Not enjoying music as much as when I was a teenager or kid

[CrackyChanFan]

I am 27 years old. Soon to be 28 (fuck time flies). I no longer really connect to music like I did when I was a teenager. I haven’t really enjoyed music so much in almost a decade.

I remember the first time I heard the album Nevermind by Nirvana when I was 15 (cliche and cringe I know). That opening riff on SLTS just sucking me in and I had an almost Synaesthesia like experience with the songs just seeming like colours, emotions, and images in my head. It was such a cool feeling. I developed an obsession with Kurt Cobain and his life (I was a dumb teen) and I developed a fascination with grunge music.

I remember listening to ‘Underwear’ by Pulp and feeling that sense of vulnerable lust that the song portrays so well. My emotions were very much at the forefront of my mind with that song.

These days I listen to Nirvana or Pulp and I get… nothing. Just sounds like any other song. It’s so depressing. I listen to any new music and it’s just… nothing. I try and find something new. Math rock. Grime. Hip Hop. Metal. Classical. No feeling. It’s like the intense emotional and aesthetic rapture I had towards music when I was a teenager just fucking dissipated and now I am emotionally deaf.

I listened to the whole Dark Side of the Moon album by Pink Floyd recently. I felt so dumb because I was just bored and distracted through the whole thing.

What gives? Anyone else experience this?

 

[allDead]

Crackychan jfc I haven't thought of her in years. It's over

 

[allDead]

Also I never really liked music that much anyways. It's boring to me. I'm about your age

 

[BlkPillPres]

I am 27 years old. Soon to be 28 (fuck time flies). I no longer really connect to music like I did when I was a teenager. I haven’t really enjoyed music so much in almost a decade.

I remember the first time I heard the album Nevermind by Nirvana when I was 15 (cliche and cringe I know). That opening riff on SLTS just sucking me in and I had an almost Synaesthesia like experience with the songs just seeming like colours, emotions, and images in my head. It was such a cool feeling. I developed an obsession with Kurt Cobain and his life (I was a dumb teen) and I developed a fascination with grunge music.

I remember listening to ‘Underwear’ by Pulp and feeling that sense of vulnerable lust that the song portrays so well. My emotions were very much at the forefront of my mind with that song.

These days I listen to Nirvana or Pulp and I get… nothing. Just sounds like any other song. It’s so depressing. I listen to any new music and it’s just… nothing. I try and find something new. Math rock. Grime. Hip Hop. Metal. Classical. No feeling. It’s like the intense emotional and aesthetic rapture I had towards music when I was a teenager just fucking dissipated and now I am emotionally deaf.

I listened to the whole Dark Side of the Moon album by Pink Floyd recently. I felt so dumb because I was just bored and distracted through the whole thing.

What gives? Anyone else experience this?

I think what makes people truly enjoy music is the mental associations tied to the music. You didn't just enjoy those songs because they were good, you enjoyed them because you had a positive mindset and good mental associations you created which are now tied to those songs. Those mental associations could be your dreams, your hopes for the future, etc. The problem is that those things no longer exist for you after decades of being alive and seeing how shit life is.

Every song I listen to these days is in some way mentally tied to wealthmaxxing (to me). What I imagine when I listen to these songs is the future version of myself who has all the financial success he wanted, and that's why these songs are still enjoyable.

The song has to be melodic or harmonious in some way for me to like it. That's whether it's rap, rock, etc.

I only listen to music that produces a "Frisson" effect:

How Do You Choose The Music You Listen To?, What Makes You Like It? (For Me It's One Word - "Frisson")

One word - Frisson https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frisson I don't have a type or genre that I exclusively prefer, it all depends on whether the music triggers a "frisson response" for me, that determines whether I download it and keep listening to it. So my music folders are pretty mixed up. Of...

incels.is

Yeat has a lot of songs like that, I think it may be the weird audio effects he uses in the beats, those frequencies probably trigger something in the brain.

View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLlB1RYrP3k


View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zlpkBBOBLgY


Here's a good one from the person whose made some of his beats (this one definitely became a fav).

View: https://soundcloud.com/user-669414070/fast-as-it-go-p-amir


TBH I never really just "take time to listen to music". I only listen to music these days when I'm doing a monotonous task related to a wealthmaxxing project I'm working on, it helps me focus and zone out and just spend hours on the task. It also helps build further mental associations to whats important to me with those specific songs.

