Why is inceldom painful for you?

[Deleted member 7448]

Honestly, I don't know in my case.

I don't really care about people, I hate interacting with them, I rot at home when not at work. I don't really want to do anything in life, but I certainly don't want to go out and have dates and be bossed around by a foid and shit. Anything that involves me leaving the house is major anxiety fuel.

So why am I so bothered by inceldom? I don't know. Don't care much for validation, if I did I'd try harder to at least not look like a bum. Don't care for companionship cause I just lock myself up in my room and not talk to anybody, ever. I do care for sex but if I cared that badly I'd get a hooker I guess. So why? I can't really answer.

I guess if i were to formulate an answer, it would be this: same as me not having friends. I don't want friends and always avoided people. But there's always this anxiety in the back of my head: I've missed my chances, I'm getting old, what if I regret it in the future? I've wasted my life on bullshit and I have no real experiences. Yeah, I guess this is my answer.

 

[EyesAreSoCold]

Because I'm lonely and dying for female companionship, and also maybe the worst thing is the jealousy of seeing other men getting everything that I have ever wanted so easy just because they are better looking than me.

Honestly, I don't know in my case.

I don't really care about people, I hate interacting with them, I rot at home when not at work. I don't really want to do anything in life, but I certainly don't want to go out and have dates and be bossed around by a foid and shit. Anything that involves me leaving the house is major anxiety fuel.

Did you always feel like this or was it a result of your inceldom?

 

[NoMoreSlaving]

It's the knowledge that you are not enough to be allowed to live

 

[Napoleon de Nascar]

No cute adorable waifu to have pleasant time and stand against degenerate humanity together

 

[Incline]

It's painful coz no real friends. Ok maybe its beta as fuck but I would like to have foids friends. Idk how to socialize with foids tbh. Because I don't know how to meet people. Like where do 22yr old meet friends? Where do I go?

I want to go to nerd shit. But I went once and I didn't know what to do with myself. I'm just not that interesting to talk to, I rather listen. They all know each other already, how do I even break into conversations lmao. Even fuckin nerds rejected me, such ropefuel.

 

[Deleted member 8353]

A combination of reasons, although loneliness is definitely most of it. I'm always the observer watching other people have fun, that is when I'm even willing to allow myself to witness it at all, part of the reason I avoid people tbh. I just wish people actually liked me enough to not have to live like this.

Other reasons include sexual frustration, being constantly reminded of this sexual frustration every time I go outside, knowledge of other people thinking that I'm somehow less than them, knowledge that foids find me repulsive, being unwanted, having no motivation to do much of anything since there seems to be no realistic end goal, and as you mentioned, the thought of how much time I've spent just sitting in my room isolating myself.

I think at this point I'm too fucked up from this experience to ever really fix myself. Even if I magically turned into Chad, I suspect damage has already been done.

 

[Modus Coperandi]

because having a gf is the ultimate life cope.
all my nihilism would vanish instantly if only someone cared deeply about my existence.

Don't care for companionship cause I just lock myself up in my room and not talk to anybody, ever.

same as me not having friends. I don't want friends and always avoided people.

cope

 

[DaveBuster]

Because inceldom is a rejection from society at large, despite being a productive member of it. Normies and Cucktears get really worked up about the sex/romance aspect of inceldom. That's just one element of it. Being an ugly, short man means being subject to rejection, disrespect, and not infrequently honest-to-god violence everywhere in my life. Normies will never understand this, they'll always just hard on about how princesses "don't owe you sex". Sex is the least of my concerns, bro.

 

[Michael15651]

I feel excluded.

 

[Incline]

Because inceldom is a rejection from society at large, despite being a productive member of it. Normies and Cucktears get really worked up about the sex/romance aspect of inceldom. That's just one element of it. Being an ugly, short man means being subject to rejection, disrespect, and not infrequently honest-to-god violence everywhere in my life. Normies will never understand this, they'll always just hard on about how princesses "don't owe you sex". Sex is the least of my concerns, bro.

Well said. They only think its all about fucking foids, they don't see the bigger picture. Just another prove they don't even bother understanding us.

 

[Vermilioncore]

I want a gf to cuddle, fuck, make memories with, etc

 

[Permafrost]

I am a sucker for female validation.

I am a sucker for female appriciation.

I am a sucker for bein coddled and pampered and you need foids to give you that.

Getting none of that has twisted me into a more bitter and dysfunctional individual than I am by birth. And that was quite superfluos.

The amount of sex I have not had but would have had, had I had the chance and the social competence to get it, is a phantom pain in my psyche that will never go away. Even if I miraculously got a gf tomorrow I would never be able to make up for the lost time.

