I doubt anyone on this forum falls into this category, more likely than not its going to be some blue piller scrolling past this thread, but here goes.
You knew full well she was out of your league, you have fucking eyes, but you wanted what you wanted, and that's not the bad part, the bad (more like stupid) part was you doing what I just talked about in the last two scenarios (lying to yourself about YOUR INTENT TO EXPLOIT).
If you are in your 40's and up, and not significantly attractive, then you know full well your raggedy old ass is not even remotely attractive to even a 5/10 in her 20's lol, much more the 6+/10 in her 20's that you are "dating" and "becoming engaged" to, but you keep waking up everyday to tell yourself that lie (self delusion is a man's greatest weakness).
You keep lying to yourself about your role as a PREDATOR in this scenario, trying to exploit the lack of resources a woman has to fuck her.
Please understand what I'm saying, I'm not saying its "wrong", I'm a nihilist, I don't believe right or wrong exists, they are made up human concepts, I'm saying its MALICIOUS.
You know full well what you are doing, but because you lie to yourself and tell yourself this is "mutual", you don't "feel like a bad guy", so you never see her exploitation coming, and you are ironically surprised that she takes whatever money she can get out of you and leaves.
Its really funny when you think about it:
MEN ONLY GET EXPLOITED BY GOLD DIGGERS, BECAUSE THEY REFUSE TO ADMIT TO THEMSELVES THAT THEY WERE INITIALLY EXPLOITING THESE WOMEN LACKING OPPORTUNITIES AND RESOURCES.
In other words:
BECAUSE YOU REFUSED TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE A PREDATOR
YOU INSTEAD BECAME THE PREY
TO THOSE "SCAMMED" BY MAIL ORDER BRIDES OR WOMEN YOU MARRIED IN 3RD WORLD COUNTRIES (LIKE IN THE SCENARIO ABOVE):
This is pretty much an exclusive WHITE MALE PROBLEM (especially when it comes to South East Asia (SEA), Russian brides, etc).
We've all heard these stories over and over, guy gets married to some attractive Russian woman way out of his league (or SEA asian woman) and thinks that he can bring her back to his home country, thinks that he got a "steal of a deal" (because he knew full well a woman like that would never want him outside of her circumstances).
This is what really angers me about these scenarios that I've brought up.
THE ILLOGICAL NATURE OF THE "DOUBLE THINK" MINDSET A LOT OF MEN SEEM TO HAVE.
THE COGNITIVE DISSONANCE.
How the fuck can you both acknowledge that you are dating a woman out of your league due to her being in harsh/unfavorable conditions AND at the same time not acknowledge what you are doing as exploitation and something "predatory".
It takes a high level of dishonesty and self delusion to pull this shit off, but I digress.
The funniest part is these men always sound SO SURPRISED
when these women leave them or start "acting up" after arriving and settling in the western countries they wanted you to take them to to begin with.
I'll say again, what I said in the gold digger section:
BECAUSE YOU REFUSED TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE A PREDATOR
YOU INSTEAD BECAME THE PREY
BECAUSE YOU REFUSED TO ADMIT TO YOURSELF THAT YOU WERE EXPLOITING A WOMAN
YOU INSTEAD BECAME THE VICTIM OF HER EXPLOITATION
You being "scammed" was nothing but the result of you refusing to admit to yourself your part in "the game", because you refused to admit a "game" was being played at all, so you got played instead lol.
Had you been objective, been completely aware of your intent and your exploitation of women, you would have made more calculated choices that benefited you. Go live where she lives and take your resources with you, maybe get a job that pays US that you can do online, etc, that way she remains dependent on you and you have all of the leverage. Etc.
But instead the average guy who marries a mail order bride or marries a woman in a 3rd world country (who he knows full well is far out of his league and only with him due to lack of resources and opportunity), tells himself that "its real love" (lathers on the self delusion) and moves back to his home country with her, only to be surprised when they're broken up a few months or even weeks later
TRY AND BE SELF AWARE:
You aren't paying for food here, at the end of the day you are paying for sex when we get down to the core of these "arrangements", you are demanding that someone who is disgusted by you, allow you to stick your dick down their throat and more lol (and you are aware of that disgust, you just block out these thoughts).
