I was thinking of this, and it's time passing.
Take a year, any year like 2018 and an incel is still stuck in the same problems as he was back then. Of course the years go back much further than that but it's not like it's not bad enough. Normies don't understand this because in their mind, it's akin to saying "I got stuck trying to open a jar of jam" or something, for years. It's a stupid problem that's should be a temporary phase of life. It wasn't meant to be stretched over so long of a time, and the result is a strange warped under-life. But because it's weird for normies to think about, they just pass over the thought entirely, which is worse, because it ends up alienating us even more.