in same room and it opened with loud bang and steam and vapour of whatever was being cooked inside spread across room...he threw that on floor about 4 or 5 metres away from me; that noise of hot steamy pressure cooker opening up was so loud it affected my left ear probably tore it a bit from inside or damaging some nerve something; besides this entire experience was so shocking for a 11-12 some old me; i spent entire day crying from pain and agony and took me for a while to recover from that shock
even this day my hearing on left ear is somewhat muffled down and so, it shows extensively when i wear headphones as left one would sound considerably less louder than right one while listening to them together
this was extrememost incident but there were many like this thoroughout my childhood, all of that ended with my mother but it's still stored somewhere deeply in my memories my psych and all; i've had days of going to exams while crying about lack of domestic peace back home and people at school would think i'm crying over exams;
there was another incident when my parents went to a cousin's wedding while i was elsewhere and did not call me for straight 4 days and i became worried so called and asked my mother what happened etc and she cried over phone, informed how my father made scenes there and kicked her in belly that she fainted and they came back and just locked themselves up inside home without saying anything and stopped eating drikning etc - i immediately dragged myself back home from some 250 km away and had to do convincing and begging and all to resume things in family
whenever i look at other people enjoying their married lives and kids being taken care of by parents etc i just feel like my inner child is crying so hard over feelings like i could never get it all from my parents
it's not that we ever faced monetary problems or there was no food or no other things like clothing, schooling et al in my life, but domestic life was just shitty
before my mother died i even told her to just get a divorce and be done with all that; she started crying over it and my elder brother beaten me like a dog over it - that was one of last emotional outbursts between us that i could remember