Experiment Is it possible to be happy without a girlfriend?

[Mortis]

We incels are missing out on an essential part of human existence, and those are things like love and intimacy. These social validations are a core element of a happy and healthy life, and the fact that the validation of sex (someone sharing their most vulnerable and intimate part with you trough not only sex, but also cuddling, kissing, caressing, etc...) is abstinent in an incels life makes it for me pretty clear that an incel can never truly be happy.

At the end of the day does it really matter how you try to be happy (cope)? You aren't going to feel any true happiness from it because of the aforementioned reasons. You can learn every skill and trade, be a billionaire in a lavish mansion, but if you have no one to share anything to at the end of the day, it really doesn't matter. This is why people would rather be poor with a happy and healthy family then be rich and all alone.

 

[Phosphorus]

Males need a significant other in order to be happy. Why else are we so fucking miserable? It's because we dont have it.

 

[VλREN]

I don’t know I am pretty miserable

 

[HONKLERedux]

yeah, if your chad

 

[TheJoker]

Society says: Incel... we made sure no female is attracted to you inkwell. Be happy in your
societal castration.

That doesn't wash with me.

 

[Incel TV]

We don’t need women to be happy we need better genetics

 

[Mortis]

Society says: Incel... we made sure no female is attracted to you inkwell. Be happy in your
societal castration.

That doesn't wash with me.

Based jokER

 

[Mortis]

Yes

Elaborate?

 

[Adolf Hitler]

It depends on what you mean by a girlfriend because polygamous Chads who have never had a long term girlfriend are definitely still happy. But I do agree it is basically impossible to be happy without true, non paid, intimacy.

 

[Fifita]

Having a GF ( never had one ) is only short term fix as she would cheat on me

 

[Truefaitholdorder]

Social interaction is so essential to happiness as human beings , we can only cope so much with hobbies.

 

[Quarantined]

I'm never happy but sometimes i'm not not happy,

 

[BornToLose]

Social interaction is so essential to happiness as human beings , we can only cope so much with hobbies.

 

[Autistic Uggo]

You might experience fleeting moments of joy, but you won't experience any long-term happiness or satisfaction. Daily life will usually be miserable and lonely. And even the pleasurable moments will feel quite hollow without a partner to enjoy them with.

 

[Mortis]

Social interaction is so essential to happiness as human beings , we can only cope so much with hobbies.

I can't overestimate it enough. Social interaction is VITAL. If you don't give babies attention, love and care they don't get sick or a little bit sad, they fucking die.

 

[Koomersarj]

Yes, a girlfriend actively makes your life worse. Can’t not realize that and claim to be blackpilled. Just listen to how sub-Chad normies speak about their experiences with women

What I would want is to be a Chad that can get intimacy on dial-up. Sure you might say “just go pay hookers, bro!” but those are garbage-tier STD-riddled women who won’t fuck you good. Plus the social validation aspect you mentioned isn’t there

Of course, this is me describing the life I would find ideal. Even a girlfriend-having normie who gets starfish sex once a year mogs a gigasubhuman like me. But if I were to have the best life I could think of it would not involve a girlfriend or cohabitating with a woman in any capacity

 

[Mortis]

I could think of it would not involve a girlfriend or cohabitating with a woman in any capacity

 

[Koomersarj]

Yes, it's possible to be happy despite having no one that loves you at the end of the day​

I assume you listed this whilst perceiving it as a completely outlandish opinion but is it really? If you’re getting everything you want in life who tf cares if anyone loves you or not.

This is also why I’m iffy about richfags who fuck more women than Chad in his prime via escortmaxxing like @/ADHD_cel being here, cause they just cannot relate to the misery of someone like you or I

 

[Koomersarj]

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You can’t claim to be blackpilled on female nature and think that such a living situation would improve your life in any way. Normie men will always walk on eggshells, beat around the bush etc. to avoid admitting this directly but even they know the only value a gf provides is her holes

 

[Mortis]

Yes, a girlfriend actively makes your life worse. Can’t not realize that and claim to be blackpilled. Just listen to how sub-Chad normies speak about their experiences with women

