Serious “Just work on your personality” feels more impossible than improving one’s looks in many cases

[Ferdi]

And looks are much more possible to improve as opposed to personality, first of all, assuming the minor changes like losing weight doesn’t work, then stuff like plastic surgery may do, there is at least an option that gets you toward that goal. Not to say it works for everyone, it doesn’t, but at least it’s a direct goal to improve the face, but very expensive

For looks however, it is MUCH harder, because there are no set in stone options to “improve your personality” first of all it is part of your brain chemistry, one cannot change it at will, it is for the most part genetic. You could do certain drugs or alcohol to appear more outgoing or whatever but it’s temporary, there is perhaps another solution but it could have extremely negative effects and is basically playing a game of chance, the ayahuasca drug which has changed people’s behaviors completely for a long time, but even that in quite a few cases, is temporary

This is why autists will forever be doomed

 

[AdolfRizzler]

there is no personality for our face and height

 

[AtrociousCitizen]

They purposefully use the personality platitude because it's highly abstract and cannot be quantified or operationalized, hence allowing them to argue your personality is "bad" no matter what. One must ask: what is your personality? Your underlying beliefs? Decisions? Behavior? Past actions? There are some metrics you could measure such conscientiousness and agreeableness, but people will always find a way to point out a flaw and use it as a post-hoc justification for why you are an incel; they will argue that your underlying intentions were malicious, and your nice behavior is a cover, hence you have a bad personality. Yet, when an attractive man behaves horribly, they will argue it's his honesty to himself that makes him appealing. Obviously, it's all nonsensical, because the perfect correlation can be found with physical appearance, which forms your personality and affects how others perceive your personality—that is the most important factor.