There's definitely a nuance here; I doubt most foids do this intentionally. If you are able to extract some value from other people using this method without it becoming enough of an asslicking for them to disrespect you then it can be a useful tool in terms of making someone like you more via social cues they're probably not even aware of.
This seems pretty difficult to apply though.
Luckily I am not an autist. Please note that this is not an attack on autists.
I am grateful that I am NT. It helps a lot.
The only reason it took me SO LONG to get somewhere in my life, especially professionally, was because of severe bullying throughout my childhood and early teens.
I wasn't just bullied at school. I was beaten up almost on a daily basis.
I did fight back, but that had only made things worse for me. I was always extremely outnumbered.
Most of my classmates at least hated me. Some just looked away and around a third would use any chance to bully or physically attack me.
It was hell and it has taken me till my thirties to somewhat get over it.
To make things worse, my father has also abused me. Like, I don't know a more abusive father than this piece of shit and I think that it will be a liberating experience once that fucker dies.
I could go into detail about how he's abused me but it would be a wall of text, I think.
I still can't believe that I somehow managed to get out of it. At my lowest point I really felt like EVERYBODY hated me and wanted to attack me and was just waiting for the right moment.
If that wasn't PTSD then I don't know, man. It took me years to understand that not everybody was / is my enemy and I still have massive trust issues.
