Serious What type of upbringing did you have by parents?

[Soulflayer]

It's obvious that incels didn't have NTfag parents, if you were brought up and socialised well then you would have never been an incel or knew about this forum. Besides that, how bad would you say your upbringing was and what type was it?

In my case my parents were not overly strict, they did have some rules for me but nothing too bad. The main part of why they weren't good was their ignorance. They didn't care at all what I was doing, as long as I wasn't out all the time or doing illegal stuff. Neither of them socialised me one bit. This resulted in me playing xbox 10 hours a day when I was (8-10 years old) while other kids that age play outside with their friends, I had zero friends at that age. I didn't make a friend until I was age 11, and that didn't last long, because my ignorant parents didn't send me to a normal high school, they sent me to a terrible thug school because it was the closest option to us.

At one point in time they had realised they fucked up, by looking at me in my teens, and acted much differently on my brother compared to how they did with me. When I was near the end of high school (at the time my brother was close to starting high school), I noticed my parents sent him out a lot more, got him to make lots of friends, they sent him to a decent school instead of the hellhole I went to. As a result he never became what I was, he was never an incel, he's a solid normie I would say. He is 5 years younger than me and has had around 10-12 girlfriends at this point.

 

[1ken23]

can't say much besides being really shut in and playing games all day, at least it was somewhat standard
my brother is 8 years old and hasn't gone to school or kindegarten and seems severely autistic so it's over for him already

 

[Mecoja]

I had auschwitz type of upbringing with zero rights, they didnt care for us at all while keeping us locked inside and we were prohibited from having fun or doing anything. Having bread and one meal a day was considered a luxury in many points in my childhood. They were overprotective and controlling and needy while not caring for our future at all.

 

[Mecoja]

8 years old and hasn't gone to school or kindegarten and seems severely autistic

My nephew is the same, plays Roblox 24/7 and doesnt go to sleep until morning.

 

[Potential Rapist]

my brother is 8 years old and hasn't gone to school or kindegarten and seems severely autistic so it's over for him already

make an account for him

 

[all this time]

weird thing is my parents were nt ethnic trucels but i came out too serious and aspie tier, normie jokes never land so they all think im autistic cuz i just like to get shit done and go, i dont like small talk

 

[1ken23]

weird thing is my parents were nt ethnic trucels but i came out too serious and aspie tier, normie jokes never land so they all think im autistic cuz i just like to get shit done and go, i dont like small talk

yeah the amount of times my mum roamed about how miserable and retarded I am because I didn't find the things she say funny was pretty shit

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

It's obvious that incels didn't have NTfag parents, if you were brought up and socialised well then you would have never been an incel or knew about this forum. Besides that, how bad would you say your upbringing was and what type was it?

In my case my parents were not overly strict, they did have some rules for me but nothing too bad. The main part of why they weren't good was their ignorance. They didn't care at all what I was doing, as long as I wasn't out all the time or doing illegal stuff. Neither of them socialised me one bit. This resulted in me playing xbox 10 hours a day when I was (8-10 years old) while other kids that age play outside with their friends, I had zero friends at that age. I didn't make a friend until I was age 11, and that didn't last long, because my ignorant parents didn't send me to a normal high school, they sent me to a terrible thug school because it was the closest option to us.

At one point in time they had realised they fucked up, by looking at me in my teens, and acted much differently on my brother compared to how they did with me. When I was near the end of high school (at the time my brother was close to starting high school), I noticed my parents sent him out a lot more, got him to make lots of friends, they sent him to a decent school instead of the hellhole I went to. As a result he never became what I was, he was never an incel, he's a solid normie I would say. He is 5 years younger than me and has had around 10-12 girlfriends at this point.

well first off you are also unattractive or that problem would have been fixed, some ugly girl would have approached and you would be ok-ish.
but you are both unattractive and unpopular so it's over. you don't have to be monstrously ugly just not attractive.

i remember way back i had similar problems and even tho I got some friends when i was in middleschool, it was basically of no use.
because i was bottom of the hierarchy and they did stuff like refusing to side with me in arguments or not wanting to come to my birthday party, so friends were not useful at all because i wasn't popular enough and they made sure that i knew it.

 

[Gendocel]

None lol

 

[MongoloidJoe]

My upbringing was a single mother no father and pretty lazy parenting from my mother. Although my grandparents and aunty also helped out . Fed good food so I'm quite tall for an Asian. But otherwise I'm broke and have no social circle

 

[squirrelsonfire2]

i had a weird gay dad that walks around naked and his wierd phillipino boyfriend that i never spoke to. and foids calling me homophobic for not watching my gay dad twerk in the living room. and my nickname was gildo (gilligan+dildo) and poor as fuck too

 

[Fallenleaves]

My nephew is the same, plays Roblox 24/7 and doesnt go to sleep until morning.

Based nephew

 

[LeFrenchCel]

Absent but aggressive dad + Gigakaren schizo mom

 

[Namtriz912]

No-one from a loving home ends up an incel or a criminal it is clear we were failed from the get go I also share your experience of being sent to a bad school which did make me the man I was today (angry, loves to fight and isn't scared of no-one).

 

[CorpseWatcher]

Sheltered and neglectful

 

[WuhanFriedPuppies]

No-one from a loving home ends up an incel or a criminal it is clear we were failed from the get go I also share your experience of being sent to a bad school which did make me the man I was today (angry, loves to fight and isn't scared of no-one).

No "loving home" for your genetics.

 

[Namtriz912]

No "loving home" for your genetics.