 

[Deleted member 17599]

My sex drive is killing me

 

[Insomniac]

I like being lonely tbh. Being around people just causes me discomfort and anxiety.

I guess I’d like to experience p in v but I don’t want to pay a hooker

 

[Absolutezer0]

Honestly, I don't know in my case.

I don't really care about people, I hate interacting with them, I rot at home when not at work. I don't really want to do anything in life, but I certainly don't want to go out and have dates and be bossed around by a foid and shit. Anything that involves me leaving the house is major anxiety fuel.

So why am I so bothered by inceldom? I don't know. Don't care much for validation, if I did I'd try harder to at least not look like a bum. Don't care for companionship cause I just lock myself up in my room and not talk to anybody, ever. I do care for sex but if I cared that badly I'd get a hooker I guess. So why? I can't really answer.

I guess if i were to formulate an answer, it would be this: same as me not having friends. I don't want friends and always avoided people. But there's always this anxiety in the back of my head: I've missed my chances, I'm getting old, what if I regret it in the future? I've wasted my life on bullshit and I have no real experiences. Yeah, I guess this is my answer.

I don't understand the foid obsession. Foids are retarded end of discussion. Anybody who talks about wanting a foid should be permabanned. It's cope to want a foid. Besides we should talk about more important things, things like the construction of our incelic monastery.

 

[BrettyBoy]

It’s over for many.

 

[Deleted member 7448]

Because I'm lonely and dying for female companionship, and also maybe the worst thing is the jealousy of seeing other men getting everything that I have ever wanted so easy just because they are better looking than me.

Did you always feel like this or was it a result of your inceldom?

Always, since I was a kid.

 

[ihaveno1]

It's the knowledge that you are not enough to be allowed to live

 

[Braincel14w]

Just having to go everyfuckingwhere on my own all the time and having no one at home when I come back. Having to turn on tv or YT just so there isn't absolute silence in my place all the time and trick my brain into thinking I'm not alone.

Eating alone sucks. Going on holiday on your own really really sucks.

The knowledge that I will have no children and will be alone like this for the rest of my life has become a cause for absolute panic these last few months as my hair falls out and goes grey.

 

[Deleted member 16455]

Because foids hate me for being non white and I’ve never had foid attention EVER.

 

[Deleted member 18435]

Because I was and still am denied the same social luxuries that everyone else gets to experience all because of not being "muh NT" enough and not having the looks to compensate for it. Literally everything I truly desire is seemingly forever denied to me due to factors beyond my control. I am indifferent, in despair, and livid all at once on a day to day basis.

 

[michael2222]

Being incel means you are defective in some way, so you aren't allowed to enjoy basic life experiences like having a GF.

This hurts. Especially when it's due to things you can't control, like autism, below average looks, etc.

Then people want to kick you while your down. Your life sucks because of things out of your control, so normies look down on you as a failure.

 

[StaroRavager]

The pain stems from the scorn, rejection, disrespect, and disregard I receive from almost everyone I’m forced to interact with for any period of time. I can never simply be left alone on the rare occasions I go out. I’m haunted by the memories of abuse I suffered at the hands of my fellow man. After years of loneliness and misery, I’ve lost my dreams, I just don’t care anymore. Anything that normal people hold in high regard and all of the lies they cling to mean nothing to me.

All I care about now is my own survival and that’s only because I still have things to take care of before I die. If I wasn’t living in such an “advanced” society such as this I would’ve been dead long ago. I’m incomparable with the reality that I was literally thrust into and yet I remain. No matter how much shit is thrown my way I shakily return to my feet unable to defend myself or escape in any meaningful way. I’ve hit rock bottom and yet I continue to be forced deeper into depths with no chance of gaining a fair lot in life. I’ve seen and been through too much and the realization that it never began for me makes it even worse

 

[Dionysus]

I hate feeling like an alien but Im too apathetic I dont feel that much pain

 

[Deleted member 11032]

I don't understand the foid obsession. Foids are retarded end of discussion. Anybody who talks about wanting a foid should be permabanned. It's cope to want a foid. Besides we should talk about more important things, things like the construction of our incelic monastery.

 

[Absolutezer0]

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Implying that wouldn't be a worthy investment. Literally much better than living in a society that hates our guts.

 

[Valiant Virgin]

In all honesty, it's not particularly painful. I'm naturally very introverted and reclusive, so the lack of companionship doesn't have as great an impact on me as it probably does on others. I never want kids, I have no interest in getting married, I like living alone, I like spending time alone, just going off and doing my own thing in my own time. I'm more suited to being single than in a relationship.

Of course it's not fun being constantly rejected when you try. But at least I can say that I've tried, and that's given me a certain peace of mind.