Why do normans pursue relationships despite knowing that it won't work out long term?

[INVERTER]

If the answer is sex, why don't they just get a fleshlight?

If the answer is companionship, why don't they just try to make friends?

If the answer is marriage/kids, why don't they look at statistics or their parents' marriage?

There isn't a valid reason to get into a relationship unless it's effortless for you. You have to try so hard for something that won't even work out

 

[AutistSupremacist]

Ben, jeo ne sui pas mult seür, a dire veir

 

[gracious sub5]

Your mistake is to think that normans are rational beings

 

[INVERTER]

Your mistake is to think that normans are rational beings

I asked a coworker this question after he recounted all his relationship issues to me. He kind of just said he didn't know and that he gets lonely sometimes. So do I but I can't fathom another person solving that for me.

 

[tired as fuck]

Hopeful that they'll find a companion for life or something. I don't know what it feels like to have a partner. But it must be amazing if all these people have one

 

[INVERTER]

Hopeful that they'll find a companion for life or something. I don't know what it feels like to have a partner. But it must be amazing if all these people have one

I would imagine it feels like a "high" at first and then quickly becomes a hell you want to escape from, like heroin

 

[Ambatukam Alone]

If the answer is companionship, why don't they just try to make friends?

Not the same.

If the answer is marriage/kids, why don't they look at statistics or their parents' marriage?

Stats skewed from serial monogamy. Or, so I've heard.

There isn't a valid reason to get into a relationship unless it's effortless for you. You have to try so hard for something that won't even work out

Agree with the conclusion, though. If you have to work hard to get into a relationship imagine how hard it would be to stick it out for decades. A good relationship should be spontaneous and romantic.

But it must be amazing if all these people have one

Doesn't necessarily follow. Food/water.

 

[tired as fuck]

Not the same.

Stats skewed from serial monogamy. Or, so I've heard.

Agree with the conclusion, though. If you have to work hard to get into a relationship imagine how hard it would be to stick it out for decades. A good relationship should be spontaneous and romantic.

Doesn't necessarily follow. Food/water.

I fucking love food and water bro

 

[Freixel]

They can't think longterm

 

[superpsycho]

the dopamine hit that it gives them

 

[Ambatukam Alone]

I fucking love food and water bro

Does make sense, I just meant it in a "need" sense. They have their relationship, so they don't get stuck obsessing over that and can study/work/whatever instead/without extra coping mechanisms.

 

[INVERTER]

Not the same.

How is it any different? It may take different superficial forms but it is ultimately the same input. Having a girlfriend will provide external feedback that you could also get from a friend. Just because the friend calls you "bro" and acts sort of different on the surface doesn't mean it's fundamentally different IMO.

As far as intimacy goes, any physical feeling can be replicated (fleshlight, sex doll or even just your hand). If people are genuinely desiring sex and those physical feelings from someone who truly loves them without any sort of strings that just doesn't exist. Nobody is genuinely loved for who they are anywhere in the world.

IDK if this is making any sense but I just view all concepts of "love" as theater and these feelings have a rapid decay over time