So my past 5 girlfriends have all left me for the guys they were secretly cheating on me with. They always give vague or cryptic reasons as to why, and it befuddles me. My job pays well, and I go to the gym 6 times a week. I love to cook. I am straightforward on the very first date about not being religious, nor do I ever want children. I am attentive to their needs. While I have my interests, like jamming PS5 with guys, golfing, and scuba photography, I also spend time with them while they do their interests. Not sure what I'm doing wrong to push people away.
GF1's reason: You make me feel like I'm the bad guy. I always start our fights, and you never yell. (She left me for a lawyer that cheated on her and took her dog).
My take: Whenever something upset her, I logically assessed the reason she was upset and suggested solutions... calmly. I tried to resolve any and all issues she had so that she would be happy... and it just made her more mad.
GF2's reason: You're too you, and it's too much. (She left me for a guy named Bubbles, and they both later overdosed. I had no idea she even used drugs).
My take: I for one like me. I make myself laugh.
GF3's reason: I need to find myself and (I forget the rest of what she said, but it sounded very spiritual and stuff. She left me for a butcher. They broke up but I still go to the butcher he works at and we talk about cooking).
My take: I don't get it... at all.
GF4's reason: There's someone else, bye (She left me for a guy that was fxcking rich).
My take: Okay, I get her reason. No hard feelings. If the person you're leaving me for pays for every plane ticket and vacation expense, every meal you eat, and luxury items like a new car and phones, drink that well dry.
GF5's reason: We just want different things.
My Take: I wanted to be in a relationship; I feel I was getting exactly what I wanted.
I don't yell, I don't keep secrets, and I don't give the silent treatment. I keep everyone in the loop about who I am and how I am feeling. So it's not like they are getting into something they don't want. It's all on the table, and we date for +-2 years. If they didn't want to be with me in month 1, why drag it out and end things?
