As a man, trying to impress women is always a risk. By "putting yourself" out there, you always run the risk of being ridiculed and shamed.
Looking back on my life, all embarrassing moments have come from me just daring to go out of my comfort zone and taking a leap to try to impress a girl or ask her out.
You can lead a life without embarrassing moments if you basically just blend in with the wall and never try to do anything that would jepordize your social standing - because then you don't even have a social standing in the first place.
For me, a usually very introverted person, all the times when I've actually made excursions into being more social and brave in order to attract women, it's always left me exposed to attacks and shaming.
This is what the "just have confidence"-people don't get. You can't just spawn confidence our of nothing and most people who are of adult age have already tried acting confidently but have been shut down time and time again. We learn from our mistakes so why should a person who has been shamed for trying to act confident ever try to do it again?
If I were asexual, there is literally nothing that could embarrass me, because embarrassment is almost exclusively linked to you feeling that your SMV is being tarnished.
For incels who have given up, the best course of action is to never expose yourself to a situation where you can be embarrassed. Just be unembarrassable.
Looking back on my life, all embarrassing moments have come from me just daring to go out of my comfort zone and taking a leap to try to impress a girl or ask her out.
You can lead a life without embarrassing moments if you basically just blend in with the wall and never try to do anything that would jepordize your social standing - because then you don't even have a social standing in the first place.
For me, a usually very introverted person, all the times when I've actually made excursions into being more social and brave in order to attract women, it's always left me exposed to attacks and shaming.
This is what the "just have confidence"-people don't get. You can't just spawn confidence our of nothing and most people who are of adult age have already tried acting confidently but have been shut down time and time again. We learn from our mistakes so why should a person who has been shamed for trying to act confident ever try to do it again?
If I were asexual, there is literally nothing that could embarrass me, because embarrassment is almost exclusively linked to you feeling that your SMV is being tarnished.
For incels who have given up, the best course of action is to never expose yourself to a situation where you can be embarrassed. Just be unembarrassable.
