Venting Mother told me that women focus very much on a man's "career"... and says the amount of time I work will influence my chances .....

[SupremeAllah]

For sure, no doubt about it. Almost always.

I'm an exception – in my case my parents always knew it was over. I'm 27, short (5'4), and very ugly. My parents have implied several times over the years that they don't think I will have a gf, I inferred it from the things they said and didn't say.

In the case I described in the post, my mother also doesn't think this will get me a gf. But she wants me to have a "good" job and work 100%/full-time. I strongly suspect she then hopes that I'll forget about a gf as I get older.

Brutal

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Don’t burn yourself out with work. Do a part time job if you have to

I agree. I'm studying college part-time, 100% online/from home, and don't have a job. I have extreme social anxiety and I'm already struggling.

But even if I work like 80 or 90% (in German speaking countries "100%" = 40 hrs) my parents said they want the money back they gifted me for my savings account.

They know and always knew I can't get a gf.

My father cares much less but my mother wants me to get a job and from everything she said and didn't say I can infer that she doesn't think I can get a gf. But she basically says "good job and work = gf", not because she thinks this (or anything) will get me a gf but bc she wants me to have a good job. (she doesn't want money from me once I have a job. But I'll never have a good job.)

 

[VideoGameCoper]

I agree. I'm studying college part-time, 100% online/from home, and don't have a job. I have extreme social anxiety and I'm already struggling.

But even if I work like 80 or 90% (in German speaking countries "100%" = 40 hrs) my parents said they want the money back they gifted me for my savings account.

They know and always knew I can't get a gf.

My father cares much less but my mother wants me to get a job and from everything she said and didn't say I can infer that she doesn't think I can get a gf. But she basically says "good job and work = gf", not because she thinks this (or anything) will get me a gf but bc she wants me to have a good job. (she doesn't want money from me once I have a job. But I'll never have a good job.)

Brutal. Doing college sucks. Working as brutally hard as they want you to is cope

 

[Da_Yunez]

• her and I both know, I have no chance. But that's not my point. In front of her, I pretend like I think I can get a gf — reason being, she desperately wants to talk me out of it (because she knows I can't get one anyway).
in the past she always mentioned how relationships are overrated and how you can be happy without one. she means well I guess, because as I said: she doesn't think I can get one anyway.

• she doesn't admit it but she wants me to work full-time in the future (but she doesn't want any money from me), and I strongly suspect she thinks I'll be too busy with my job to think about wanting, or desiring a gf.

• she says how I have no ambition, no drive (100% implied: career-wise).

• my dad is even worse when it comes to telling me to do "coping". this is just the most recent example.

Just Betabux theory

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Brutal. Doing college sucks. Working as brutally hard as they want you to is cope

Yup I agree. I'm not struggling financially but mentally btw.

And I'm almost always home. Studying online > studying in person, for me at least. I really don't see a way how I can cope, as I'm already getting treated differently bc of my face

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Just Betabux theory

Not that I can get any gf but I have my standards too. Sounds cocky but can't help it.
And she doesn't actually believe it can get me a gf. She just wants me to get a job and says this "the better the job = more chances to get gf". She doesn't actually believe it.

 

[Da_Yunez]

I meant she literally knows I can't get a gf, and tries to mention the disadvantages of having a gf. She also thinks and hopes I'll be happy without a gf, and thinks that is possible. She has always said this, most of the time indirectly.

Just cope until you die theory. (you cant even cope since youre a broke wagie.)

 

[Da_Yunez]

Not that I can get any gf but I have my standards too. Sounds cocky but can't help it.
And she doesn't actually believe it can get me a gf. She just wants me to get a job and says this "the better the job = more chances to get gf". She doesn't actually believe it.

the better your chances to be a cuck locked in a loveless and sexless marriage.

 

[VideoGameCoper]

Yup I agree. I'm not struggling financially but mentally btw.

And I'm almost always home. Studying online > studying in person, for me at least. I really don't see a way how I can cope, as I'm already getting treated differently bc of my face

I wouldn’t be able to stand doing college like that. Too much work for my liking

 

[TheGrayWolf]

I wouldn’t be able to stand doing college like that. Too much work for my liking

Fair enough, it's not for everyone for sure. It's part time degree and even then I procrastinate a lot kek

 

[VideoGameCoper]

Fair enough, it's not for everyone for sure. It's part time degree and even then I procrastinate a lot kek

Hope it goes well

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Hope it goes well

Thanks man

 

[VideoGameCoper]

Thanks man

Np

 

[yourbod_ymychoicel]

i think you should ascend with your mom, "if she really cares that much about you".

