Serious JFL my mom just accidentally SLIPPED-UP and clearly implied (not meaning to insult) how ugly I am, father always used to do it

[The Wolf]

My father used to always do this (doesn't live here anymore), and now her (the first time in a few years).

I know I'm exceptionally ugly but such things just make me even more self-conscious/sad, actually hearing it from a parent (even if not on purpose and "in the heat of the moment"/a fiery discussion). Going outside and getting negative reactions (negative feedback-loop) from strangers also makes me sad and self-conscious but so does this.

 

[Left4DeadBPDvictim]

What did she say?

 

[Left4DeadBPDvictim]

This has happened to me to

 

[HotDogCel]

This has happened to me to

#metoo

 

[AtrociousCitizen]

This has happened to me to

 

[Only_Perspective]

>even your mom is admitting you're ugly
brutally over/10

 

[The Wolf]

What did she say?

it was something about me wanting a gf and that she can't do anything about it. That I need to go "attack" my father and "not [her]" — (it's objectively his fault I'm ugly but I don't want to divulge why here), and in the heat of the moment, she said "your head"; she is obviously upset about my predicament and that I am not able to get a gf, she said "your head!" --- then after a 2-3 second pause corrected herself, "in your head, how you think, you're not normal, you don't eve go outside!" (tbf my father has a number of mental issues but that's not what she meant with "your head!" that was a clear slip-up. Also tbf she does a lot for me (buys groceries, cooks, I can live at home for free etc).

 

[The Wolf]

>even your mom is admitting you're ugly
brutally over/10

yes even if implied and very clearly not on purpose/slip-up. she's clearly overwhelmed by my predicament. but yeah after her accidentally implying it I now feel the fight has gone out of me, my battery is empty.

 

[Left4DeadBPDvictim]

it was something about me wanting a gf and that she can't do anything about it. That I need to go "attack" my father and "not [her]" — (it's objectively his fault I'm ugly but I don't want to divulge why here), and in the heat of the moment, she said "your head"; she is obviously upset about my predicament and that I am not able to get a gf, she said "your head!" --- then after a 2-3 second pause corrected herself, "in your head, how you think, you're not normal, you don't eve go outside!" (tbf my father has a number of mental issues but that's not what she meant with "your head!" that was a clear slip-up. Also tbf she does a lot for me (buys groceries, cooks, I can live at home for free etc).

Brutal.

Sorry brocel

 

[The Wolf]

Brutal.

Sorry brocel

Thanks for understanding bro

 

[The Wolf]

This has happened to me to

What did your parent say?

 

[The Wolf]

Brutal.

Sorry brocel

you know, I can't even verbally defend myself properly. if I go too much out of line "I'm done", i.e. kicked out. I'm already in my late 20s and I'm on bloody thin ice

 

[Left4DeadBPDvictim]

you know, I can't even verbally defend myself properly. if I go too much out of line "I'm done", i.e. kicked out. I'm already in my late 20s and I'm on bloody thin ice

Damn. That must suck to not be able to say anything back. I'm glad my mom isn't mean to me at all

 

[The Wolf]

Damn. That must suck to not be able to say anything back. I'm glad my mom isn't mean to me at all

Well she's not "mean" normally tbf... like I said she cooks for me, buys groceries and other materialistic stuff (maybe bc she feels bad) and I live in her house for free.
BUT I think she's unfair often (like today, saying I attacked her [verbally] but all I did was explain my despair, and if I say too much we'll just have a huge fight, fights I never won and never can.

 

[The Wolf]

Damn. That must suck to not be able to say anything back. I'm glad my mom isn't mean to me at all

Also the heavily implied "you're very ugly" hurts but of course she'd never admit it or apologise, nor do I want to give her the satisfaction to admit I'm ugly. I tell her "I know I can get a gf, you just think I can't", because she always thought and thinks SHE can dissuade me from it. I may sound like an asshole but I don't think I am, the whole story is too complicated.

 

[Only_Perspective]

she is obviously upset about my predicament and that I am not able to get a gf, she said "your head!"

yeah, she was obviously just upset. It's a good thing she actually cares about you though.

 

[The Wolf]

yeah, she was obviously just upset. It's a good thing she actually cares about you though.

true but still, it hurts now it makes me even more self-conscious even around her

 

[Lonelyus]

My father used to always do this (doesn't live here anymore), and now her (the first time in a few years).

I know I'm exceptionally ugly but such things just make me even more self-conscious/sad, actually hearing it from a parent (even if not on purpose and "in the heat of the moment"/a fiery discussion). Going outside and getting negative reactions (negative feedback-loop) from strangers also makes me sad and self-conscious but so does this.

