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RageFuel My only (online) friend soft-rejected me twice but complains about being lonely every few weeks

Idk about y’all but I had a similar situation with my looksmatch, anyway now I’m glad that it’s over and being alone is so much better than being with someone only pretending to like you, you may feel the same way in a few months
 
shes only sucking attention out of you.
I don't think so, she doesn't reply that often, but then to a bunch of messages, just like me. It's my preferred form of communication but most people want constant talking which I am too introverted for.
Its even worse since shes an online friend.Nothing good will ever come from that
It's already good. I would not regret anything because the time talking with her was nice because we could talk about our problems. Even if she will never get into a relationship with me it's a net positive. I don't think you understand I have no friends, none. It's not even that I use some time I could use for a male friend for her, I use time I spend lying in my bed doing nothing writing with her.
But I guess to keep trying is all you can and will do, and I won't blame you for that either. I wish you all the luck off the world.
Thanks! Yeah, I can do nothing but continue to try even if it's hopeless.
just stop coping and cut ties immediately. you are part of the problem for giving a dumb toilet whore any attention after rejecting you
Like I said the problem is that she is also my only friend. So I would go from one online friend and no IRL friends to no friends whatsoever. Probably it's my fault that I cannot find friends, but I really don't have the luxury to reject people who are as similar to me as she is. She is the first person ever in my life where I can be somewhat myself and maybe you don't have the same autistic traits as me, but I really don't want to lose her. In some sense I love her platonically more than romantically but also want the latter.
Idk about y’all but I had a similar situation with my looksmatch, anyway now I’m glad that it’s over and being alone is so much better than being with someone only pretending to like you, you may feel the same way in a few months
Oh damn, why did she pretend to like you? Because she also didn't have anyone else? What happened? Could you elaborate?
 
Don't get me wrong, I really like her and I am absolutely glad that I have her as friend. But still I think it's annoying that she complains about being lonely to me and I complain about being lonely to her and yet she rejects all my advances.
Having foid friends is dumb
 
I don't think so, she doesn't reply that often, but then to a bunch of messages, just like me. It's my preferred form of communication but most people want constant talking which I am too introverted for.

It's already good. I would not regret anything because the time talking with her was nice because we could talk about our problems. Even if she will never get into a relationship with me it's a net positive. I don't think you understand I have no friends, none. It's not even that I use some time I could use for a male friend for her, I use time I spend lying in my bed doing nothing writing with her.

Thanks! Yeah, I can do nothing but continue to try even if it's hopeless.

Like I said the problem is that she is also my only friend. So I would go from one online friend and no IRL friends to no friends whatsoever. Probably it's my fault that I cannot find friends, but I really don't have the luxury to reject people who are as similar to me as she is. She is the first person ever in my life where I can be somewhat myself and maybe you don't have the same autistic traits as me, but I really don't want to lose her. In some sense I love her platonically more than romantically but also want the latter.

Oh damn, why did she pretend to like you? Because she also didn't have anyone else?
Yeah im guessing she sees you as friend she dosent want to lose ,thats why she soft rejected you instead of cutting you off.

Im not sure if you should keep pushing then tho idk how online realtionships work and i dont talk to woman either but you might lose her if you keep trying.

Maybe she will fold and have romantically relationship with you, But we all know life aint a disney movie so idk man not like anybody can help you with that moving forward
 
You want to fuck her and presumably have a relationship while she fucks other guys. Pain.
She doesn't, at least she always tells me that she badly wants a relationship and has no one.
Yeah im guessing she sees you as friend she dosent want to lose ,thats why she soft rejected you instead of cutting you off.
Could easily be, but tbh I kinda also want her to not always complain that it's "impossible" for her to find anyone to cuddle with when she always rejects me so.
Im not sure if you should keep pushing then tho idk how online realtionships work and i dont talk to woman either but you might lose her if you keep trying.
Yeah, that's why I only try about once every 1-2 months and don't push it constantly. She hasn't said anything that I should not make any more advances so and we have agreed that we say when the other one does something one doesn't like, so I will continue until she explicitly tells me to stop.
Maybe she will fold and have romantically relationship with you, But we all know life aint a disney movie so idk man not like anybody can help you with that moving forward
Yeah, well, I hope for that. It certainly wouldn't be a great relationship, but I think still better than none. The nice thing is that she doesn't like talking a lot (not only to me, she wrote on Reddit she doesn't like it so it's not something she made up so she could talk little to me), so I imagine it would essentially just being on our own, but cooking together, cuddling together, some hiking together etc. and otherwise have our own lives.

Yeah, I know nobody here can help with it, I just wanted to vent my annoyance about her in this topic.
 