Of course there are going to be women trying to escape such a disgusting fate, and instead just steal your money JFL.
The fact that you don't consider this, is proof that you are lying to yourself about how undesirable you are, and lying to yourself about your part in the arrangement.
The problem with you guys is that you lie to yourself, you aren't honest with yourself about your "part in that deal" so you don't think things through AS YOU SHOULD FOR A MAN IN YOUR POSITION.
YOU
ARE
A FUCKING
PREDATOR
Since you refuse to accept that, and you want to see yourself as a "likable", "kind" or "moral" person that is just struggling with the "unfairness of the dating world", YOU GET SCAMMED.
IN CONCLUSION:
Let me make this simple for you, If you are going to be a guy who leverages his resources (money, nationality, etc) to exploit women for sex (and yes, that is what you are doing as a man who pays an escort, or a prostitute, or a mail order bride, or a gold digger, etc).
THEN
FUCKING
BE
"THAT GUY"
(AND STOP PRETENDING YOU AREN'T "THAT GUY", YOU KNOW FULL WELL YOU AREN'T "NICE", LIFE HAD ALREADY STRIPPED THAT TRAIT FROM YOU LONG AGO)
A predator that doesn't admit that its a predator, won't think or act as a predator, which just makes it an incompetent predator that always makes mistakes, in other words, somebody else's prey. If you won't accept what you are, then that's the fate you have decided for yourself, a life of being played for a fool and exploited by others (especially women).
So long as you are playing fucking mental gymnastics with yourself trying to "feel like a good person", while trying to exploit women for sex, you are only just handicapping yourself because you are just half assing your "role". You'll keep making mistakes, you'll keep getting scammed, and these problems won't end with just women and sex, you'll have the same kind of problems in other aspects of your life, because you are stepping into the ring completely unaware of your surroundings and how seriously you should be taking the situation.
You knew full well she was out of your league, you have fucking eyes, but you wanted what you wanted, and that's not the bad part, the bad (more like stupid) part was you doing what I just talked about in the last two scenarios (lying to yourself about YOUR INTENT TO EXPLOIT).
If you are in your 40's and up, and not significantly attractive, then you know full well your raggedy old ass is not even remotely attractive to even a 5/10 in her 20's lol, much more the 6+/10 in her 20's that you are "dating" and "becoming engaged" to, but you keep waking up everyday to tell yourself that lie (self delusion is a man's greatest weakness).
You keep lying to yourself about your role as a PREDATOR in this scenario, trying to exploit the lack of resources a woman has to fuck her.
Please understand what I'm saying, I'm not saying its "wrong", I'm a nihilist, I don't believe right or wrong exists, they are made up human concepts, I'm saying its MALICIOUS.
You know full well what you are doing, but because you lie to yourself and tell yourself this is "mutual", you don't "feel like a bad guy", so you never see her exploitation coming, and you are ironically surprised that she takes whatever money she can get out of you and leaves.
Its really funny when you think about it:
MEN ONLY GET EXPLOITED BY GOLD DIGGERS, BECAUSE THEY REFUSE TO ADMIT TO THEMSELVES THAT THEY WERE INITIALLY EXPLOITING THESE WOMEN LACKING OPPORTUNITIES AND RESOURCES.
In other words:
BECAUSE YOU REFUSED TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE A PREDATOR
YOU INSTEAD BECAME THE PREY
TO THOSE "SCAMMED" BY MAIL ORDER BRIDES OR WOMEN YOU MARRIED IN 3RD WORLD COUNTRIES (LIKE IN THE SCENARIO ABOVE):
This is pretty much an exclusive WHITE MALE PROBLEM (especially when it comes to South East Asia (SEA), Russian brides, etc).