As soon as I hear anyone of those songs start up the brain tingle starts (it's almost like training my brain, like Pavlovs Dog). I can instantly go from "I don't feel like doing anything to day" to "I can't wait to start working on this thing".

I really just treat music like a "useful tool", it's less about enjoying it and more about it helping me enjoy work.

 

[CrackyChanFan]

Occasionally I get a buzz listening to something like Avicii. Stuff like that is so intense that I get a something out of it if played loud.

Also I never really liked music that much anyways. It's boring to me. I'm about your age

I sorta know what you mean. I am not musically talented at all (poor pitch and poor sense of rhythm). Music can be boring if you’re not in the mood and people build it up for you when you’re not in the mood. I think with me and Nirvana it was kinda the right emotional place and time for me to get into it in that way; plus although really good, the music of Nirvana or Pulp is actually pretty simple. Give me something like Bach and I am just fucking lost, confused, and bored. Like a dyslexic person trying to read Shakespeare.
But even severely dyslexic people can get into a story or a good verse in the right frame of mind.

Like a lot of older people my dad thought teenagers still had music based subcultures; so I found my parents’ attitude towards music taste as form of identity really strange, exclusionary, and pretentious. By 2010s, youth subcultures based around music and fashion were dying out. Now dead.

Emotions seem more raw as a teenager. Maybe more hearing sensitive as well.

 

[CrackyChanFan]

[UWSL]I really just treat music like a "useful tool", it's less about enjoying it and more about it helping me enjoy work.[/UWSL]

Yeah I think this is interesting. It might be the big difference between experience of music for people who grew up in the old world (pre-internet 20th century) and people grew up in the new world (internet 21st century).

For people like my parents music was all about experience and identity. You went out and spent money on Pink Floyd or the Clash or the Sex Pistols or Led Zepp and then you sat down and listened to the album for a freaking hour with friends of similar music taste.

When music is free and available instantly all the time and mainly listened to privately with earphones, the whole purpose becomes a bit different.

 

[The Re-Animator]

I listened to the whole Dark Side of the Moon album by Pink Floyd recently. I felt so dumb because I was just bored and distracted through the whole thing.

I've had exactly the same experience with this recently. I kind of think it's the fast world we live in. We have to process information all of the time, there is no chilling around anymore, just constant anxiety. I can't even listen to a track that's like 2 minutes long, my mind demands something else so fast. I've read somewhere that today you have to process so much (information) in one day like a person who's lived 100 years ago had to in one year or so.

Back then you're kind of forced to listen to a whole album, because it was all you've had. And it's also like you say "When music is free and available instantly all the time and mainly listened to privately with earphones, the whole purpose becomes a bit different.". I somehow want to listen to all of it but get bored and understimulated very easily, so fucking weird.

 

[BlkPillPres]

I've had exactly the same experience with this recently. I kind of think it's the fast world we live in. We have to process information all of the time, there is no chilling around anymore, just constant anxiety. I can't even listen to a track that's like 2 minutes long, my mind demands something else so fast. I've read somewhere that today you have to process so much (information) in one day like a person who's lived 100 years ago had to in one year or so.

Back then you're kind of forced to listen to a whole album, because it was all you've had. And it's also like you say "When music is free and available instantly all the time and mainly listened to privately with earphones, the whole purpose becomes a bit different.". I somehow want to listen to all of it but get bored and understimulated very easily, so fucking weird.

It could also be that over the years you've been exposed to "better music", and when I say "better" I don't mean better in quality, but better in function. The music literally stimulates your brain more based on how it sounds, and therefore makes you "feel better" than music in which you may feel is better suited to your tastes.

Maybe you're trying to listen to music that was great for the time that you listened to it in the past, but it pales in comparison to the stuff you've been exposed to over the years.

You still want to like those songs because of the mental associations you've built up around them, but as far as your brain is concerned you've heard better.

In the same way that you can look back at an old porn video that you remember was great but now it's just mediocre to you because you've seen better over the years lol.

I don't even like rap music, and yet Yeat's music is some of the best I've listened to in a while and it's making me start to re-rank where some artists stand on my list lol.

I used to only listen to Disturbed, Papa Roach, Linkin Park, Cold Play, Etc. Those songs are still good, but I would only say that Disturbed is up to par on that list at this point

 

[TokyoSZR]

[UWSL]It's happening to me right now and it scares me because I'm a musician and I don't want to give up everything I've worked for.[/UWSL]
I keep practicing and listening to the albums that come out, sometimes I write things, but I can't feel the music anymore.

