Venting Father told me to learn to be happy in doing things alone (anything: biking, sports, etc etc). Asshole or is he right?

[The Wolf]

To me it's so "fucking" boring to ALWAYS do EVERYTHING by myself, I want a gf to do things with - or at least SOME things or SOMETIMES. Even "fun" activities are boring ALWAYS having to do them alone.

But then again I also try to avoid doing activities because of how people react to me.

 

[Balikesir]

I learned early on that being alone is something I will have to get used to. Nowadays its no longer painful. Nowadays its the preferred state of being.

He is right.

 

[kaijicel]

its hard but he is right ig.

if you know you will never have a gf, better to just accept it and try to make the best ig.

 

[The Wolf]

I learned early on that being alone is something I will have to get used to. Nowadays its no longer painful. Nowadays its the preferred state of being.

He is right.

Ok, thanks for explaining, but is my momentary perspective also understandable? As in, it gets boring and unmotivating always having to do everything on my own?

 

[light]

Ok, thanks for explaining, but is my momentary perspective also understandable? As in, it gets boring and unmotivating always having to do everything on my own?

ofc it is we are social animals we arent meant to be alone like this

 

[Based NaziCel]

He is a redpilled normie, obviously

 

[The Wolf]

ofc it is we are social animals we arent meant to be alone like this

Thank you

 

[Balikesir]

Ok, thanks for explaining, but is my momentary perspective also understandable? As in, it gets boring and unmotivating always having to do everything on my own?

Definitely. When I was doing activities alone I was sad and very angry. I did not understand why im the one that has no friends. Why im the one who has to watch by the sidelines as the others play soccer. Why im the last person to be chosen on sports teams.

It is understandable and you will get through it.

 

[aspiecel_11:11]

Being alone is bad, but we have no alternative.

 

[Starfish]

just smile bro!

 

[8CbZA-kHFu6pFgE*]

When society tells you that you should be able to enjoy things alone, its their polite way of telling you that you should accept being a loner for the rest of your life. Also notice how people who give you this kind of advice do almost anything with other people, especially foids ?

 

[The Wolf]

Definitely. When I was doing activities alone I was sad and very angry. I did not understand why im the one that has no friends. Why im the one who has to watch by the sidelines as the others play soccer. Why im the last person to be chosen on sports teams.

It is understandable and you will get through it.

Thanks. Damn, that's so brutal. I was also always the last person to be chosen back when I was in school and had no friends. I'm in my late 20s now.

 

[The Wolf]

When society tells you that you should be able to enjoy things alone, its their polite way of telling you that you should accept being a loner for the rest of your life. Also notice how people who give you this kind of advice do almost anything with other people, especially foids ?

True...

 

[The Wolf]

just smile bro!

 

[Balikesir]

When society tells you that you should be able to enjoy things alone, its their polite way of telling you that you should accept being a loner for the rest of your life. Also notice how people who give you this kind of advice do almost anything with other people, especially foids ?

This is the hypocrisy of society. Women will tell you that sex isn't important but they have sex every day.

Women will tell you being alone is good but the only time they're alone is when they're on the toilet.

Women will tell you to man up and toughen up but they can't deal with our problems

 

[Todd Thundercock]

Yes, he's right. I wish my family would be honest with me instead of forcing me to be social with people, even family who clearly dislikes me.

 

[8CbZA-kHFu6pFgE*]

This is the hypocrisy of society. Women will tell you that sex isn't important but they have sex every day.

Women will tell you being alone is good but the only time they're alone is when they're on the toilet.

Women will tell you to man up and toughen up but they can't deal with our problems

If sex isnt that important, i wanna see them stay celibate for 21 years straight. They would already go insane after s month

 

[Balikesir]

If sex isnt that important, i wanna see them stay celibate for 21 years straight. They would already go insane after s month

Watch videos on women who reach the age of 35. They are getting sex but no longer from Chad. They lose their minds.

 

[B33troot]

Father told me to learn to be happy in doing things alone (anything: biking, sports, etc etc). Asshole or is he right?​

You have no choice but to do everything alone.

But "learn to be happy in doing things alone" is an insensitive thing to say.

 

[8CbZA-kHFu6pFgE*]

Watch videos on women who reach the age of 35. They are getting sex but no longer from Chad. They lose their minds.