We've all heard these stories over and over, guy gets married to some attractive Russian woman way out of his league (or SEA asian woman) and thinks that he can bring her back to his home country, thinks that he got a "steal of a deal" (because he knew full well a woman like that would never want him outside of her circumstances).
This is what really angers me about these scenarios that I've brought up.
THE ILLOGICAL NATURE OF THE "DOUBLE THINK" MINDSET A LOT OF MEN SEEM TO HAVE.
THE COGNITIVE DISSONANCE.
How the fuck can you both acknowledge that you are dating a woman out of your league due to her being in harsh/unfavorable conditions AND at the same time not acknowledge what you are doing as exploitation and something "predatory".
It takes a high level of dishonesty and self delusion to pull this shit off, but I digress.
The funniest part is these men always sound SO SURPRISED
when these women leave them or start "acting up" after arriving and settling in the western countries they wanted you to take them to to begin with.I'll say again, what I said in the gold digger section:
BECAUSE YOU REFUSED TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE A PREDATOR
YOU INSTEAD BECAME THE PREY
BECAUSE YOU REFUSED TO ADMIT TO YOURSELF THAT YOU WERE EXPLOITING A WOMAN
YOU INSTEAD BECAME THE VICTIM OF HER EXPLOITATION
You being "scammed" was nothing but the result of you refusing to admit to yourself your part in "the game", because you refused to admit a "game" was being played at all, so you got played instead lol.
Had you been objective, been completely aware of your intent and your exploitation of women, you would have made more calculated choices that benefited you. Go live where she lives and take your resources with you, maybe get a job that pays US that you can do online, etc, that way she remains dependent on you and you have all of the leverage. Etc.
But instead the average guy who marries a mail order bride or marries a woman in a 3rd world country (who he knows full well is far out of his league and only with him due to lack of resources and opportunity), tells himself that "its real love" (lathers on the self delusion) and moves back to his home country with her, only to be surprised when they're broken up a few months or even weeks later
TRY AND BE SELF AWARE:
You aren't paying for food here, at the end of the day you are paying for sex when we get down to the core of these "arrangements", you are demanding that someone who is disgusted by you, allow you to stick your dick down their throat and more lol (and you are aware of that disgust, you just block out these thoughts).
Of course there are going to be women trying to escape such a disgusting fate, and instead just steal your money JFL.
The fact that you don't consider this, is proof that you are lying to yourself about how undesirable you are, and lying to yourself about your part in the arrangement.
The problem with you guys is that you lie to yourself, you aren't honest with yourself about your "part in that deal" so you don't think things through AS YOU SHOULD FOR A MAN IN YOUR POSITION.
YOU
ARE
A FUCKING
PREDATOR
Since you refuse to accept that, and you want to see yourself as a "likable", "kind" or "moral" person that is just struggling with the "unfairness of the dating world", YOU GET SCAMMED.
IN CONCLUSION:
Let me make this simple for you, If you are going to be a guy who leverages his resources (money, nationality, etc) to exploit women for sex (and yes, that is what you are doing as a man who pays an escort, or a prostitute, or a mail order bride, or a gold digger, etc).
THEN
FUCKING
BE
"THAT GUY"
(AND STOP PRETENDING YOU AREN'T "THAT GUY", YOU KNOW FULL WELL YOU AREN'T "NICE", LIFE HAD ALREADY STRIPPED THAT TRAIT FROM YOU LONG AGO)
A predator that doesn't admit that its a predator, won't think or act as a predator, which just makes it an incompetent predator that always makes mistakes, in other words, somebody else's prey. If you won't accept what you are, then that's the fate you have decided for yourself, a life of being played for a fool and exploited by others (especially women).
So long as you are playing fucking mental gymnastics with yourself trying to "feel like a good person", while trying to exploit women for sex, you are only just handicapping yourself because you are just half assing your "role". You'll keep making mistakes, you'll keep getting scammed, and these problems won't end with just women and sex, you'll have the same kind of problems in other aspects of your life, because you are stepping into the ring completely unaware of your surroundings and how seriously you should be taking the situation.
