Where's the evidence they act this way to keep chad in control rather than out of affection?
you said this in your own reply.
1. they only act like this for chad (thats a condition). Basically an if-then logic statement. If looks - then be affectionate. There are two options here.
a) the affection is genuine and caused by the looks - this would mean its a reaction that is not by choice, so this would mean they are not loving but merely reacting. So you couldnt say they are loving people, just like you cant say humans love food. "to love" implies choice, it is a verb. If there is no choice, we can not attribute responsibility. It would be like holding someone responsible for feeling hunger or having to pee. Ugh why do you have to pee, disgusting.
b) affection is disingenuous and just an act to attract or maintain relationship with a person they want. Women display this behavior of pretending feelings to extract resources not just with chads but all men. Example would be how women openly admit to using tinder dates for free meals:
These numbers are from a study published in 2019 in the Journal of Social Psychological and Personality Science. According to the researchers, between 23 and 33 percent of the women surveyed had deliberately misrepresented their romantic interest in a man in order to dine at his expense...
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Getting with a chad is also less about the man, and rather about his looks and social status. Just like with men, if women wanted to fuck chads, they could pay for it (call boy). So we can infer that its not about sex alone, just like with incels, it is not about sex, as many incels could just see hookers. It has to be about something more - something like female validation, social status etc.
It is important to note that women do not see men as equal to them. This becomes evident when considering that women 4.5 times the in-group bias that men have, in fact it is even worse actually, men have zero in-group bias for their own gender in studies I think. I collected some of that info here:
video View: https://youtu.be/WQpC_5Ha7Ng PDF from video is attached here: https://mega.nz/file/8vdG0JqK#0_5wwaI_fB_wgON5h3wwM8utFrk-YwENUoWs7YtlJA4 TLDR - women know their privileges and power. Voting rights for women seemed to take that power from them, and make them equal to men...
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What this means is that from a womans perspective, all men are viewed like you and me view foreigners, while they view their own gender more like we would see extended family, i.e. aunt, uncle, cousin. They dont see men as individuals. Women also do not make choices on their own but check with their in-group if a man is ok to date. So here again we see men being devalued and seen as a resource to be shared by women, rather than a person. A man is like a car, a bugatti, a status symbol that is decided upon by the hivemind, not a person.
Basically, there is way more reason to believe that women are pretend affectionate for all men, than there is reason to believe they genuinely like a man. Also consider the paradox of options. More options = automatic devaluation of single options. We all do this. Women have infinite options when it comes to men = individual men loose importance = quasi psychopathic behavior towards men.
We are all psychopathic towards thing we take for granted. We throw leftovers in the trash. We never expect to run out of water and skittles, hence we treat them like shit. Thats what having options does to the human mind, it turns you into a remorseless psycho. Even incels acknowledge that this applies to both genders - af/bb right? Alpha fucks beta bux. Chad plowing through women without settling implies that men act exactly like women, if they had the options women have. The second a man has the option to fuck as many women as he likes, he begins devaluing women as a whole and treats them like shit. Same thing women do to men.
From a womans perspective, there is just no economical reason, speaking in terms of basic supply/demand rules, to invest in a single man, or even chad. And I didn't even throw in yet that women as a whole have lesbian tendencies, which further dilutes womens option pool - not only are men competing with other men for female attention, but also women, since women fuck other women way more than people think. Women constantly act gay with each other but we just ignore it.
Also, very high quality and effort, good work. Are you suggesting women enjoy being physically beaten and verbally abused, just trying to understand why they stick with abusive men and ignore all red flags.
You are still projecting hard from a male perspective.
1. these are not red flags for a woman, they are green lights
2. yes women enjoy drama, thats why they consume true crime and drama shows so much
This is counter intuitive to a man, because we try to live peaceful lifes and cant imagine someone deliberately seeking out trouble. For men, the consequences of something like this could be deadly and we are already the vast majority of homicide and violence victims. Remember, women are disproportionally less affected in violence statistics.
What men do when women start fights is to think there must be a real reason why she is mad. Then he tries to problem solve it. But she does not care. Thats why men say, oh women are impossible to understand, oh women are more emotional than men - bullshit. It's just misinterpreting how women think. Women start fights on purpose because its fun to them or to manipulate you into having a meltdown. To that end, they deliberately remember shit that triggers you emotionally and then bring that shit up in the fight. It's not about solving a real problem, its about social dominance.
Thats why these fights never end well for the man. He always sleeps on couch or whatever. He cant win, because its not about logic. Its about power. Over years of torment, the guy ends up learning that he cant win, learned helplessness ensues = the origin of all these boomer jokes about the wife being "the boss" etc.
3. women consume tons of rape porn and other kinky, violent media where women are abused
To answer your question:
Why do women stick to men that abuse them, if they have the option to leave?
Because they want to stay. Occams razor this nigga, it's the straightest answer. It's like, why does fatty keep eating more chocolate. Because Hersheys put crack in the chocolate? Is Hershey emotionally abusing fat fucks into eating chocolate? No, they choose to eat that shit because they like it.