 

[TheGrayWolf]

i think you should ascend with your mom, "if she really cares that much about you".

Was soll’n des? Net lustig. I ignorier di mol

 

[charlieQ009]

Working your ass off just so you can get a low rate bitch who'll cheat on you.

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Working your ass off just so you can get a low rate bitch who'll cheat on you.

Well in the past she has even said "your gf will cheat on you especially if she's good looking." But she says all that stuff, including the job thing, not because she thinks I can get a gf, either way. The cheating quote is part of her plan to talk me out of wanting a gf (she knows I can't have one anyway), the job thing is more in the hopes of "once he has a job and he's older he'll maybe not want a gf anymore."
I'm too ugly and autistic and old to ever get a gf. In school I was always friendless, still am, I never knew what to say. Ugly and boring, not exactly good odds.

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Working your ass off just so you can get a low rate bitch who'll cheat on you.

BTW I agree with you.

 

[prajeet88]

Just slave away for a blown out roastie

Until you get cucked by AI. Honestly, I was born in 1988 and wage cucking in STEM has indeed worked for me. But if you are born 2000+ then unless you are a genius, you should enterpreneurmaxx or NEETmax. Wage cucking had had diminishing returns for those born after 1970 and at this point it's not worth it.

 

[TheGrayWolf]

Until you get cucked by AI. Honestly, I was born in 1988 and wage cucking in STEM has indeed worked for me. But if you are born 2000+ then unless you are a genius you should enterpreneurmaxx or NEETmax. Wage cucking had had diminishing returns for those born after 1970 and at this point it's not worth it.

I'm 27. Ugly, short, autistic, extremely boring and insecure, bad at math and finance stuff. I'm a real loser but it's with 99% objectivity not my fault.

 

[incelerated]

The amount of time you work influences your chances.. negatively.

The amount of money you make influences your chances positively.. if you are not unattractive.

Also if you are a hardworking serious kind of person girls will hate you for being boring.

They want rich kid playboy Chad who fucks around and lives on easy mode.

 

[prajeet88]

I'm 27. Ugly, short, autistic, extremely boring and insecure, bad at math and finance stuff. I'm a real loser but it's with 99% objectivity not my fault.

SEAmaxxing is only thing that might work

 

[TheGrayWolf]

The amount of time you work influences your chances.. negatively.

The amount of money you make influences your chances positively.. if you are not unattractive.

Also if you are a hardworking serious kind of person girls will hate you for being boring.

They want rich kid playboy Chad who fucks around and lives on easy mode.

Absolutely agree. Only one thing - I think you can be an average-income chad and still get hot girls. Seen it many times. (I never knew, nor vice versa, any chad or stacy personally but saw it from an outsider's perspective.)

I am 5'4 - and much more noticable, very strange-looking (deformed, extremely abnormal proportions, and I look disabled/mentally retarded), late 20s, autistic, and have never known what to say in social settings (school and job I had years ago). I am very boring, shy and quiet.

This was and is bc of extreme social anxiety and I just generally don't know what to say.

I am now studying 100% online/from home, but I still have to see my face and head in the mirror and reflections.

I will never have a well-paying job, despite a university degree.

 

[TheGrayWolf]

SEAmaxxing is only thing that might work

Yes. But it's not really what I want. I don't really find them attractive. Sex-escorts are legal in Germany but it's not what I want either. And I have EXTREME social anxiety. Imagine a very deformed person – me – and I just am very shy, self conscious and anxious due to all the negative feedback in the past 14 years or so.

 

[incelerated]

Absolutely agree. Only one thing - I think you can be an average-income chad and still get hot girls. Seen it many times. (I never knew, nor vice versa, any chad or stacy personally but saw it from an outsider's perspective.)

I am 5'4 - and much more noticable, very strange-looking (deformed, extremely abnormal proportions, and I look disabled/mentally retarded), late 20s, autistic, and have never known what to say in social settings (school and job I had years ago). I am very boring, shy and quiet.

This was and is bc of extreme social anxiety and I just generally don't know what to say.

I am now studying 100% online/from home, but I still have to see my face and head in the mirror and reflections.

I will never have a well-paying job, despite a university degree.

Extremely brutal bro, I'm sorry to hear that.

I'm also extremely shy and quiet.
It's a brutal curse.

 

[Monke]

Just be a betabuxxer theory