The fact she acknowledge you as a friend but still says she lonely. She doesn't care about you bro. All foids are the same. The moment she finds a chad she'll leave you cold until chad had enough of pumping and dumping her for the next E-foid
 
Even if, I get attention in return, so shouldn't it be equal?
attention is pointless as a man when you already know she’s rejected you and not interested. unless you are gay
 
You're overdosing on soylent
 
The fact she acknowledge you as a friend but still says she lonely. She doesn't care about you bro. All foids are the same. The moment she finds a chad she'll leave you cold until chad had enough of pumping and dumping her for the next E-foid
Maybe, but I hope she doesn't find Chad.
attention is pointless as a man when you already know she’s rejected you and not interested. unless you are gay
Well, I try sometimes. Especially because she wrote that she wants to eat what I cook and yet doesn't want to meet, I will question that. It's a logical impossibility. I will not send her a package with my food somewhere, especially as it's only good when fresh.
 
Don't get me wrong, I really like her and I am absolutely glad that I have her as friend. But still I think it's annoying that she complains about being lonely to me and I complain about being lonely to her and yet she rejects all my advances.
She just doesn't like you.
I know it sucks ass, but that's the truth. All my female friends do that to me all the fucking time. Seems like they can only "see me as a friend/brother, tee hee!" "Oh! I'm sure you'll meet someday one special girl and you'll make her so happy!" and all that pity bullshit of the like that only unattractive fucks like us hear all the time.

I FUCKING HATE FOIDS.
 
Holes are Chad-only
 
She will never fuck you. How you still choose to orbit her baffles me.
 
Call her a dumb cunt and walk away. :smonk:
 
Because she is an e-whore who has other soy orbiters doing the same thing.
 
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The so called foid his talking to
 
She will never fuck you. How you still choose to orbit her baffles me.
She's also my only friend who sticked around for quite a long time. This is actually also the reason I don't make a stronger move akin to "relationship or I will walk away" because I don't want to lose her as a friend.

BTW: She complained to me about being lonely AGAIN. But she also somehow knows complaining to me while rejecting me is a bit stupid. Because some time ago she claimed she wanted to eat something I ate and cooked (and sent her a picture) and I told her that we have to meet if she wants to eat something I cook. And she acknowledged that. Maybe after a few more times I can convince her to at least meet up.
Because she is an e-whore who has other soy orbiters doing the same thing.
Maybe. She claims to not have that many orbiters, but maybe she has.
 
I lost many friends, that's how it is. On them.
I had exactly one (online) friend who sticked around me for a few months in the last 5 years and I lost him. She is the second one. Really, you probably have more luxury if you can afford to lose "many" friends.
If she doesn't at least kiss you, you got cucked
Maybe. I hope that when we meet up then we can hug a bit, then cook and then I will ask if I can stay for a bit and maybe we can cuddle. But I would have no clue what to do anyway. How would I properly even go for a kiss? And when would the correct situation be?
 
Maybe. I hope that when we meet up then we can hug a bit, then cook and then I will ask if I can stay for a bit and maybe we can cuddle. But I would have no clue what to do anyway. How would I properly even go for a kiss? And when would the correct situation be?
Don't get your hopes up since you're chasing this pussy. Go in for a hug while watching something together, then go in for the kiss I suppose.
 
Don't get your hopes up since you're chasing this pussy. Go in for a hug while watching something together, then go in for the kiss I suppose.
Hmm, good idea, should it ever come to a meet I would try that, thanks!
 
Don't get me wrong, I really like her and I am absolutely glad that I have her as friend. But still I think it's annoying that she complains about being lonely to me and I complain about being lonely to her and yet she rejects all my advances.
Mogs me that you're still friends with her, because all of my ex-crushes that friend zone me when they find out I caught feelings for them, they blocked me
 
Don't get me wrong, I really like her and I am absolutely glad that I have her as friend. But still I think it's annoying that she complains about being lonely to me and I complain about being lonely to her and yet she rejects all my advances.
Does she show any signs or anything ? What does she talk to you about and does she ghost you
 
Does she show any signs or anything ? What does she talk to you about and does she ghost you
She doesn't ghost me, but responds infrequently (about once per day), but that's completely fine for me, I do the same.

What do you mean with signs?

We talk about various stuff. About being lonely, about how society is unfair to people with autistic traits, about the expectations of society, about our goals, but also mundane stuff like what we ate, what we saw when outside etc.
 
She doesn't ghost me, but responds infrequently (about once per day), but that's completely fine for me, I do the same.

What do you mean with signs?

We talk about various stuff. About being lonely, about how society is unfair to people with autistic traits, about the expectations of society, about our goals, but also mundane stuff like what we ate, what we saw when outside etc.
sign of interest or disinterest but just block her at this point Soukds like she only talks to you out of pity
 
sign of interest or disinterest but just block her at this point Soukds like she only talks to you out of pity
She was a bit positive now when I told her I would like to visit her. Maybe I will be able to.

Otherwise I think we are both pretty insecure. She always worries that I am not interested enough in her friendship and I have to reassure her. Maybe I am also just to dry, I cannot do it better.
 
She was a bit positive now when I told her I would like to visit her. Maybe I will be able to.