Having a safe space is important but I know many who'd trade it for good genetics myself included. So I concur here.

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

No "loving home" for your genetics.

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When I was a four-year-old, my parents and I lived in a duplex, where my father would hit Mother and damage the walls, resulting in holes near a wooden desk she used for sewing. I recall pouring soap in my eyes at this age to stop them from arguing.

When we moved, my father would regularly come home and argue with Mother over anything he disliked. He broke the windows in our living room as well as the windows in our kitchen, he broke a "Leopard Statue", he broke our kitchen table, he broke plates, he threw Mother's computer and clothes into the garbage bin. He'd regularly pound on Mother's room door(Used for crafts). He'd yell at Mother as he was driving her to work.

One day, Mother was asked by my father to write a check, which she did. However, he was angry because she was drying off after a shower. This led him to shove her onto the floor(She was naked) and kick her legs repeatedly, which I was present for and saw. He also broke her fingers and cut her knuckles, injured her knees and kicked her abdomen. Our utilities were cut off three times due to failure to pay, and the result was living with my paternal grandparents for weeks at a time. On the day we moved in with my maternal grandparents, me and Mother sat in the dark since my father didn't pay the utility bill("Well, then leave"; he left the house after yelling, which I hid from).

 

[WuhanFriedPuppies]

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Family is everything. You can't build a real family without genetics.

 

[zerozerozero]

medically and physically abusive single mother

 

[Intellau_Celistic]

medically and physically abusive single mother

It was a mistaken idea. I'll return to myself now.

 

[zerozerozero]

It was a mistaken idea. I'll return to myself now.

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[XtremeMax]

I was coddled to the point where I never got any life experience. I've become too attached to them. I can't even leave the house without my parents.

 

[NorthernWind]

I was coddled to the point where I never got any life experience. I've become too attached to them. I can't even leave the house without my parents.

How old are you?

 

[MillionBashStream97]

I was their property (My father literally said that).
And was abused, obviously...

 

[XtremeMax]

How old are you?

22

 

[NorthernWind]

22

You can try to go outside without them

 

[RegularManlet]

My parents would constantly tell me I would be a CEO or a President. I did not know how to wash my own hands or pour my own cup of orange juice, I did not even shower alone until I was 13. They would not let me out with friends. Gaslighting. No phone until 16.

 

[Soulflayer]

No "loving home" for your genetics.

Having a safe space is important but I know many who'd trade it for good genetics myself included. So I concur here.

no genetics for your shit upbringing

 

[Potential Rapist]

No "loving home" for your genetics.

 

[fakechadtullycel68]

Father got chased out of the house by feminist narc mom

Stereotypical broken home, mother never let me do shit

Miserable upbringing and I'm a miserable fuck for it now

 

[IncelKing]

My parents wouldn’t let me watch movies/tv-shows which has a mature rating (15+ age rating), until I was actually 15 years old.

Meanwhile most of my schoolmates were able to watch mature movies/tv-shows despite being significantly youngER.

While kids in my primary and early high school wERe watching action, horror, drama movies/TV-shows (which contained violence, nudity, sex scenes etc), I was watching kids movies (Disney and Pixar) with my sistER who is 6 years youngER than me, because that’s all I was allowed to watch.

So it’s no surprise that I ended up being much more immature than my classmates.

Also my parents wERe ovERly strict. I wouldn’t be able to hang out with friends unless it was in my friends house or my parents house, and only aftER my parents had talked to my friends’ parents first. (So I couldn’t even walk with my friends on the streets, watch movies at cinema, eat fast food, hang out in the park etc. WITHOUT being accompanied by my parents and/or my friends’ parents.

I was treated like a child who always needed to be babysat by adults, rathER than a mature adolescent who can roam freely and independently in public in a safe and responsible mannER.

FurthERmore. My parents emotionally neglected me. WhenevER I came home from school, they’d just ask how my classes wERe. They only cared about my grades. They didn’t care about whethER I was being bullied, whethER I was popular, whethER I had friends, whethER I had a girlfriend etc.

I was a losER who was bullied in my youngER years (grade 1- grade 8) and then from grade (9-12), people stopped bullying me and just started to ignore me completely (wouldn’t look at me, wouldn’t talk to me) as if I didn’t even exist

I guess they thought that im so worthless that im not even worth the effort and enERgy it would take to bully me.

So people would walk past me in the hallway and not even look at me (as if I was invisible). Sometimes I would even question myself if I was really alive and if my existence is even real (or just an illusion). Only when the teachER asked me a question or when classmates wERe forced to intERact with me, that’s when I felt like I actually exist and that my existence is real


My parents didn’t care about any of that though, as long as I was getting good grades, they wERe happy. They didn’t care about my mental health, they didn’t even see me as a human being. They just saw me as an emotionless robot who is meant to attain success DESPITE all of the negative reinforcement and shit treatment, as if I wasn’t a human being with human emotions and human desires.

Parents fulfilled their role as a providER for me when I was young, they always ensured I had a roof ovER my head, enough food to eat, plenty of clothing, running gas/watER/electricity etc. They even sent me to a private school in my latER school years.

But the one mistake they made was that they emotionally neglected me, they didn’t give me emotional support when I needed it the most, And that’s why I’m now mentally fucked.

 

[JS4]

I was forced to focus heavily on school work, so I barely socialised, which is partly why I am the way I am

 

[fastnbulbous]

My mother was overprotective of me

 

[goneghost_]

My mother was overprotective of me

Probably because your pfp looks like a serial killer