Serious ''Just be yourself'' is one of the worst platitude ever created

[AsakuraHao]

In the 80s and 90s, if you read comic books and played video games, you were considered a nerd, and people bullied you simply because you were being yourself.

Unfortunately, even to this day, not much has changed.

If you enjoy listening to lesser-known music, mostly rock and metal bands, it can be challenging for people to relate to what you're talking about.

Similarly, if you prefer watching old movies from the 70s, 60s, or even black and white movies instead of new and popular ones, people may label you as a weirdo.

Playing lesser-known JRPGs like Disgaea or Bravely Default might also lead people to think you're weird.

Even if you have an interest in reading about the cultures of Asian countries, particularly less mainstream ones like Indonesia or Cambodia instead of the typical countries like Japan or South Korea, people may try to divert the subject.

The list goes on.

''Being yourself'' only work if you like something from a pool of normal things. For example, pop, rap etc are considering a normal music, so ''being yourself'' means you can like one of those normal genres. If you like something like this

View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Up6Mw5SxJM

you are considered not normal and finding friends, let alone woman with similar taste is very hard for you

 

[xkcdCleftcel]

" be yourself, don't change for anyone"
"why are you incel, change yourself virgin creep"

 

[Psychcel]

Self-acceptance is probably an important step to good mental health, incel or not, but being yourself™ is utterly stupid, if not impossible. We all put on a mask one way or another when interacting with people.

 

[Loner94]

It's one of the most lazy generic uninspiring advices ever given in addition to also being cliche.

 

[noodlelover]

Self-acceptance is probably an important step to good mental health, incel or not, but being yourself™ is utterly stupid, if not impossible. We all put on a mask one way or another when interacting with people.

 

[JudeoBiden]

JBY is just a low IQ mantra. Its purpose is to clue you in that the person saying it is stupid. Even in allegedly based circles, you can still find JBY brainlets who try to redefine all three words of the mantra to escape the fact that it's retarded. It's an intelligence thing.
The catch is in that stupid people greatly outnumber smart people, so if they JBY you in public, the audience will definitely take their side. I suppose it's baked right into JBY that it justifies anything you do to them for saying it. If you sucker punch a JBYer, you were just taking their advice.

 

[Bruticus]

Self-acceptance is probably an important step to good mental health, incel or not, but being yourself™ is utterly stupid, if not impossible. We all put on a mask one way or another when interacting with people.

self-acceptance is key to being happy, but the problem is that bluepilled idiots turn "loving yourself" into a strategy for getting laid, which it isnt

 

[Epedaphic]

>Disgaea
Should I preorder disgaea 7? 6 was a huge disappointment

 

[NirvanaFan1988]

cliche.

 

[OutcompetedByRoomba]

People still say that the ones doing the bullying are really just compensating for their own struggles at home. You can often find media where the class bully is later revealed to have a violent / unstable home enviorment. You probably know the line "People who bully are compensating for their own low self-esteem."

If you think about this for just a bit, it is inherently unconvincing. Who do you predict to be more likely to require theraphy or suffer from psychological problems in adulthood, the bully or the bullied? The answer is so obvious and intuitive, it's hard to get the question wrong unintentionally.

This kind of dishonest optimism is a combination of people believing what they want to believe and, even more so, people believing what they want to be seen believing by others. "Just be yourself" is not advice given to make your life better, it is purely there to make the person saying that stupid line look good in front of any outside observer because it is oh so noble a thing to believe. It's the "right" thing to say, the socially most acceptable advice they could give, they are simply indifferend to your well being and just mindlessly repeating what they instinctively know to increase their own rung on the status hierachy.

They will recieve positive feedback for saying these things from their peers and like Pavlov's dog this will train them to instinctively and with absolute certainty repeat the same stupid mantra whenever the topic comes up.

 

[kupwheal]

its good advice, the problem is we don't know ourselves so how can we be ourself? discouragement from others against personal interests can nip that bud early on.

 

[Celius]

It’s just more gaslighting to make it look like your predicament is justifiable.