So, did accepting things as they are/living in the moment/being tranquil actually work for anyone, ever?

[Deleted member 7448]

I'm kinda tired of being a depressed piece of shit, but I've also fucked my life up that just thinking about all the failed potential/fuck-ups is prohibiting me from moving on.

So I've been thinking how great it would be if I viewed the world as a monk or a hippie or something, just living in the moment, accepting that bad things happen, enjoying just being alive, appreciating the little things or whatever. But it just seems like such a naive way of thinking that I'm not sure if a human can actually think like that or is that just hippie propaganda.

 

[Zesto]

Yes I call it calmmaxxing.

I do it to try to prevent myself from frowning and wrinkling my skin to remain youthful for my waifu.

 

[Villain]

i guess we need a little bit of blue pill in our life

 

[guyfromwizchan]

When you can't change a thing logically you must accept it. So, yes, I do it--I have to--and it works the best of all things I attempt.

 

[Deleted member 12256]

i guess we need a little bit of blue pill in our life

We don't, we need the truth every day even if it cause depression and sui thougths. You just jump from cope to cope to take your mind of your pain.

 

[Deleted member 7448]

i guess we need a little bit of blue pill in our life

I don't mean bluepill. I'll always think of other people as fuckheads and I'll always hate women for the fucking cunts they are. I meant more in the line of "don't worry, be happy, enjoy the sunshine" and shit like that.

 

[Villain]

I don't mean bluepill. I'll always think of other people as fuckheads and I'll always hate women for the fucking cunts they are. I meant more in the line of "don't worry, be happy, enjoy the sunshine" and shit like that.

sounds like one of those just be happy theory to me honestly

 

[Fontaine]

In my experience, you can distract yourself from the pain this way, but it always tends to come back.

It's not entirely "idiotic hippie belief", very serious philosophy and religion is based on the concept that your attitude is the problem and not the thing.

But sometimes, the thing is the problem and not the attitude. Cancer, for instance, is a very bad thing no matter what your attitude is. Even Buddhists see cancer as a very bad thing.

As to inceldom, I'll go halfway: both the thing and the attitude can be a problem.

 

[Deleted member 12355]

I'm kinda tired of being a depressed piece of shit, but I've also fucked my life up that just thinking about all the failed potential/fuck-ups is prohibiting me from moving on.

So I've been thinking how great it would be if I viewed the world as a monk or a hippie or something, just living in the moment, accepting that bad things happen, enjoying just being alive, appreciating the little things or whatever. But it just seems like such a naive way of thinking that I'm not sure if a human can actually think like that or is that just hippie propaganda.

Pretty much what I'm doing. I'm really calm, with occasional suicidal thoughts, but it's nothing I'd act on, as of now

 

[micropenis29]

Cancer, for instance, is a very bad thing no matter what your attitude is.

I'm not sure that it is. If one's life isn't otherwise all that great, cancer could be a very good thing. It's almost a socially acceptable form of suicide. If one can take pharmaceuticals that would otherwise be off limits to numb any pain caused by the cancer, well then that's even better.

 

[Deleted member 7448]

I'm not sure that it is. If one's life isn't otherwise all that great, cancer could be a very good thing. It's almost a socially acceptable form of suicide. If one can take pharmaceuticals that would otherwise be off limits to numb any pain caused by the cancer, well then that's even better.

Cancer can take years to kill you, many of which will be spent in pain and discomfort. Of all the ways to go, an illness that lasts more than a few days is not something any sane person would want.

Now, a brain aneurysm is a whole other story. That shit is quick.

 

[micropenis29]

Cancer can take years to kill you, many of which will be spent in pain and discomfort. Of all the ways to go, an illness that lasts more than a few days is not something any sane person would want.

Oh, okay. I was under the impression that we had powerful enough opioids such that there wasn't a ton of pain and discomfort involved (I thought people mainly hated cancer because of the "guaranteed death within a few months or years" part). That's a shame.

 

[Deleted member 7448]

Oh, okay. I was under the impression that we had powerful enough opioids such that there wasn't a ton of pain and discomfort involved (I thought people mainly hated cancer because of the "guaranteed death within a few months or years" part). That's a shame.

There are pain killers, obviously. But in virtually every country in the world, doctors are very careful with handing them out. You'll be getting glorified aspirin for a few years, then maybe in your last couple weeks of your life they might give you the good stuff.

 

[Konon]

Not for me. Living in the moment just let me saw how much the moment sucks tbhtbh.

 

[IsolationHurts]

It workedfor me. More than that... I liked meditation so much for some time that I not only convert to Buddhism, I also prepared myself to become a buddhist (tibetan geluk) monk. I quit the sect eventually, but still meditate when I'm really depressed and suicidal. I want to start meditating everyday again, it's pure lifefuel for me, but it requires a lot of effort to make your meditation practice your main reason to live. Like, at least 3 hours per day, at least twice a day. And not everything out there called meditation is going to work because it was poorly designed. But, doing it correctly (not just focusing in the present moment... That's absurd, meditation requires tons of other mental actions beyond just focusing and other objects beyond the present moment) you can actually be pretty calm, focused on what helps, and satisfied in almost any situation.
Anyway... I really like the meditation technique that Shinzen Young teaches. I also still like some traditional Buddhist meditation masters like Alexander berzin. If you think it can help you, I would give it a try. Also, ask what u want

 

[Shower_Taker]

The problem with trying to change your outlook (and hence modify your personality) is that it won’t work unless people also change their outlook about you.

If the only thing you perceive from people is avoidance, pity, disinterest or scorn, then it won’t matter if you’ve superficially tried to change into something different, since your brain will tell you that everything is still the same.

I’ve met very few people in my life who I’d predict they’re incels, and I can say that they were all more successful at being at peace (IMO) because they were more aloof, non-reactive, hard to read. I wear my heart on my sleeve so to speak, and this invites all sorts of problems. So if there’s one modification that I can say will probably work for you is just that; become aloof outwardly.

 

[Onezero]

Feeling indifferent towards life makes it alot more tolerable.

 

[Deleted member 11032]

Yes I call it calmmaxxing.

I do it to try to prevent myself from frowning and wrinkling my skin to remain youthful for my waifu.

Everything you do is for your fictional waifu. You are an UBER CUCK. Why not live for yourself?

It workedfor me. More than that... I liked meditation so much for some time that I not only convert to Buddhism, I also prepared myself to become a buddhist (tibetan geluk) monk. I quit the sect eventually, but still meditate when I'm really depressed and suicidal. I want to start meditating everyday again, it's pure lifefuel for me, but it requires a lot of effort to make your meditation practice your main reason to live. Like, at least 3 hours per day, at least twice a day. And not everything out there called meditation is going to work because it was poorly designed. But, doing it correctly (not just focusing in the present moment... That's absurd, meditation requires tons of other mental actions beyond just focusing and other objects beyond the present moment) you can actually be pretty calm, focused on what helps, and satisfied in almost any situation.
Anyway... I really like the meditation technique that Shinzen Young teaches. I also still like some traditional Buddhist meditation masters like Alexander berzin. If you think it can help you, I would give it a try. Also, ask what u want

I'll check it out.