This.
My mother didn't raise me to be self-sufficient and independent but fully subjugated to her and our family. There was no decision in my entire 21yo life I did myself. She truly believes that I want to hear her opinion on some things (but I don't). And when I remind her that no one asked she is furious. The only thing she's actually good at is manipulating people but she's too afraid to do it in the workplace so she earns minimum wage as a curtain maker.
Also didn't provide me with a source of good male role models. My father died probably of cancer. He tried to meet me just before his death but my mother didn't allow him to. She went to his funeral though. Didn't tell me a single word so I don't know where he is buried or how he even looked. My Stepfather showed up in my life when I was 6 or 7 and didn't bother with me even when it was clear that I started getting attached when I was 10.

Also when my sister was born I started to believe that she always wanted a daughter.
My grandma is the same as her but gave birth to more kids so I also have 2 aunts and one uncle. Guess who was raised the worst and is treated the worst of them all. Ofc it is my uncle. Also, he is an alcoholic and smokes 2 packs a day. Doesn't want to get out of addictions cause [UWSL][UWSL]
"in the end, you have to die of something". [/UWSL][/UWSL]There is also a case of my grandpa who was mobbed in his workplace by colleagues who were jealous of his promotion to a foreman. Got depressed, was also addicted to booze, and died of alcoholic liver disease. Didn't get any emotional support from my grandma as she unironically thinks that "boys don't cry".