It runs in the family i guess

 

[The Wolf]

It runs in the family i guess

in the case of looks, you'd think so but not really in my case. I'm like someone with down-syndrome. the parents could look good but the offspring could still turn out differently.

 

[ReconElement]

Tbh no one really cares about you therefore the kinda redpill like advice of working on skills still stands work on skills and be successful, at least it's better to be ugly and wealthy than to be ugly and poor

 

[The Wolf]

Tbh no one really cares about you therefore the kinda redpill like advice of working on skills still stands work on skills and be successful, at least it's better to be ugly and wealthy than to be ugly and poor

I agree, but I won't be, and am not, either. My mom does "care" but she also know it's all hopeless and powerless, so she indirectly demands that I just "accept it". As in, "it's sad but deal with it", is implied.

also it's clear she know I can't get a gf, one reason for her being that I'm ugly – I'm literally deformed.

it's clear from what she says — and what she doesn't say also speaks volumes) — that she knows I can't get a gf, but hearing it from a parent is still brutal. I feel unwell now.

 

[deleted fren]

I agree, but I won't be, and am not, either. My mom does "care" but she also know it's all hopeless and powerless, so she indirectly demands that I just "accept it". As in, "it's sad but deal with it", is implied.

also it's clear she know I can't get a gf, one reason for her being that I'm ugly – I'm literally deformed.

it's clear from what she says — and what she doesn't say also speaks volumes) — that she knows I can't get a gf, but hearing it from a parent is still brutal. I feel unwell now.

She has a lot of gull to tell you to just accept such a cruel life that she never had to. Fucking privileged bitch

 

[ReconElement]

I agree, but I won't be, and am not, either. My mom does "care" but she also know it's all hopeless and powerless, so she indirectly demands that I just "accept it". As in, "it's sad but deal with it", is implied.

also it's clear she know I can't get a gf, one reason for her being that I'm ugly – I'm literally deformed.

it's clear from what she says — and what she doesn't say also speaks volumes) — that she knows I can't get a gf, but hearing it from a parent is still brutal. I feel unwell now.

Kind of a cruel woman, whatever they'd be dead but look after yourself brother especially your money, you'd need it a lot more so just work something out. I don't mean successfull just be normal somewhat stable

 

[The Wolf]

Kind of a cruel woman, whatever they'd be dead but look after yourself brother especially your money, you'd need it a lot more so just work something out. I don't mean successfull just be normal somewhat stable

At least she does give me a very good allowance and buys groceries and cooks. I don’t have to work, I’m a half NEET doing my degree fully remote/online.
But that doesn’t really change my frustration for the future, that I’ll never feel the free touch of a woman, and while it’s legal where I’m from, I don’t want to fuck a sex prostitute for the time being. I want affection from a kind cute girl. Hell I’m a dreamer.

 

[PrototypeCel]

My father used to always do this (doesn't live here anymore), and now her (the first time in a few years).

I know I'm exceptionally ugly but such things just make me even more self-conscious/sad, actually hearing it from a parent (even if not on purpose and "in the heat of the moment"/a fiery discussion). Going outside and getting negative reactions (negative feedback-loop) from strangers also makes me sad and self-conscious but so does this.

my father always intentionally "slips up"
he whispers and says things about me just loud enough for me to hear but not loud enough for my mom to hear and i when i do bring it up my mom doesnt believe me
i feel like 99 percent of ppl would of roped by now if they were in my shoes
born with shitty genetics
born into toxic family
my life

 

[The Wolf]

my father always intentionally "slips up"
he whispers and says things about me just loud enough for me to hear but not loud enough for my mom to hear and i when i do bring it up my mom doesnt believe me
i feel like 99 percent of ppl would of roped by now if they were in my shoes
born with shitty genetics
born into toxic family
my life

holy shit, that's fucked up. with the genetics thing I was just unlucky af, my parents looked good when they made me 28 years ago, my sister looks good but my head and face just grew wrong, I look mentally retarded. Like someone with down-syndrome never has downy parents.

 

[despisedpaul]

my mom slips up too, it hurts knowing what she holds back

 

[The Wolf]

my mom slips up too, it hurts knowing what she holds back

how does she slip up?

 

[Spooky_Heejin]

My Mom straight up said "Just because you're ugly doesn't mean you should give up" during a heated argument with her about blackpill stuff.

