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Sir Silentium

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Hello,
Another issue I face regularly is having a normal conversation without coming off as a retard.

For example, yesterday I was asked "hey" by a new fellow from work, quick thinking I was going to say "hello, how are you" or "hi, how are you," but I stuttered for a split second then just said "how." It was a massive mistake and went to speak again but nothing came out of my mouth. I won't go into it too much but stuff like this happens way too often.

I went on ome.tv for the first time ever as well. It was so awkward with the first interaction I clicked off the tab within less than a minute. I just stared at her and got a mental blank thinking of nothing to say. She started laughing at me then skipped. Another person joined and started insulting me. I then skipped and a man got closer to his screen and started mocking me once again for how I look. I couldn't even think of what to say or any comebacks to his messages.


What I have done so far to improve hasn't really worked, such as practicing starts or starting phrases but I just mix everything up anyways so it all goes to waste.

I would appreciate some advice.
 
For example, yesterday I was asked "hey" by a new fellow from work, quick thinking I was going to say "hello, how are you" or "hi, how are you," but I stuttered for a split second then just said "how."
Brutal, i've had similar experiences
 
No conversation for your face
 
No conversation for your face
Yep, in real life it isn't as bad but online it is tragic. The inflation on beauty standards as well is at an all time high, an will keep getting worse.
 
Step 1: Be Chad.
 
INCEL 101 FOR CONVERSATIONS

Women are constantly thinking they're better than you. They ''know'' their value and will
see you as below them >> never fall into this frame. This is NOT a dating tactic - this is
a tactic to preserve your personal power and business acumen.

Small talk -

Hello, how are you, whats up, is just general noise. It's fine to use. Being pleasant is
good for business.

Make fun of her and every mistake she makes. If she drops plates, tell her she has rubber hands.
If she says a fact which isn't true, tell her she is wrong. Annoy her. She will reject you anyway,
but at least now you preserve your personal power - rather than just trying to 'creep' up to her.
This is again not a dating tactic. Some women will be smarter than you. Just keep it brief.
You are most likely not compatible for conversation.

You're not doing this to get attraction, because she is most likely texting chad on Tinder. At
the end of the day, you can't ever think women are better, because it even affects promotions.
 
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INCEL 101 FOR CONVERSATIONS

Women are constantly thinking they're better than you. They ''know'' their value and will
see you as below them >> never fall into this frame. This is NOT a dating tactic - this is
a tactic to preserve your personal power and business acumen.

Small talk -

Hello, how are you, whats up, is just general noise. It's fine to use. Being pleasant is
good for business.

Make fun of her and every mistake she makes. If she drops plates, tell her she has rubber hands.
If she says a fact which isn't true, tell her she is wrong. Annoy her. She will reject you anyway,
but at least now you preserve your personal power - rather than just trying to 'creep' up to her.
This is again not a dating tactic. Some women will be smarter than you. Just keep it brief.

You're not doing this to get attraction, because she is most likely texting chad on Tinder. At
the end of the day, you can't ever think women are better, because it even affects promotions.
I wouldn't approach a girl, and I never have. When I was younger many years ago I would kind of build myself up to it but get an incredibly sick feeling in my stomach as if I am about to vomit. I would just use small talk for business/work related practices. Regardless, I appreciate the advice.
 
Yeah some dude in college said "Bye see you" or something like that and i said "sup?" :feelsrope:
Yea I mean that's not even bad, those kind of things people will forget the next minute, unless it is a repeat occurrence. I used to do the same but say "thanks" for no reason :feelsrope:
 
Yea I mean that's not even bad, those kind of things people will forget the next minute, unless it is a repeat occurrence. I used to do the same but say "thanks" for no reason :feelsrope:
:cryfeels:
 
No point asking this in an incel forum :feelsugh:

As far as i know its not worth it u have to expose yourself to a lot of humiliation and awkward encounters
 
I wouldn't approach a girl, and I never have. When I was younger many years ago I would kind of build myself up to it but get an incredibly sick feeling in my stomach as if I am about to vomit. I would just use small talk for business/work related practices. Regardless, I appreciate the advice.

This is mostly for work related conversations. I don't approach in bars or online dating anymore either.
 
Easy
Don't be ugly
 
Yep, in real life it isn't as bad but online it is tragic. The inflation on beauty standards as well is at an all time high, an will keep getting worse.
 