What I would want is to be a Chad that can get intimacy on dial-up. Sure you might say “just go pay hookers, bro!” but those are garbage-tier STD-riddled women who won’t fuck you good. Plus the social validation aspect you mentioned isn’t there

Of course, this is me describing the life I would find ideal. Even a girlfriend-having normie who gets starfish sex once a year mogs a gigasubhuman like me. But if I were to have the best life I could think of it would not involve a girlfriend or cohabitating with a woman in any capacity

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[LostSoulUK]

Its also the social validation you get from it which is more important than the love and affection. A girlfriend gives you access to activities, hanging out, going for a nice meal, the cinema, nice holidays and so forth. Sure you can do this shit regardless but who seriously wants to do this on their own like a fuckin loser.

 

[Autistic Uggo]

Social interaction is so essential to happiness as human beings , we can only cope so much with hobbies.

I can't overestimate it enough. Social interaction is VITAL. If you don't give babies attention, love and care they don't get sick or a little bit sad, they fucking die.

Social isolation is devastating for your health.

Prolonged Social Isolation and Loneliness are Equivalent to Smoking 15 Cigarettes A Day

Understanding social isolation and loneliness in older adults.

extension.unh.edu

 

[Spyro]

Not really. It's off and on because it's like a break from all the drama, but we're wired to the touch of intimacy. And hormones are no joke. You need sex to ultimately burn steam.

 

[Koomersarj]

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Where are you getting the idea that they get tired of it? Look at the stats dude, 3rd world deathnic countries are breeding way more than these hypersexual giga competitive Anglosphere and Euro nations

Even within Anglosphere and Euro nations it’s once again deathnics doing all the breeding. Aryan Chad and his SSRI whores unironically never settle down, they just keep fucking and drinking and popping pills until it eventually kills them.

To address another thing you said, this emphasis on monogamy is ironically more of a recent development than the Miami Beach lifestyle you mentioned. Prior to Abrahamic tradcuckery spreading everywhere, societies were actually much more in favor of promiscuity (though not nearly as much as today), like in Graeco-Roman times. Heck, even in those tradcucked societies men who could sleep around did just that. Shah Jahan, the muslim curry mogger who erected an entire mausoleum to his wife, often used as a symbol of premodern romance? Also had relations with around 7,000 women total in his lifetime. This type of extreme promiscuity was common amongst the likes of muslim sultans and mongol kings, and even Christian leaders had their concubines.

 

[ElTruecel]

Yes if you are below 30 and legit have a good upbringing, nt and have good genetics/talents you will be happy. Now you will hit an age well if you’re not a complete faggot you’ll desire a family and yes then you will care about not having a gf.

But for the most part no most of us including YOU have other problems than muhhh not getting a gf tbh

 

[Mortis]

But for the most part no most of us including YOU have other problems than muhhh not getting a gf tbh

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[ElTruecel]

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Bro JFL I have my mother for the first part. Also I honestly did have a post saying getting a gf would fix my problems honestly no it won’t (and even when I made that post I knew that but overall I made it cuz I was depressed over some stuff). I do want to feel intimacy with someone of my age I do want to feel love with a peer of my age and experience a relationship. But man ngl this is a cope man fuck a bitch dude women are legit retarded and having a gf would probably get annoying after a while.

Also I’m 18 realistically ID want a family but a gf isn’t a family. Your first gf won’t be waiting for you at home you’d see her at school/college and meet her up after classes. A family is something different I want a family a gf like I’m going to be honest won’t fix my problems. Damn I wish my only problem was not having a gf mayne

 

[Mortis]

Where are you getting the idea that they get tired of it? Look at the stats dude, 3rd world deathnic countries are breeding way more than these hypersexual giga competitive Anglosphere and Euro nations

Even within Anglosphere and Euro nations it’s once again deathnics doing all the breeding. Aryan Chad and his SSRI whores unironically never settle down, they just keep fucking and drinking and popping pills until it eventually kills them.