Otherwise I think we are both pretty insecure. She always worries that I am not interested enough in her friendship and I have to reassure her. Maybe I am also just to dry, I cannot do it better.
does she tell you she’s worried or are you just thinking that as a cope
 
does she tell you she’s worried or are you just thinking that as a cope
Not directly. But she asks me "Do you think I am interesting?" "Would you still be me friend if ...?"

I just interpret that as insecurity.
 
How do you know it's a real woman?
 
I mean, what can I do? Online everyone can lie, but I think she tells the truth about being a woman. She also has some women-associated hobbies like sewing and stuff and even tried to get me to do it as well.
 
I mean, what can I do? Online everyone can lie, but I think she tells the truth about being a woman. She also has some women-associated hobbies like sewing and stuff and even tried to get me to do it as well.
Ask her if she's a troon
 
Ask her if she's a troon
Nah, that could come off wrong. She also is annoyed by different standards for men and women and is annoyed about the clothing options she has as a woman and would prefer male-like clothes. And I doubt a troon would want that, they typically try to be stereotypically ultra-feminine.
 
Nah, that could come off wrong. She also is annoyed by different standards for men and women and is annoyed about the clothing options she has as a woman and would prefer male-like clothes. And I doubt a troon would want that, they typically try to be stereotypically ultra-feminine.
Well besides that

How do you know she will still like you if she's you?
 
Does she live close by enough for you to meet?
No, in a different country. But I think of just doing sightseeing there if things don't work out with her.
 
I did ask whether we want to travel to some city we would both be interested in but she didn't want to.

Of course she doesnt, she doesn't want to do anything with you. All you are is a dopamine rush of text messages to make herself look busy irl
I did not directly ask for a relationship because I don't want to destroy the friendship
:soy::bluepill:
I just hoped we could meet and maybe if we liked each other also in person there could come more of it.
You're never going to meet

Maybe, but unfortunately she still is my only friend, so I don't really have an alternative. I don't think she doesn't see me as a human but she just isn't attracted to me. And I have to admit we aren't a perfect match anyway, but she is one of the very few women where

You're better not having anything as far as this situation goes. Cant even have a fucking coffee or a couple of drinks at your local pub :feelshaha:
I would really love a relationship with nevertheless.
You only want it because you're desperate and she's the only thing responding to you. If you were a little bit better looking, she would have already sucked your dick by now and/or you drop contact with her for someone better than her.
 
Could easily be, but tbh I kinda also want her to not always complain that it's "impossible" for her to find anyone to cuddle with when she always rejects me so.

:soy:
Yeah, that's why I only try about once every 1-2 months and don't push it constantly. She hasn't said anything that I should not make any more advances so and we have agreed that we say when the other one does something one doesn't like, so I will continue until she explicitly tells me

She's going to end up dropping you first at this rate
Yeah, well, I hope for that. It certainly wouldn't be a great relationship, but I think still better than none.
Yeah because she sounds like an idiot most normal guys wouldn't want to be around.


Yeah, I know nobody here can help with it, I just wanted to vent my annoyance about her in this topic.
You put yourself in this spot you buffoon, this thing you're describing is as far as you're going to get. Coping about her demeanor, excuses, shyness etc etc when you have never even seen her irl
 
Mogs me that you're still friends with her, because all of my ex-crushes that friend zone me when they find out I caught feelings for them, they blocked me

Were you friendzoned by foids you knew irl ?
 
Of course she doesnt, she doesn't want to do anything with you. All you are is a dopamine rush of text messages to make herself look busy irl
Ok, I honestly didn't think of that. But we usually communicate asynchronously, so I am not sure that that is the actual reason.
You're never going to meet
Let's see, recently she has been a bit more open to it. Maybe I can convince her in a few months.
Cant even have a fucking coffee or a couple of drinks at your local pub :feelshaha:
True, but I have the naive hope that one day we could live together. I know it's not a good option and the chances are high, but well, what am I supposed to do?
You only want it because you're desperate and she's the only thing responding to you.
Likely true. But again, I cling to every straw, I think that's my right.
f you were a little bit better looking, she would have already sucked your dick by now and/or you drop contact with her for someone better than her.
She doesn't know how I look, so I don't think it's related to that. I actually also don't know how she looks. Maybe I should just send her a picture and see if I get ghosted, as usual. Before I concretely plan to travel to her I will definitely because I don't want to risk that she runs away screaming when she first sees me.
She's going to end up dropping you first at this rate
What would you suggest? And I know it's a possibility, but like I said, I don't see other options.
You put yourself in this spot you buffoon, this thing you're describing is as far as you're going to get. Coping about her demeanor, excuses, shyness etc etc when you have never even seen her irl
I mean, if I had lots of success dating I would not be here ...
 
Don't get me wrong, I really like her and I am absolutely glad that I have her as friend. But still I think it's annoying that she complains about being lonely to me and I complain about being lonely to her and yet she rejects all my advances.
Typical foid she wants chad to talk to her online
 
He must be a troon, I had a similar story to you, Im destroyed at the moment
 

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