Its funny to see post wall roasties who travel the world and dive into spirituality to cope because they cant attract Chad anymore Kekfuel to see how they talk about how they found themselves, what no Chad cock does to a toilet

 

[The Wolf]

You have no choice but to do everything alone.

True. Often, I just don't do it, despite having the possibilities and equipment.

But "learn to be happy in doing things alone" is an insensitive thing to say.

You do understand me though? That it gets very boring

 

[Emba]

Both

 

[SmhChan]

Drop-kick your dad. Nobody gets to tell us to get used to loneliness other than other incels like us.

 

[Fed_911]

Retarded dad

 

[Mike]

He wants you to be happy so he's not an asshole, but you don't have to be happy unless you want to, so he's not necessarily right.

 

[The Wolf]

He wants you to be happy so he's not an asshole, but you don't have to be happy unless you want to, so he's not necessarily right.

Good point. And you can't know this but my father never cared about me. This is basically the only "advice" he ever gave me... other than once, when my parents bought me an expensive, electric 1-person bed when I was 17: on the drive home, after we picked the bed (parents explicably told the employee it should be a 1-person bed, father said to me "you'll spend half of your life in that bed, it's worth the price!"

 

[Mike]

Good point. And you can't know this but my father never cared about me. This is basically the only "advice" he ever gave me... other than once, when my parents bought me an expensive, electric 1-person bed when I was 17: on the drive home, after we picked the bed (parents explicably told the employee it should be a 1-person bed, father said to me "you'll spend half of your life in that bed, it's worth the price!"

That's probably solid advice. I know a few guys with severe constant pain, one's got a herniated disc and can just about stand and walk but not without regular breaks. He's only in his fifties and might have to go on for another thirty or forty years or more with that shit. At least I don't have physical problems compounding the mental ones. Might as well savor being able to move and do things to cope. If we go on long enough time will grind even our bones. Still got some time though.
Like you said, I can't know, but something I've noticed in myself is that having good thoughts and hopes for someone does not make it easy to formulate or put it into practice to show them that. It might not even matter then, but maybe he's super inhibited or has some weird hangup about it he can't even understand himself.

 

[The Wolf]

That's probably solid advice. I know a few guys with severe constant pain, one's got a herniated disc and can just about stand and walk but not without regular breaks. He's only in his fifties and might have to go on for another thirty or forty years or more with that shit. At least I don't have physical problems compounding the mental ones. Might as well savor being able to move and do things to cope. If we go on long enough time will grind even our bones. Still got some time though.
Like you said, I can't know, but something I've noticed in myself is that having good thoughts and hopes for someone does not make it easy to formulate or put it into practice to show them that. It might not even matter then, but maybe he's super inhibited or has some weird hangup about it he can't even understand himself.

That makes sense.

I understood his comment more as, the unintentional message 'you'll never have a gf, or need a 2-person bed for that matter.' (I'm deformed and have facial bone abnormalities.)

But anyway, you're right and i'm probably not taking my advantages for granted, like that I can move and am not in pain.

 

[NIGGER BOJANGLES]

ofc it is we are social animals we arent meant to be alone like this

Yeah, anyone who says otherwise is coping hard. Humans literally need love and sex to be healthy truly. Also have a need for some decent friends too. Being alone all the time is akin to solitary confinement in prison, something they use as a harsh punishment

 

[The Wolf]

Yeah, anyone who says otherwise is coping hard. Humans literally need love and sex to be healthy truly. Also have a need for some decent friends too. Being alone all the time is akin to solitary confinement in prison, something they use as a harsh punishment

Good points. So you understand I'm upset - aside from not getting the love and sex from a gf - that doing actual activities like biking or hiking or anything, gets boring if you always have to do it alone?
Ofc I want a gf for sex and watch movies with her, but also do stuff with her.

 

[NIGGER BOJANGLES]

Good points. So you understand I'm upset - aside from not getting the love and sex from a gf - that doing actual activities like biking or hiking or anything, gets boring if you always have to do it alone?
Ofc I want a gf for sex and watch movies with her, but also do stuff with her.

Yeah, I get it. I feel the exact same way. It’s only natural to feel this way. I go for long hikes on state park trails, and my mind always imagines having a girlfriend to do it with. When I’m doing more intense hobbies like driving a muscle car, this isn’t a problem because the hobby takes all my focus and doesn’t really need anyone else, but the more peaceful hobbies like walks, going to a restaurant, looking at the sunset, laying in bed, and so on are all things I wish I had a woman for.