To address another thing you said, this emphasis on monogamy is ironically more of a recent development than the Miami Beach lifestyle you mentioned. Prior to Abrahamic tradcuckery spreading everywhere, societies were actually much more in favor of promiscuity (though not nearly as much as today), like in Graeco-Roman times. Heck, even in those tradcucked societies men who could sleep around did just that. Shah Jahan, the muslim curry mogger who erected an entire mausoleum to his wife, often used as a symbol of premodern romance? Also had relations with around 7,000 women total in his lifetime. This type of extreme promiscuity was common amongst the likes of muslim sultans and mongol kings, and even Christian leaders had their concubines.

View: https://voca.ro/1iSkWB2AxuJ8

 

[Mecoja]

I don't think that you can, especially later when you're supposed to have kids and stuff.

 

[Mortis]

Bro JFL I have my mother for the first part. Also I honestly did have a post saying getting a gf would fix my problems honestly no it won’t (and even when I made that post I knew that but overall I made it cuz I was depressed over some stuff). I do want to feel intimacy with someone of my age I do want to feel love with a peer of my age and experience a relationship. But man ngl this is a cope man fuck a bitch dude women are legit retarded and having a gf would probably get annoying after a while.

Also I’m 18 realistically ID want a family but a gf isn’t a family. Your first gf won’t be waiting for you at home you’d see her at school/college and meet her up after classes. A family is something different I want a family a gf like I’m going to be honest won’t fix my problems. Damn I wish my only problem was not having a gf mayne

View: https://voca.ro/1ma6FS3FYyBT

 

[Fat Link]

We incels are missing out on an essential part of human existence, and those are things like love and intimacy. These social validations are a core element of a happy and healthy life, and the fact that the validation of sex (someone sharing their most vulnerable and intimate part with you trough not only sex, but also cuddling, kissing, caressing, etc...) is abstinent in an incels life makes it for me pretty clear that an incel can never truly be happy.

At the end of the day does it really matter how you try to be happy (cope)? You aren't going to feel any true happiness from it because of the aforementioned reasons. You can learn every skill and trade, be a billionaire in a lavish mansion, but if you have no one to share anything to at the end of the day, it really doesn't matter. This is why people would rather be poor with a happy and healthy family then be rich and all alone.

1 Corinthians 13 1If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.

 

[Mortis]

1 Corinthians 13 1If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.

Absolutely true. @ElTruecel

 

[PurgatoryPass]

Having a GF ( never had one ) is only short term fix as she would cheat on me

basically being a normie

 

[Koomersarj]

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“The wall” is a redpill cope. Thought that was clear to most of us by now. Look at the tinder experiments, grannies literally slay on dating apps. Women will ride the cock carousel as long as they can. Maybe some will experience baby fever and feel like starting a family but idk maybe that’s another thing birth control pills are getting in the way of, given the sheer percentage of childless foids in these matriarchal hypergamous societies

And for the second part of what you said, it backs up my point. Men are supposed to be promiscuous, aka we have no real need for a monogamous relationship. Not even for the supposedly stable household it provides for child-rearing, since a female dog could raise a child better than a foid could.

Want companionship? A pet will shower you with way more affection than any foid. Even having someone to cook and clean is hardly a reason to get a foid since men and foids are expected to go 50/50 on that nowadays (since foids work jobs too).

A gf provides nothing but hole access. That’s not a cope to say, ironically it’s an anti-cope. It’s facing the reality that fairy tail dream relationships don’t exist, and that they’re all built on superficiality rooted in primal sexual attraction. Aka the point of the BP

 

[Mortis]

“The wall” is a redpill cope. Thought that was clear to most of us by now. Look at the tinder experiments, grannies literally slay on dating apps. Women will ride the cock carousel as long as they can. Maybe some will experience baby fever and feel like starting a family but idk maybe the birth control pills are getting in the way of that, given the sheer percentage of childless foids in these matriarchal hypergamous societies

I definitely don't think people are lining up to fuck 40 year olds (maybe oofy doofies but definitely not chads)

And for the second part of what you said it backs up my point. Men are supposed to be promiscuous, aka we have no real need for a monogamous relationship. Not even for the supposedly stable household it provides for child-rearing, since a female dog could

It's about the emotional connection you have with one foid and one foid only. That isn't going away once you platonically fuck another foid.

raise a child better than a foid could.

