It's Over Anyone else feels like their parents tried to substitute love by giving you material goods ?

[8CbZA-kHFu6pFgE*]

Im not spoiled at all, but in terms of materialistic stuff i got nearly everything i wanted from my parents, whether its consoles, video games or similar things. I feel like they did that as substitute to real love since they are unable to actually love their short, autistic sub5 son sincerely. This way they can always claim they gave me "love" and everything i wanted, which might be true in their sick, twisted mind. They always screamed and punished me for every little tiny mistake i made (even if i didnt do anything wrong) while my sister never got yelled at once in her entire life.

 

[Skelly]

no

 

[Trident]

yes, similar

 

[Fantasea]

yes but I honestly love goyslop, games, and anime more anyway so I've got no complaints.

 

[Trident]

i remember how they always liked to compare how i dressed compared to some kid of drug addicts/alcoholics lol implying that they love me by giving me better clothes than absolute low life

 

[$₦øωǤя!†₲ų¥]

They always screamed and punished me for every little tiny mistake i made (even if i didnt do anything wrong) while my sister never got yelled at once in her entire life.

That's so relatable for me. My sister was the golden whore that can do no wrong. But I was the root of every little problem my parents had to deal with, even if it was not related to me at all.

Im not spoiled at all, but in terms of materialistic stuff i got nearly everything i wanted from my parents

Nah, I had to beg them to get me anything. They truly hated me. Not to throw shade on them, they did the bare minimum. (I'm still bitter that I couldn't get 3ds but my sister could get her gymnastic classes)

 

[$₦øωǤя!†₲ų¥]

i remember how they always liked to compare how i dressed compared to some kid of drug addicts/alcoholics lol implying that they love me by giving me better clothes than absolute low life

BRO same.

 

[JustAnotherCynic]

Yes.

 

[404BrainNotFound]

I'm Not complaining love games and consoles and money even tho I was neglected probably why I'm antisocial and autistic

 

[dollbuilderx3]

Same here but for me it's different since they were both raised in a offhanded way: they brothers and sisters were their proto parents and their parent away working and once they got home, the father drank a beer in front of his TV or did their things alone. Both my granda was like that. My mom dad was like that and he made her woddenndoll houses and my father dad was an alcholic that drank when he got home. My grandpa (mom) was difficult and oretty tactiturn and i'm exactly like him in personality with autism thought. It happens but kids raised by overprotective parents tend to fail at life since they never knew faikure so once they fuck up, it get bad

 

[Rezecel]

Mogs me, my parents are poor

 

[VλREN]

Maybe

I don’t want to sound ungrateful but I think you might be onto something

 

[coreacheeka]

Nuh, but i remember how my kinda wealthy parents(middle class maybe) were pretending that we are out of money for anything really useful like computers and i was playing on used by elder brother barely working piece of shit, meanwhile there always were money for such "useful" shit as vacations i always hated and wanted just back home during that shit all the time

 

[Abgesang]

Yes they did that a lot to bad that was not what i needed.

This only made me feel worse because i felt like i had to give something back, to bad im held back by my own ineptitude.

 

[RuudVanNistelrooy]

i remember how they always liked to compare how i dressed compared to some kid of drug addicts/alcoholics lol implying that they love me by giving me better clothes than absolute low life

Dr. Gilmartin described that kind of "love" in his book. Nobody is perfect but that is a manipulation tactic.

 

[Maladjusted Jerk]

Kinda but honestly they didn't give me that much anyway.