What is self improvement? You see this term being thrown on cucked sites like reddit quite a lot and it seems to be a trend. In my country, we dont even have this as a word and if you mention it to guys or girls or older people, they will laugh at you. Here is the thing, there is not defined self improvement that will give you guaranteed improvements in your life quality. Let me give you some examples. NoFap, some studies say that masturbation and porn are good while others claim that they arent. Therefore you cannot really say that doing it will actually improve you as a person. Lifting weights. Most men with girlfriends, at least in my country, are either thin or skinnyfat or even fat in some cases. They aren't ripped or athletic by any means and even if they are, they didnt have any problem dating before improving their physique.
Another issue is the personality factor. They tell you that you need to be a certain way, that you need to have certain qualities, to be attractive. The thing is, a person's personality is affected by the circumstances and events of their life. A person who has been experiencing rejection and disappoiment all the time, do you expect them to be happy and optimistic? Trauma and bad social experiences cause chemical imbalances which can greatly affect a person's mood and character. Not to mention that the personality traits that are said to be attractive here differe greatly from what studies have shown. Because according to studies, bullies, guys with abusive personalities, are the most sexually successful. Whats up with that? So there are statistically lots of guys in relationships who are pieces of shit yet people will criticize FAs for being negative and angry which they wouldnt be in the first place if they werent FAs.
And of course there is a great degree of world fallacy and survivability bias. No mater what you do, they will always tell you its wrong or that you didnt do it long enough, despite the fact that your time on earth is very limited so you cant do something forever anyway. Or they will bring up some guy that suceeded (they never show you this person so it could be imaginary too) but they completely ignore all the others guys who did the same things if not more and didnt. Because each person, each FA is different, different experiences, different circumstances, upbringing etc. Things wont be equally effective for everyone, thats a fact.
Last but not least, its not your fault! Its not your fault that a girl run away when you said "Hi" to her, its not your fault that a guy punched you in the stomach cause he felt like it. It wasnt your personality, these people did you wrong because they didnt like you and they didnt even know you for your personality to matter. If someone burns your house, was it your fault for having one? But the general trend is that its always your fault, im wondering if these people really want to help or what they really want is to belittle others and make themselves feel better. Because telling someone they need to work on theirselve,s their being, is an indirect, polite way of putting yourself above them, that they are inferior, not good enough as you are.
Another issue is the personality factor. They tell you that you need to be a certain way, that you need to have certain qualities, to be attractive. The thing is, a person's personality is affected by the circumstances and events of their life. A person who has been experiencing rejection and disappoiment all the time, do you expect them to be happy and optimistic? Trauma and bad social experiences cause chemical imbalances which can greatly affect a person's mood and character. Not to mention that the personality traits that are said to be attractive here differe greatly from what studies have shown. Because according to studies, bullies, guys with abusive personalities, are the most sexually successful. Whats up with that? So there are statistically lots of guys in relationships who are pieces of shit yet people will criticize FAs for being negative and angry which they wouldnt be in the first place if they werent FAs.
And of course there is a great degree of world fallacy and survivability bias. No mater what you do, they will always tell you its wrong or that you didnt do it long enough, despite the fact that your time on earth is very limited so you cant do something forever anyway. Or they will bring up some guy that suceeded (they never show you this person so it could be imaginary too) but they completely ignore all the others guys who did the same things if not more and didnt. Because each person, each FA is different, different experiences, different circumstances, upbringing etc. Things wont be equally effective for everyone, thats a fact.
Last but not least, its not your fault! Its not your fault that a girl run away when you said "Hi" to her, its not your fault that a guy punched you in the stomach cause he felt like it. It wasnt your personality, these people did you wrong because they didnt like you and they didnt even know you for your personality to matter. If someone burns your house, was it your fault for having one? But the general trend is that its always your fault, im wondering if these people really want to help or what they really want is to belittle others and make themselves feel better. Because telling someone they need to work on theirselve,s their being, is an indirect, polite way of putting yourself above them, that they are inferior, not good enough as you are.