Want companionship? A pet will shower you with way more affection than any foid. Even having someone to cook and clean is hardly a reason to get a foid since men and foids are expected to go 50/50 on that nowadays (since foids work jobs too).

i dont think you can compare the affection a pet would give you to anything a human ever could show you.

A gf provides nothing but hole access. That’s not a cope to say, ironically it’s an anti-cope. It’s facing the reality that fairy tail dream relationships literally don’t exist at all, aka the whole point of the BP. It’s all just superficiality rooted in primal sexual attraction

Is there reaaaaally nothing out there called "love"? I know pERsonality is a meme but once you get past a certain looks threshold maybe <6.5 and you have a genuine compatible personality with the person your dating, a stronger connection would follow? Am I just heavy on the copium or will chad truly always win?

 

[ElTruecel]

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No finding a gf would not fix any most of my problems. The few ones that are fixable I would try to fix IF and I mean big IF I managed to ascend.

Plus you forget the other hassles of having gf ofc I want to cuddle with a qt foid. I also ofc do want some comfort from my foid however there’s still some things you have to worry about.

1. If I have to ascend with one who isn’t a landwhale ofc there will be normies chasing her. If there’s normies chasing her i ofc have to stand up for myself and not take that disrespect.

2. Honestly having a foid text you everyday and get mad when you don’t respond is retarded. I suck at replying on time and for example if she were to do calls I would only like them at night.

3. She’s still a woman and overall i know personality is a giga meme but bro idk if I could manage a Ltr. I have certain interests and it isn’t vidya or anime that a foid nowadays could get into. It legit is giga non NT and idk if it’d properly work.


Anyways maybe these are copers whatever it doesn’t matter I’ve kinda gave up on hoping for ascension + I like solitude now that I’m more used to it

 

[Koomersarj]

Ask yourself this, in what way would a foid substantially improve your life as it is now? Would she take you out of NEETdom? Would one more person in your life really alleviate your loneliness (look at how many married middle-aged men rope due to feeling isolated)?

What you probably need is a better living situation and a social circle. I know cause that’s what I need too.

A foid won’t get me out of this shitty ethnic household, they’ll just give me another source of nagging and drama besides my insufferable family.

I can’t vent my problems and open up to a foid since she would literally lose respect and attraction for me if I did so, but I could probably do that with a good friend.

The more I think about it, inceldom really is a self-contained problem. It’s a lack of intimacy and nothing more than that. Hence why it’s hard for me to see myself as having a common experience with friendhavers, NTs, and other such people in this community beyond that very basic issue of inceldom

 

[shishiowasright]

I think so. Having more money would alleviate a lot of my issues, whereas a toilet is just that: a toilet.

 

[Koomersarj]

I definitely don't think people are lining up to fuck 40 year olds (maybe oofy doofies but definitely not chads)

Tinder experiments would indicate otherwise, but you’re right that it’s normies not Chads

i dont think you can compare the affection a pet would give you to anything a human ever could show you.

Indeed, because the animal loves you unconditionally, the human loves you if you provide something

Is there reaaaaally nothing out there called "love"? I know pERsonality is a meme but once you get past a certain looks threshold maybe <6.5 and you have a genuine compatible personality with the person your dating, a stronger connection would follow? Am I just heavy on the copium or will chad truly always win?

“Love” like what couples feel in the honeymoon phase is entirely primal sexual shit. That’s why there’s sayings like “absence makes the heart grow fonder”. It’s reliant on both of you keeping up an idealized illusion of what you really are in each other’s heads. That’s also why you’ll see normies say shit like “wait 5 days before you text her back, bro!”

The familial love you see a husband and wife share for each other seems like something entirely different, something gained through exposure just like a child’s love for its nuclear family. Life isn’t like a Disney movie or romance anime, and that’s an even more brutal blackpill for a lot of people to swallow than the idea that they’re not missing out on much romantically.

 

[Mortis]

Ask yourself this, in what way would a foid substantially improve your life as it is now? Would she take you out of NEETdom? Would one more person in your life really alleviate your loneliness (look at how many married middle-aged men rope due to feeling isolated)?

