Tbh I think neither are gross, but people will ALWAYS defend the scenario of the two 17 year olds having sex. At my old high school, there was apparently a guy on the football team who was barely 18 who had sex with a 15 year old and got beat up at a party for it. Absolutely stupid as hell. Meanwhile, there were 16-17 year old girls in my class talking about dating men who were 25-26 years old off Tinder. I also think neither of these scenarios are morally corrupt at all.
I honestly think the worldwide AOC should be 16 or 17. I don't consider men in their 20s wanting to get with women of these ages to be pedophilia at all, but at 30+ it's a little weird. Most 16 and 17 year olds look unrecognizable compared to those in the slightly distant past. It's all the estrogen in the water supply that's causing this.