 

[Exhunter45]

To me it's so "fucking" boring to ALWAYS do EVERYTHING by myself, I want a gf to do things with - or at least SOME things or SOMETIMES. Even "fun" activities are boring ALWAYS having to do them alone.

But then again I also try to avoid doing activities because of how people react to me.

Better advice then Eliot rogger dad or mom

 

[Exhunter45]

Thank you

Social aniamls still have to compete for a mate

 

[The Wolf]

Social aniamls still have to compete for a mate

But I'm no competition to anyone. I thought about an animal metaphor but can't come up with one.
I took it out of my bio now but I'm 5'4" and an actual 1/10

 

[Dr. Butane]

you have no other choice

 

[Neucher The Kanga]

just be happy alone son

 

[Diogenescel]

To me it's so "fucking" boring to ALWAYS do EVERYTHING by myself, I want a gf to do things with - or at least SOME things or SOMETIMES. Even "fun" activities are boring ALWAYS having to do them alone.

But then again I also try to avoid doing activities because of how people react to me.

Humans need socialization, the fact that you don't have it is proof that society is FUBAR. Now, in a coping sense, he's right, but overall he's wrong because it goes against human nature.

 

[NocturnalCel]

It took me years, but I'm finally happy alone. In soyversity, I often got forced to participate in group projects. Sometimes with foids. Being able to embrace being alone is powerful. I don't rely on anyone, and I pretty much can't stand 99.7% of people anyways. I'd rather be alone than be forced to be around foids and chads. A year ago I had to deal with my sister over a family issue and I got so annoyed being around her after about 2 minutes. The stupid shit foids think and talk about is infuriating. I even hate listened to that podcast Koonmala did with those two whores, and it reaffirmed my belief that people are garbage, and embracing loneliness is essential.

 

[underballer]

When society tells you that you should be able to enjoy things alone, its their polite way of telling you that you should accept being a loner for the rest of your life. Also notice how people who give you this kind of advice do almost anything with other people, especially foids ?

Lol

 

[8CbZA-kHFu6pFgE*]

Lol

Whats so funny ?

 

[based_meme]

YTA, sweaty!

 

[underballer]

Whats so funny ?

Ppl like this live unexamined lives

 

[VersoffenerAssi]

Ok, thanks for explaining, but is my momentary perspective also understandable? As in, it gets boring and unmotivating always having to do everything on my own?

The problem is that you assume that a gf would just join in on all the activities and have fun with them.
The truth is that you can't do anything with a lot of foids, unless you're Chad of course. Then they get excited about everything.
In the end, your father is right.
Maybe try to do something with another guy(s) if that's possible. Otherwise, you'll have to get used to being alone.

 

[VersoffenerAssi]

This is the hypocrisy of society. Women will tell you that sex isn't important but they have sex every day.

Women will tell you being alone is good but the only time they're alone is when they're on the toilet.

Women will tell you to man up and toughen up but they can't deal with our problems

Stop listening to dumb whores.

 

[VersoffenerAssi]

I took it out of my bio now but I'm 5'4" and an actual 1/10

So it's beyond over. Never began.
Your father knows it and is honest with you. It's hard but I would appreciate it. Better than some mother who's constantly lying to you that "someday you'll find someone" and other bs like that

 

[land of oblivion]

To me it's so "fucking" boring to ALWAYS do EVERYTHING by myself, I want a gf to do things with - or at least SOME things or SOMETIMES. Even "fun" activities are boring ALWAYS having to do them alone.

But then again I also try to avoid doing activities because of how people react to me.

For me it is impossible to be happy in social dynamics such as sport where the one who is always right is the instructor and never the practitioner, especially in group dynamics such as football.

 

[The Wolf]

So it's beyond over. Never began.
Your father knows it and is honest with you. It's hard but I would appreciate it. Better than some mother who's constantly lying to you that "someday you'll find someone" and other bs like that

My mother isn't different to my father, she never implied or said you'll find someone, or something similar.

 

[VersoffenerAssi]

My mother isn't different to my father, she never implied or said you'll find someone, or something similar.

I stand by it: better than any lies

 

[sk.feelsdevil]

He is correct

 

[The Wolf]

just be happy alone son