What you probably need is a better living situation and a social circle. I know cause that’s what I need too.

A foid won’t get me out of this shitty ethnic household, they’ll just give me another source of nagging and drama besides my insufferable family.

I can’t vent my problems and open up to a foid since she would literally lose respect and attraction for me if I did so, but I could probably do that with a good friend.

The more I think about it, inceldom really is a self-contained problem. It’s a lack of intimacy and nothing more than that. Hence why it’s hard for me to see myself as having a common experience with friendhavers, NTs, and other such people in this community beyond that very basic issue of inceldom

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[NeverEvenBegan]

I don't think so.

I think most of us ended up on this forum precisely due to the lack of intimacy, affection, sex, validation from women.

 

[zerozerozero]

Yes

least bluepilled 2023cel

 

[XDFLAMEBOY]

We incels are missing out on an essential part of human existence, and those are things like love and intimacy. These social validations are a core element of a happy and healthy life, and the fact that the validation of sex (someone sharing their most vulnerable and intimate part with you trough not only sex, but also cuddling, kissing, caressing, etc...) is abstinent in an incels life makes it for me pretty clear that an incel can never truly be happy.

At the end of the day does it really matter how you try to be happy (cope)? You aren't going to feel any true happiness from it because of the aforementioned reasons. You can learn every skill and trade, be a billionaire in a lavish mansion, but if you have no one to share anything to at the end of the day, it really doesn't matter. This is why people would rather be poor with a happy and healthy family then be rich and all alone.

It's true, I'm always craving for romance and this sucks

 

[Hikikomori_cel]

No, unless you're a billionaire who can afford to bang stacy escorts daily.

 

[bus27jihad]

You can't go against biology

 

[Logic55]

It's possible to be happy without a gf but it will take an insane amount of coping to go through life

 

[LeFrenchCel]

It's possible, albeit very hard

 

[UnluckyCell]

Yes, being a chad that fucks one different Stacy each weekend

 

[CopingForBrutality]

I don't believe 'happiness' exists, I believe fulfilment does and in this case it's possible, but it depends on other factors of your life such as how much money you earn and what your beliefs are.

Female validation is not valuable to me, 'love' doesn't exist and neither does 'happiness'. If you get a girlfriend tomorrow you will feel the same as you are now after a few months because of the hedonic treadmill, the hedonic treadmill is only not abided by when you are immensely suffering and the suffering is fixed, for example if you earn a very low income and get a million dollars, that increase in money will fix your mental health, but going from one million to two million dollars hardly makes a difference to long term psychological impact. But not having a girlfriend does not count as immense suffering. There is of course the case you could make that normies bullying you for being sub5 is suffering but again there are many ways to avoid and minimise this to a point where it would not classify as suffering that impacts long term psychological health. This hedonic treadmill principle is pretty much why I don't believe happiness exists.

You think Chad cares about 'love' and the similar related blue-pilled concepts when he is pumping and dumping foids? Despite not, he is seemingly the person that everyone wants to be. Everyone wants to become like Chad because lets be real here, it gets boring dealing with the same woman again and again, you don't fap to the same porn all the time, it switches from week to week and this is what Chad does when he is chasing the pump and dump dopamine rush. He is simply abiding by the nature of the brain, that true happiness can't be attained, the individual unknowingly tries entertain their brain with as much stimuli as possible thinking it would make them fulfilled in the long term not knowing that it makes zero effects to the long term gain, that is why Chads pump and dump.

 

[Incline]

We incels are missing out on an essential part of human existence, and those are things like love and intimacy. These social validations are a core element of a happy and healthy life, and the fact that the validation of sex (someone sharing their most vulnerable and intimate part with you trough not only sex, but also cuddling, kissing, caressing, etc...) is abstinent in an incels life makes it for me pretty clear that an incel can never truly be happy.

At the end of the day does it really matter how you try to be happy (cope)? You aren't going to feel any true happiness from it because of the aforementioned reasons. You can learn every skill and trade, be a billionaire in a lavish mansion, but if you have no one to share anything to at the end of the day, it really doesn't matter. This is why people would rather be poor with a happy and healthy family then be rich and all alone.

No

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