No point asking this in an incel forum :feelsugh:

As far as i know its not worth it u have to expose yourself to a lot of humiliation and awkward encounters
Yea, I've gotten to an age now where I have pretty much given up on the "looksmax" progression, as well as trying to talk to people.
In a year or 2 rent will be down heaps in my country (hopefully) and I should have enough money to move into some place super cheap, board off the windows so no light gets in, lock the main door and only open it when I order groceries.
 
This is mostly for work related conversations. I don't approach in bars or online dating anymore either.
Neither, If you looking for a long term relationship bars definitely isn't the place to be at, neither is online dating with the modern hookup culture becoming a norm.
 
Neither, If you looking for a long term relationship bars definitely isn't the place to be at, neither is online dating with the modern hookup culture becoming a norm.

Well yes - i just got sick and tired of watching watching women being rude to unattractive men
and myself.

It's a dystopian culture where unattractive men are actually being discriminated in business
and relationships, while a government lets it continue.
 
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I have no tips. I can barely talk to my family with more then 2 words
 
Hello,
Another issue I face regularly is having a normal conversation without coming off as a retard.

For example, yesterday I was asked "hey" by a new fellow from work, quick thinking I was going to say "hello, how are you" or "hi, how are you," but I stuttered for a split second then just said "how." It was a massive mistake and went to speak again but nothing came out of my mouth. I won't go into it too much but stuff like this happens way too often.

I went on ome.tv for the first time ever as well. It was so awkward with the first interaction I clicked off the tab within less than a minute. I just stared at her and got a mental blank thinking of nothing to say. She started laughing at me then skipped. Another person joined and started insulting me. I then skipped and a man got closer to his screen and started mocking me once again for how I look. I couldn't even think of what to say or any comebacks to his messages.


What I have done so far to improve hasn't really worked, such as practicing starts or starting phrases but I just mix everything up anyways so it all goes to waste.

I would appreciate some advice.
I have had situations like that it is horrible.
 
Here is the tip: Be tall with a chad face. Then no matter how much you stutter you will be seen as endearing at worst.
 
Don't think too much about what you are going to say, use simple words and don't have poor posture when walking or entering the room.
 
If you aren't NT, forget about it. All of those silly tips aren't going to work
 
Hello,
Another issue I face regularly is having a normal conversation without coming off as a retard.

For example, yesterday I was asked "hey" by a new fellow from work, quick thinking I was going to say "hello, how are you" or "hi, how are you," but I stuttered for a split second then just said "how." It was a massive mistake and went to speak again but nothing came out of my mouth. I won't go into it too much but stuff like this happens way too often.

I went on ome.tv for the first time ever as well. It was so awkward with the first interaction I clicked off the tab within less than a minute. I just stared at her and got a mental blank thinking of nothing to say. She started laughing at me then skipped. Another person joined and started insulting me. I then skipped and a man got closer to his screen and started mocking me once again for how I look. I couldn't even think of what to say or any comebacks to his messages.


What I have done so far to improve hasn't really worked, such as practicing starts or starting phrases but I just mix everything up anyways so it all goes to waste.

I would appreciate some advice.
Try practicing on omegle by just covering your face first, just try to talk.

Just remember that there is no stakes at all, since youve covered your face, so its anonymous, and if you slip up, it won't matter since the stranger will never see you again and promptly forget about you. Thank tiktok for the reduced attention span and memory for that one

Thats how to reduce the fear at least
 
If you have to think about how to maintain a conversation you might as well give up
 
I have no tips. I can barely talk to my family with more then 2 words
Very similar to me, I don't get how people can talk like living water is flowing out of their mouth. After replying "good" or something along those lines, I become a statue.
 
conversations are chad only, sorry you have to found out like this
 
Well yes - i just got sick and tired of watching watching women being rude to unattractive men
and myself.

It's a dystopian culture where unattractive men are actually being discriminated in business
and relationships, while a government lets it continue.
It's the sad reality, you would never see a htn+ man being faced with discrimination by colleagues, unless those colleagues are low on the lookism scale themselves.
 
