I'm coming to an age where I sense my death is near. I am not that old, but I have an eerie feeling I must do some good before my untimely end.
Before dying, I want to impart some words of advice to young males. My life is mostly a car crash due to errors I made out of ignorance when I was a teen. They say that some people live just to give examples of
what not to do to others. This will make me feel I've had a positive impact on the world, even if extremely slim.
If you're coming to this forum on a regular basis, chances are that
you are not physically attractive. If you were very physically attractive, you'd already have received signs of interest from girls at school or in other places: eager displays of curiosity about you, eager laughing at your slightest joke, eager desire to include you in social activities.
What does an ugly boy do? What does an ugly boy do to avoid transforming an unlucky life into a car crash?
1) Everything you have been told about love, romance and sex is wrong. It doesn't "just happen". It's not about "finding the right person". Humans are
mammals.
In all mammal species, females have far more value than males. They are more coveted, more an object of competition. This is because pregnancy takes out a female from the reproductive market for at least a year, making fertile females rare. In contrast, males produce sperm on a continuous basis and can reproduce with an infinity of partners. The comparative rarity of fertile females makes them have high value for males, and very picky about their choice of mate. Have you ever seen male animals fighting to the death for a female on TV? The same applies to humans to a lesser extent because we have retained most of these mechanisms in our brains. Chimpanzees, who are genetically extremely close to us, form a violent society where access to young females is given only to the strongest and healthiest males. If you're not a high-quality mate, a high-quality mate will get the girl and not you. Does this sound horrible to you? Depressing? Do you think that if you love a girl hard enough, she will love you back? Well this grim view is closer to the truth than fairyland bluepilling. Even in the Disney movie, Quasimodo didn't get the girl.
2) Looks are the primary factor in making a mate attractive. I'm not saying this to demoralize you: this has been proven by dozens of studies. Looks are an old proxy for health and fitness (eg facial symmetry is an indicator of low gene mutation). Our primitive brain is still wired to find looks attractive. If you look around you in high school, boys popular with the girls are usually handsome. Listening to a popular music band won't make you high-quality. Neither will wearing expensive clothes. Girls will lie to you about what they find attractive. Human females dissimulate the extent to which they are attracted to looks in the hope of appearing morally virtuous.
Studies have shown women say something and do the opposite
3) We have a saying here: LMS. Looks Money Status. That means that if you're ugly, you should try to actively compensate for it by money and status. There are several known examples of ugly, even deformed men who managed to compensate by high status and a tiny bit of luck.
That means you should work hard in school. If you're too depressed to work hard in school, get treatment for depression. Do not deny that you have depression if you have it. Persistent low mood, low energy, irritability, disturbed sleep, cynical and jaded view of everything are symptoms of depression. Go see a psychiatrist asap. Untreated depression will ruin your life.
4) Lose the obsession with getting a girl asap or losing your virginity asap. Assuming it is even possible for you to lose your virginity, the more you're obsessed about losing your virginity, the more you'll be anxious, and the more you'll behave in a shy manner with girls. Instead, take a relaxed approach to your virgin status. It's not the end of the world to be a virgin. In the past, it was actually seen as a great quality. Only since the XXth century has virginity become more and more of a burden. I am 25 and still a virgin; you survive. It doesn't kill you.
5) Be very careful about oneitises. A "oneitis" is a feeling of intense love for a particular girl. Chances are high this girl will never reciprocate these feelings. If you get burned, don't say you were not warned.
Oneitis usually results in clinical depression for unattractive males.
6) Be very careful about pick-up artistry (RooshV, etc). Most advice you can find there is useful, but it can help you only if you're quite good-looking to begin with. Otherwise it will just cause you useless embarassment and rejection.
7) Try to develop hobbies, skills and coping mechanisms that distract you from sex. Work-out regularly. Avoid masturbation.
8) Sex is not everything that matters in the world. In fact, the more you have sex, the more you realize it's not that important. I know a few Chadlites who ascended late in life. Their mental state actually got
worse because instead of being happy they fucked, they were depressed about not getting better girls or about having failed their life/career.
