The something else/something minor Theory
FA Monday was one of the best youtubers about inceldom/fa but unfortunately he closed his channel. He was one of the few, high IQ, guys that really got it.
He used to say that maybe the problem is not because of something major people talk about (Looks and Autism), maybe it's about something else, maybe something minor that we can't pinpoint exactly.
Yes, Looks plays a crucial and huge part in life. Not only in relationships but in other areas such as friendship or work career. They are a key factor about your self esteem also.
But a lot of us are a 6/10, 5/10 or a 4/10 and we should (theoretically) get something. Instead we watch normies become couples like in spectators in a movie.
So if it's not only about looks people will search elsewhere and think “there must be a problem with our brains”. The easy answer is Autism spectrum or Asperger syndrome.
The main objection I have against Asperger is that lots of incels have huge amount of empathy. They get sad about world's problems. So it's not that.
Let's go to autism. About why I am not sure of it (without saying I am certain).
I'll give the driving example. Most of us have a problem with driving. I have noticed it from lots of people saying it. Not that they are inept, but that they don't like it.
I am capable of doing the driving. I know the moves, my reflexes are decent enough. And yet I don't do it. I don't enjoy it. Main thing is I have an irrational fear of crushing. I am terrified of driving on highways (theoretically I could, I'm capable).
Now some will say that irrational fear is low self-esteem from upbringing. The problem is my upbringing was ordinary/average. My parents were sometimes harsh sometimes helpful, sometimes they were yelling (like all parents) sometimes they were encouraging me. I was not bullied, yes I got into some fights but nothing too important. I wasn't the cool one but not the outcast either. I was the teenager who was talking to everyone, both cool and outcasts (but not cool enough for the parties).
So I was thinking, what if it is not the upbringing? We know nature likes/creates varieties of each species. Because if extreme situations occur varieties will help the species survive. Some varieties don't make it, some survive.
What if this low self-esteem is something in our genes? It's the way nature made us for some reason? To be the ultra careful introverts/thinkers of the tribe.
Maybe this is the obstacle that we must overcome. Or at least acknowledge it.
That it's not “confidence” we lack, it's an irrational ultra carefulness and fear we must fight.
FA Monday was one of the best youtubers about inceldom/fa but unfortunately he closed his channel. He was one of the few, high IQ, guys that really got it.
He used to say that maybe the problem is not because of something major people talk about (Looks and Autism), maybe it's about something else, maybe something minor that we can't pinpoint exactly.
Yes, Looks plays a crucial and huge part in life. Not only in relationships but in other areas such as friendship or work career. They are a key factor about your self esteem also.
But a lot of us are a 6/10, 5/10 or a 4/10 and we should (theoretically) get something. Instead we watch normies become couples like in spectators in a movie.
So if it's not only about looks people will search elsewhere and think “there must be a problem with our brains”. The easy answer is Autism spectrum or Asperger syndrome.
The main objection I have against Asperger is that lots of incels have huge amount of empathy. They get sad about world's problems. So it's not that.
Let's go to autism. About why I am not sure of it (without saying I am certain).
I'll give the driving example. Most of us have a problem with driving. I have noticed it from lots of people saying it. Not that they are inept, but that they don't like it.
I am capable of doing the driving. I know the moves, my reflexes are decent enough. And yet I don't do it. I don't enjoy it. Main thing is I have an irrational fear of crushing. I am terrified of driving on highways (theoretically I could, I'm capable).
Now some will say that irrational fear is low self-esteem from upbringing. The problem is my upbringing was ordinary/average. My parents were sometimes harsh sometimes helpful, sometimes they were yelling (like all parents) sometimes they were encouraging me. I was not bullied, yes I got into some fights but nothing too important. I wasn't the cool one but not the outcast either. I was the teenager who was talking to everyone, both cool and outcasts (but not cool enough for the parties).
So I was thinking, what if it is not the upbringing? We know nature likes/creates varieties of each species. Because if extreme situations occur varieties will help the species survive. Some varieties don't make it, some survive.
What if this low self-esteem is something in our genes? It's the way nature made us for some reason? To be the ultra careful introverts/thinkers of the tribe.
Maybe this is the obstacle that we must overcome. Or at least acknowledge it.
That it's not “confidence” we lack, it's an irrational ultra carefulness and fear we must fight.
