Autism is in great part defined by an absence of cognitive empathy which makes you not understand other people’s feelings and basically fucks with your ability to emotionally mirror other people. Such things can include not laughing when everyone is laughing, being alone and talking to yourself while everyone is talking to each other, not knowing what other people think of you or feel about what you’re doing.
It doesn’t mean you can’t try and fake it, but interacting with people and emotional mirroring often feels forced and draining if it applies to you. In our case, autistic men are less likely than neurotypical men to emotionally mirror women or act interested in them or with them. We are, instead, more focused on things, concepts and special interests to a magnitude which is socially inept. When you have special interest you also obsessively talk about the same thing over and over again, which women really dislike.
It is correlated with autistic women masking and shiet, because you can’t interact with women if you don’t mask otherwise they’ll either ostracize you or torture you. It really does depend if the girl in question is sadistic or just selfish although they’re both two sides of the same coin. It’s why I’ve been bullied by mostly women throughout my life but not men.
And they also have very low agreeableness, weird mannerisms, introversion, all very common on incels and that’s why autism and inceldom are so commonly co-occurring. Women, even autistic women often disregard autistic men and find them unpleasant because of this. It’s also common to see autistic women not really fitting in with other women because to a certain extent they also do suffer from this but because they’re women they can still get dates and a “quirky” balanced attractive guy very easily.
It is very unfair for autistic guys, I don’t see this being talked about anywhere. And often when we talk about this the blame is put onto us when we weren’t doing anything wrong. So frustrating.
It doesn’t mean you can’t try and fake it, but interacting with people and emotional mirroring often feels forced and draining if it applies to you. In our case, autistic men are less likely than neurotypical men to emotionally mirror women or act interested in them or with them. We are, instead, more focused on things, concepts and special interests to a magnitude which is socially inept. When you have special interest you also obsessively talk about the same thing over and over again, which women really dislike.
It is correlated with autistic women masking and shiet, because you can’t interact with women if you don’t mask otherwise they’ll either ostracize you or torture you. It really does depend if the girl in question is sadistic or just selfish although they’re both two sides of the same coin. It’s why I’ve been bullied by mostly women throughout my life but not men.
And they also have very low agreeableness, weird mannerisms, introversion, all very common on incels and that’s why autism and inceldom are so commonly co-occurring. Women, even autistic women often disregard autistic men and find them unpleasant because of this. It’s also common to see autistic women not really fitting in with other women because to a certain extent they also do suffer from this but because they’re women they can still get dates and a “quirky” balanced attractive guy very easily.
It is very unfair for autistic guys, I don’t see this being talked about anywhere. And often when we talk about this the blame is put onto us when we weren’t doing anything wrong. So frustrating.
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