Experiment Virgin Vs sexhaver on very long dry spell - which is worse?

[Esoteric7]

The virgin: He has never known touch, intimacy, or what it feels like to be desired.

Former sexhaver on dry spell: This guy had a taste of sex, relationships, validation, but lost it. Now he’s trapped in the same darkness . . . but he remembers the light.

The blindness analogy:

The virgin is like a man born blind. He has never seen a sunset, a face, or a color. His pain is the pain of absence, a undefined ache for something he can’t fully conceptualise.

The sexhaver saw the world in full color, the deep blue of the ocean, the green of a forest, the face of someone he loved . . . and then went blind.

So, who suffers more?

The former sexhaver being worse:
He knows exactly what he's lost. Every day of his dry spell is torture because he has a reference point. He remembers the weight of a body next to his, the confidence that came with validation, the social proof of having a woman. His current loneliness is amplified a thousand times by the ghost of his past success. He is like a king who has been dethroned, and now has to live as a peasant.

The virgin being worse:
The sexhaver has proof he was once desirable. He has memories that serve as evidence: “I am capable of being loved.” The virgin has no such proof. His entire existence is a question mark. He has no proof he is even capable of being desired. The sexhaver's pain is one of nostalgia, but the virgin is a peasant who has never even seen the castle, let alone been inside.

So, is it worse to have never had anything, or to have had everything and lost it?

Or are they the same: Hell is hell, whether you’ve seen heaven or not.

 

[AutistSupremacist]

The virgin is worse.

 

[KetamineCel]

being virgin, you don’t need the reference point to know what you’re missing out on, and knowing it will probably never happen is worse than at least getting to say you’re not one

 

[DoomThreeKoala]

I'd actually say the "fall from grace" of a sexhaver on a long dry spell is more brutal. It's a sign you've failed at life, and it really is over.

 

[ColderManTruce]

The virgin is worse.

 

[PersonalityChad]

Being a virgin

 

[Pikacel]

Virgin

 

[Ambatukam Alone]

I'd say the autism and deep psychological problems that contribute to many not losing their virginity in the first place would be less likely to be present in the fallen normie (also looks, personality, etc). They'd also know that sex and relationships are not magical/will be more likely to accept that they won't have them again. If someone has never tasted coffee or whatever, they could get obsessed and really want to try it. That wouldn't really happen if you've had coffee.

 

[Sex-Starved Beast]

If I wasn't a virgin I would be more serene, thinking "well, at least I experienced what teen love is like" and then move on other aspects of life. I always say that something happening and then ending is better than it not happening at all, or else living itself would be pointless, as we eventually die.

 

[Pancakecel]

The virgin is worse.

This thread is dumb

 

[BlackPilledNormi]

I'd actually say the "fall from grace" of a sexhaver on a long dry spell is more brutal. It's a sign you've failed at life, and it really is over.

Would you consider a sexhaver on a dry spell an Incel?

 

[rcnfive]

So, is it worse to have never had anything, or to have had everything and lost it?

i often ask myself this. i made a thread where a former incel (or fakecel) friend found a foid at 35 years old.

they broke up a year later and he roped. he left behind a note saying 'i can't go back to a life of loneliness'

 

[Animecel2D]

Being a virgin is worse no contest

 

[TheRotKing]

Nobody gets mocked for being on a dry spell. People will genuinely see you as a lesser being for being a virgin.

 

[anon]

80% of normies are on a dry spell for months if not years at a time.

 

[Jestermaxxest]

2 niggers glowed. Shame votes are not public.

 

[Rick prime]

The virgin: He has never known touch, intimacy, or what it feels like to be desired.

Former sexhaver on dry spell: This guy had a taste of sex, relationships, validation, but lost it. Now he’s trapped in the same darkness . . . but he remembers the light.

The blindness analogy:

The virgin is like a man born blind. He has never seen a sunset, a face, or a color. His pain is the pain of absence, a undefined ache for something he can’t fully conceptualise.

The sexhaver saw the world in full color, the deep blue of the ocean, the green of a forest, the face of someone he loved . . . and then went blind.

So, who suffers more?

The former sexhaver being worse:
He knows exactly what he's lost. Every day of his dry spell is torture because he has a reference point. He remembers the weight of a body next to his, the confidence that came with validation, the social proof of having a woman. His current loneliness is amplified a thousand times by the ghost of his past success. He is like a king who has been dethroned, and now has to live as a peasant.

The virgin being worse:
The sexhaver has proof he was once desirable. He has memories that serve as evidence: “I am capable of being loved.” The virgin has no such proof. His entire existence is a question mark. He has no proof he is even capable of being desired. The sexhaver's pain is one of nostalgia, but the virgin is a peasant who has never even seen the castle, let alone been inside.

So, is it worse to have never had anything, or to have had everything and lost it?

Or are they the same: Hell is hell, whether you’ve seen heaven or not.

Virgins are gods. Except you betrayer

 

[Nicusor_delaBraila]

never getting to mature properly vs not gettin what u want

 

[Manlet]

I wouldn't care about not having sex if I at least had it in the past especially as a teenager. Its about knowing I missed out and knowing im a total failure that isnt capable of ever being found attractive to females.
Many former sexhavers have this attitude "erm, why do you even care about having had sex incel, I havent had sex in 10 years, its overrated"
The reason being an incel sucks isnt primarily about the act of sex itself its about what it means about yourself that you aren't capable of having it in the first place.

 

[Emba]

"It's better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all" - some old saying sayer