Don't think too much about what you are going to say, use simple words and don't have poor posture when walking or entering the room.
That is something I need to work on, lots of times I recite in my head literally what I am going to say. Posture is also key
 
If you aren't NT, forget about it. All of those silly tips aren't going to work
They won't make me on par with htn's but they will improve me slightly so I can be respected more
 
Try practicing on omegle by just covering your face first, just try to talk.

Just remember that there is no stakes at all, since youve covered your face, so its anonymous, and if you slip up, it won't matter since the stranger will never see you again and promptly forget about you. Thank tiktok for the reduced attention span and memory for that one

Thats how to reduce the fear at least
It's funny you mention that actually, since i'm a bit of a weirdo I wore a balaclava on ome.tv this morning so no one could see who I was, but I got too much backlash for it.
Turning the lights off would be the game changer. I now also scroll until I find someone low mtn- so I don't feel like I am being judged.

I know there is nothing to be fearful of on the app but I feel like everyone is out to get me.
 
Just be attractive or woman, doesn't matter what you say or don't or how as you've already won.
 
U say peepee and if they say poopoo they are legit
 
small talk is the name of the game brother. most normshit convos revolve around braindead small talk, so beat em at their own game, they dont care if you say some dumb shit because theyve all got the collective memory span of half a goldfish.

shit like "how bout the weather" or "did you see that game everyone was talking about lastnight" are great for making yourself seem normal to others. if theyre nice, or, more likely, a bit of a doormat, then you might be able to actually make some conversation with them. good luck brocel.
 
That is something I need to work on, lots of times I recite in my head literally what I am going to say. Posture is also key
practice in the mirror and record yourself from a slight distance.
 
practice in the mirror and record yourself from a slight distance.
I used to do that actually, so I could see if my walk was goofy. I'm just blaming it on the clothes I wear haha
 
small talk is the name of the game brother. most normshit convos revolve around braindead small talk, so beat em at their own game, they dont care if you say some dumb shit because theyve all got the collective memory span of half a goldfish.

shit like "how bout the weather" or "did you see that game everyone was talking about lastnight" are great for making yourself seem normal to others. if theyre nice, or, more likely, a bit of a doormat, then you might be able to actually make some conversation with them. good luck brocel.
Appreciate it brocel
 
practice in the mirror and record yourself from a slight distance.
Jfl I used to do that a lot, especially with reenacting old convos. I stopped doing that cos its really pathetic and cringe and I really hate seeing myself in the mirror
 
I would appreciate some advice.
Well it’s simple

1.Be Chad, because your looks will stimulate the conversation. Foids will never run out if things to say to you even if you had the personality of a brick wall.

2. Be rich: everyone would want be friends with you and they will love to get to know you and have good conversations in hopes of you giving them money for being such good friends to you!
 
Well it’s simple

1.Be Chad, because your looks will stimulate the conversation. Foids will never run out if things to say to you even if you had the personality of a brick wall.

2. Be rich: everyone would want be friends with you and they will love to get to know you and have good conversations in hopes of you giving them money for being such good friends to you!
:dafuckfeels:
 
Jfl I used to do that a lot, especially with reenacting old convos. I stopped doing that cos its really pathetic and cringe and I really hate seeing myself in the mirror
I don't mind seeing myself in the mirror, but from a recording playback or a camera it's horrid. I don't understand how ltn's use snapchat.
 
Hello,
Another issue I face regularly is having a normal conversation without coming off as a retard.

For example, yesterday I was asked "hey" by a new fellow from work, quick thinking I was going to say "hello, how are you" or "hi, how are you," but I stuttered for a split second then just said "how." It was a massive mistake and went to speak again but nothing came out of my mouth. I won't go into it too much but stuff like this happens way too often.

I went on ome.tv for the first time ever as well. It was so awkward with the first interaction I clicked off the tab within less than a minute. I just stared at her and got a mental blank thinking of nothing to say. She started laughing at me then skipped. Another person joined and started insulting me. I then skipped and a man got closer to his screen and started mocking me once again for how I look. I couldn't even think of what to say or any comebacks to his messages.


What I have done so far to improve hasn't really worked, such as practicing starts or starting phrases but I just mix everything up anyways so it all goes to waste.

I would appreciate some advice.
I can relate to this, I can't even text someone without using ChatGPT, because I'm hyper aware that I phrase things in the most uncanny way for normies.

I dont even have advice for you. I mean it's already over for you. I would just apologize and explain you are ND after you stammer
 

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