 

[Yournotcold0]

>even your mom is admitting you're ugly
brutally over/10

 

[sk.feelsdevil]

Brutal. You really got fucked by life.

 

[FreeCipher]

my father always intentionally "slips up"
he whispers and says things about me just loud enough for me to hear but not loud enough for my mom to hear and i when i do bring it up my mom doesnt believe me
i feel like 99 percent of ppl would of roped by now if they were in my shoes
born with shitty genetics
born into toxic family
my life

Are you me bro? I already started contemplating roping when I was only 9 and almost went through with it when I was 15. My parents never slipped up with their disdain for me. My own mother called me "ugly" and my father even said while looking disappointed at me "I wonder if you are even my son, My blood son." The average person already drowns themselves in depression after only 1-6 months to 5 years of bad/toxic treatment at soul-crushing job so now imagine that same person in our shoes walking on eggshells around parents who make us feel like shit our whole lives? They would 100% rope before they even get to middle school.

 

[Fortress Resolution]

My father used to always do this (doesn't live here anymore), and now her (the first time in a few years).

I know I'm exceptionally ugly but such things just make me even more self-conscious/sad, actually hearing it from a parent (even if not on purpose and "in the heat of the moment"/a fiery discussion). Going outside and getting negative reactions (negative feedback-loop) from strangers also makes me sad and self-conscious but so does this

 

[TooSomething]

What did she say?

 

[TooSomething]

it was something about me wanting a gf and that she can't do anything about it. That I need to go "attack" my father and "not [her]" — (it's objectively his fault I'm ugly but I don't want to divulge why here), and in the heat of the moment, she said "your head"; she is obviously upset about my predicament and that I am not able to get a gf, she said "your head!" --- then after a 2-3 second pause corrected herself, "in your head, how you think, you're not normal, you don't eve go outside!" (tbf my father has a number of mental issues but that's not what she meant with "your head!" that was a clear slip-up. Also tbf she does a lot for me (buys groceries, cooks, I can live at home for free etc).

This is why I hate women. They are NEVER honest. Take advantage of her stupid ass. Leech off of her.
She deserves it.

 

[TooSomething]

you know, I can't even verbally defend myself properly. if I go too much out of line "I'm done", i.e. kicked out. I'm already in my late 20s and I'm on bloody thin ice

What about a job and getting your own place?

 

[TooSomething]

my father always intentionally "slips up"
he whispers and says things about me just loud enough for me to hear but not loud enough for my mom to hear and i when i do bring it up my mom doesnt believe me
i feel like 99 percent of ppl would of roped by now if they were in my shoes
born with shitty genetics
born into toxic family
my life

My father used to do the same shit. He liked to out me down, but I am now actually doing better than him, financially. LoL

Soon I will buy a car that is far better than his old junk. Kekekekekeke

He is weak.

 

[DefeatedIncel]

Brutal

 

[TooSomething]

My Mom straight up said "Just because you're ugly doesn't mean you should give up" during a heated argument with her about blackpill stuff.

FUAAAAAARK ... . I am sitting here with my parents and read this, barely able to not RAGE.

I felt that, man. I felt it.

 

[TooSomething]

Are you me bro? I already started contemplating roping when I was only 9 and almost went through with it when I was 15. My parents never slipped up with their disdain for me. My own mother called me "ugly" and my father even said while looking disappointed at me "I wonder if you are even my son, My blood son." The average person already drowns themselves in depression after only 1-6 months to 5 years of bad/toxic treatment at soul-crushing job so now imagine that same person in our shoes walking on eggshells around parents who make us feel like shit our whole lives? They would 100% rope before they even get to middle school.

My father has voiced such concern as well, when I was younger.
He was never proud of me either. Hahaha

Nowadays though, even Ii wonder whether I am his son.

I have the money, so eventually I will get it tested.

 

[The Wolf]

My father has voiced such concern as well, when I was younger.
He was never proud of me either. Hahaha

Nowadays though, even Ii wonder whether I am his son.

I have the money, so eventually I will get it tested.

can I ask how old you are ? I'm almost 28

 

[Lonelyus]

in the case of looks, you'd think so but not really in my case. I'm like someone with down-syndrome. the parents could look good but the offspring could still turn out differently.

Same, My brother mogs me in every way possible

 

[PrototypeCel]

My father used to do the same shit. He liked to out me down, but I am now actually doing better than him, financially. LoL

Soon I will buy a car that is far better than his old junk. Kekekekekeke

He is weak.

yeah maybe i should get back at him like that

 

[TooSomething]

can I ask how old you are ? I'm almost 28

37.