 

[The Re-Animator]

It could also be that over the years you've been exposed to "better music", and when I say "better" I don't mean better in quality, but better in function. The music literally stimulates your brain more based on how it sounds, and therefore makes you "feel better" than music in which you may feel is better suited to your tastes.

Maybe you're trying to listen to music that was great for the time that you listened to it in the past, but it pales in comparison to the stuff you've been exposed to over the years.

You still want to like those songs because of the mental associations you've built up around them, but as far as your brain is concerned you've heard better.

In the same way that you can look back at an old porn video that you remember was great but now it's just mediocre to you because you've seen better over the years lol.

I don't even like rap music, and yet Yeat's music is some of the best I've listened to in a while and it's making me start to re-rank where some artists stand on my list lol.

I used to only listen to Disturbed, Papa Roach, Linkin Park, Cold Play, Etc. Those songs are still good, but I would only say that Disturbed is up to par on that list at this point

Sounds reasonable. It's also a little like searching for a high I've once felt while listening but don't do anymore.

 

[The Re-Animator]

[UWSL]It's happening to me right now and it scares me because I'm a musician and I don't want to give up everything I've worked for.[/UWSL]
I keep practicing and listening to the albums that come out, sometimes I write things, but I can't feel the music anymore.

Same

 

[BlkPillPres]

[UWSL]It's happening to me right now and it scares me because I'm a musician and I don't want to give up everything I've worked for.[/UWSL]
I keep practicing and listening to the albums that come out, sometimes I write things, but I can't feel the music anymore.

Why did you start being a musician?

 

[TokyoSZR]

Why did you start being a musician?

I think a year ago when I was about to finish high school I wanted to do something with my life, but I've been playing instruments since middle school because it's a great cope.

 

[TokyoSZR]

Why did you start being a musician?

[UWSL]Oh sorry, you asked "why" not "when". [/UWSL]
Well, I wanted to express myself and start having projects, it's also something I always wanted to do, but now is mechanical and somewhat boring.

 

[Zhou Chang-Xing]

You need to be able to receive happy emotions to enjoy it, living a lonely depressing lifestyle makes everything more shit.

 

[BlkPillPres]

[UWSL]Oh sorry, you asked "why" not "when". [/UWSL]
Well, I wanted to express myself and start having projects, it's also something I always wanted to do, but now is mechanical and somewhat boring.

Maybe that's because you don't actually have an actual goal. Like you said you just wanted to express yourself, but once you've gotten bored of that it's "just music". The truth is as humans we get bored very easily, especially in this era of over-stimulation where everything is at the tip of your fingers.

You have to have some kind of goal for a "career" as a musician in order to remain passionate about it.

 

[Repulsive123]

I am 27 years old. Soon to be 28 (fuck time flies). I no longer really connect to music like I did when I was a teenager. I haven’t really enjoyed music so much in almost a decade.

I remember the first time I heard the album Nevermind by Nirvana when I was 15 (cliche and cringe I know). That opening riff on SLTS just sucking me in and I had an almost Synaesthesia like experience with the songs just seeming like colours, emotions, and images in my head. It was such a cool feeling. I developed an obsession with Kurt Cobain and his life (I was a dumb teen) and I developed a fascination with grunge music.

I remember listening to ‘Underwear’ by Pulp and feeling that sense of vulnerable lust that the song portrays so well. My emotions were very much at the forefront of my mind with that song.

These days I listen to Nirvana or Pulp and I get… nothing. Just sounds like any other song. It’s so depressing. I listen to any new music and it’s just… nothing. I try and find something new. Math rock. Grime. Hip Hop. Metal. Classical. No feeling. It’s like the intense emotional and aesthetic rapture I had towards music when I was a teenager just fucking dissipated and now I am emotionally deaf.

I listened to the whole Dark Side of the Moon album by Pink Floyd recently. I felt so dumb because I was just bored and distracted through the whole thing.

What gives? Anyone else experience this?

i just use music as background music tbh

 

[EternalStorm]

Personally, music is one of my favorite copes

 

[Iwanttolive]

I'm your age and feeling the same too... I don't enjoy or listen to music as much anymore.

also, almost all my copes don't work as well anymore.

 

[iRespectWoman]

"Not enjoying music as much as when I was a teenager or kid"​

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